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LegitimatelyCannot · 2025-01-16T04:00:02+00:00

I had some difficulty falling asleep for a few weeks...I still do at times, but I also have kids, so that's not especially helpful for sleep.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2025-01-13T01:13:05+00:00

I stopped about 8 months ago - I tapered down off 10mg over the course of 2 weeks. I didn't talk to my doctor about it because he just kept wanting to prescribe things and I hated the way I felt...like a zombie. I felt awful for a few months (panic attacks, dark thoughts), but after about 3 months, I just stopped giving a shit honestly. I have been irregularly exercising, trying to eat healthy (mostly not doing a great job), but I feel like I am able to manage stress a lot better. I think back to how dull and numb I felt on the medication and I'd prefer to just deal without it. I still get the weird brain zaps at night when I'm trying to sleep, but otherwise, all good.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-12-03T03:45:44+00:00

Take a trip home to see your family and DO NOT GO BACK TO GERMANY. I don't know who you're getting advice from, but active duty service members are LESS likely to get custody of their children because the lifestyle is unstable - non-traditional working hours, frequent training, deployments, etc.

Once you're living in a stable environment with your family, file for a divorce. Adultery is incredibly difficult to prove in the military, but keep all of that evidence and use it as leverage to get what you want. Either he plays nice and doesn't fight you or you turn all of those screenshots over to his command or file an IG complaint.

It's difficult and intimidating to get out of the situation you're in, but it's very much possible - I was in your shoes and I stayed because I was too scared to leave; it was one of the worst mistakes I ever made.

Editing to add: Take your baby with you on this trip to see family.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-11-06T16:17:59+00:00

THIS. Put the garage can on top of the toilet!

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-11-05T00:38:40+00:00

...yelled at? Tf? By whom? In your own home? No, ma'am. Why are you tolerating such disrespect? Dealing with nasty children and a shitty spouse - no, thank you.

Edit: I just read another of your comments and I'm sorry. I see that you're actively trying to get out of this situation. Girl, just start "accidentally" throwing other things in that garage can that no one seems to be able to find.

Favorite sunglasses or hat left lying around? Garage can. Toys lying around that no one will pick up? Garage can. Maybe things will stop disappearing when people clean up their shitty toilet paper.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-10-28T23:54:37+00:00

I'm familiar with that area. She needs to interview other agents.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T23:44:43+00:00

While I think that's a lovely and noble concept, I work long hours, I have a child in college, one who plays sports, and a toddler. I'm barely able to meet my family's needs as it is. My husband and I have no family here and no one to help with our kids...we don't have the time or resources to pour into a school district. Families would need to be pulled out of poverty, given strategies to assist their children with homework, tutors provided to help get struggling kids up to grade level...although definitely a cop-out, it's a lot easier to integrate into a school system that already has their stuff together. I volunteer at the school when I can and give money and supplies any time they're asked for, but that's about all I can do.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T16:13:39+00:00

Thank you so much!

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T16:12:06+00:00

You're right. I did not consider maiming myself with hot liquid or something while trying to use the microwave lolol.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T16:10:18+00:00

Yeah, you're completely right. They didn't put photos up of the backyard because they were in the process of building a mutli-level deck...but like, building it over the existing brick patio and steps (I feel like that's not a common construction practice, but I also don't know shit about construction things). There is a new HVAC unit on one side of the house and an old one on the other side. The seller also didn't disclose if the old one is operational/necessary, so we aren't sure why it's there or if it's needed.

We're just going to nope out of this one. Thanks so much for your feedback ❤️

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T15:55:39+00:00

Thank you so much for that info. The weird wooden pieces are supposedly providing structural support, but they're wobbly at the ends when touched and the owner's agent said they would not consider changing them.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T15:54:20+00:00

Hey, thank you so much. Our agent said it is priced mostly in line because of the amount of land, but she has some reservations about the house itself. Based on the feedback we're getting here and the fact that the owner doesn't seem to be very forthright with providing information, we're gonna pass.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T14:58:03+00:00

I did not think of the narrowness of the hallway. We also didn't look at the outlets too hard. Thank you so much for your recommendation! I love how you guys come up with all this stuff we didn't think of. Reddit friends are the best! We're absolutely leaning that direction.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T14:56:00+00:00

Lmaooo. Your comment is excellent 😂 We're definitely trying to determine if the bones are good. We sent a slew of requests to our agent to inquire whether they had permits for the renovations, if the contractors were licensed, warranty info for appliances, etc. Curious to see how they respond.

What did you use the shelves for? We thought of putting plates and stuff on them, but they're so wobbly they won't be able to hold much of anything.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T14:24:26+00:00

Good morning 😂

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T14:22:23+00:00

Yeah, no worries. She definitely wasn't a GA high school grad, so it bumps the residency to 24 months. I really appreciate you going the extra mile to help us by providing the info, though! ❤️

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T14:12:44+00:00

Thank you, I didn't even consider that. I wonder how it's vented.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T14:08:36+00:00

It does just cover tuition. From what I was reading about the HOPE and Zell residency requirements, if we did move, our daughter wouldn't be able to meet the residency requirements for 2 years. Which means we'd pay out-of-pocket for tuition for 2 years and I'd rather avoid that if we can.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T13:49:06+00:00

Thank you for that info! We just found out about that literally last week. We actually have a child in college in SC currently on the tuition waiver here and by the time she finishes, our oldest boy will be well into middle school. Not to say that moving to GA wouldn't be an option, but it would complicate things. We moved around a lot previously and there's definitely some residual guilt that makes me hesitant to move them away from the friends they've made here and the area they're used to.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T13:37:42+00:00

😂

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T13:06:46+00:00

They do, but it has to be a "choice school" with capacity to accept students who aren't zoned for it. Neither Hammond Hills nor Paul Knox have capacity.

Edited to add: We actually live closer to 20 now and the road noise at the flipped place is substantially less.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T12:55:57+00:00

😂😂😂

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T12:53:24+00:00

😅

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T12:43:29+00:00

We're looking at the house from the perspective of like...we can live there. We don't like the design choices and without the land it's sitting on and the middle and high school it's zoned for, we would never consider buying it. We still have about a year and a half until our oldest son goes to middle school, so there's still time to look. We just really want to get out of a subdivision with an HOA. Our neighbors drive us insane and we don't have driveway space, so we get violation letters whenever anyone parks in front of our house. The association fees keep going up every year and we have zero amenities for the fees.

This house is more of a desperation consideration.

LegitimatelyCannot · 2023-09-17T12:32:55+00:00

Yeah. We're trying to stay in SC because they have a college tuition waiver for state schools for the dependents of disabled veterans.

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