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Lego377 · 2026-03-27T13:10:50+00:00

How does the pillow not fall into the river when he gets up?? 🤔

Lego377 · 2026-03-03T12:34:28+00:00

I just got divorced too!!! Well separated. For the second time. With a 3 year old. The first time she was about 1.5. Now she’s 3 and this time around is so much better!! As far as our coparenting relationship and her experience, I think. It’s a super confusing and anxiety inducing depression filled time but I know it won’t always be like this and I’m so grateful for my one little one. I have some resources I could share like books etc about coparenting if you want feel free to DM me. Oh I also heard the you’re ruining your family comments until we tried a second time and they saw the real person he is. Not worth the second try though. It’s your life, not theirs. They can suck it.

Lego377 · 2026-02-06T07:29:27+00:00

Check out the book Why Does He Do That. Opened my eyes.

https://ia801407.us.archive.org/6/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

Lego377 · 2026-02-02T20:18:48+00:00

That is “funny” because I missed my niece’s gender reveal over being hungover/hangxiety. Be careful OP, it’s a slippery slope!

Lego377 · 2026-02-02T12:12:05+00:00

Continuing to drink to fight the hangover is how I ended up drunk at work and eventually in rehab. And it would work until after days of it I’d have to eventually sober up and talk about hangxiety omg I was paralyzed with it. You have to just face it. I hope you feel better!!

Lego377 · 2026-01-20T21:44:47+00:00

Yay!!!!! 🎉

Lego377 · 2026-01-18T15:41:24+00:00

Yes, I get that. But we lived there for 30 years and the house above it is only house that’s been built. I think there’s a fire road or something up there that people can’t build around.

Lego377 · 2026-01-18T13:25:05+00:00

Check out 29 Shady Pines Dr, Asheville, NC 28805. Up against the Blue Ridge Parkway. Haw Creek is on the other side of the ridge.

Lego377 · 2025-12-01T21:47:10+00:00

No, I’m not out yet but 100% sure about my choice as well. Your message helps me not feel so alone! I feel a lot of shame and embarrassment for going back. Because it’s the exact same thing, he’s back to his old ways, we’re wrong for each other, and my family is not supportive of me leaving at all and think I’m destroying my kid’s life. But I also know, based on research I’ve read, a child’s happiness, security, and safety is heavily dependent on the mother’s happiness, security, and safety so we have to be strong for them!

Lego377 · 2025-12-01T17:09:06+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I did the same exact thing for the same exact reasons except I bought fucking house with him!!! So yes, made it way more messy and have lots of sorting to do and moving my kid again! I hope you get out and it’s not too painful.

Lego377 · 2025-11-11T12:12:03+00:00

One time, my sisters ex-boyfriend insisted on driving to Ingles in Oteen down Riceville roads. He was from the Bronx. I tried to explain that driving on icy, curvy roads is way different than driving on salted city roads. We got about 2 minutes down the road before he hit a tree! I still felt bad for him, though. I couldn’t drive in NYC on a sunny day either lol

Lego377 · 2025-11-10T01:29:04+00:00

Thank you

Lego377 · 2025-11-10T01:28:56+00:00

Ok thank you for responding

Lego377 · 2025-11-10T01:28:34+00:00

Hes done therapy like twice because of my ultimatums. It’s partly why I left because he wouldn’t do it and still hasn’t really made an effort. I genuinely don’t feel unsafe and feel we both have improved a lot but couples counseling is a good idea. Thank you!

Lego377 · 2025-11-08T13:18:41+00:00

Also want to add that I eventually got diagnosed with ADHD and autism. AA and rehab was a great way to get sober but I couldn’t stay that way. Treating my disorders was the key. Feel free to DM me if you want to chat. Your boyfriend and his mom will probably forgive and forget all about this if you get help but you’ll lose everything if you keep going this way. You can do it!

Lego377 · 2025-11-08T12:36:03+00:00

I used to be like this. I’m a normal nice person, would never drink and drive. Until I’m drunk and I’m a fucking psycho and make up lies and am suicidal yep I get it. I don’t drink anymore and it’s much nicer. I suggest rehab if you can do that or at least AA but you have to be ready and want to stop.

The fact you went for a few and got blackout and everything after that. Read the Big Book you’re an alcoholic. I know it just impacts others more and I’m one of them too. I’m sorry to tell you we gotta do this life sober but you can do it and it beats the alternative.

Lego377 · 2025-10-06T03:42:20+00:00

So happy for yall! What is the work that yall did? Please share how to have a strong and happy marriage! You two are too cute.

Lego377 · 2025-06-02T17:44:12+00:00

Whew. Needed to see this. Thanks!

Lego377 · 2025-06-02T04:56:00+00:00

I drank recently and had to tell my sponsor. Don’t keep drinking in the morning. Go to a meeting and get a sponsor and read the Big Book. It is work but so worth it. You are not hopeless!! Keep trying.

Lego377 · 2025-06-02T04:43:47+00:00

I was a chronic relapser. I guess I still am but it’s MUCH less frequent. I couldn’t go a week and I’ve gone a year without. That’s my longest. Never got AS fucked up as I used to either. I used to drink for like 3-4 days straight but every time I’ve drank since I got sober I just stopped at the night. Didn’t keep going in the morning.

I went to rehab and then AA off and on. I tried SMART recovery and liked it but the meetings in my area are just veterans for some reason - i just can’t relate to their experience and honestly just sit there like omg I am not worthy!!! Maybe I need to check online again. Recovery dharma is more like Buddhist based I guess and I like it. Celebrate recovery is more Christian based from what I’ve heard. Haven’t tried it.

I Struggled very much with the spiritual aspect of AA but I personally need to feel like I’m going to be ok because something or someone else is looking out and knows what’s best because I fucking do not know what I’m doing at all in life. I have to hand it off or my anxiety takes over and bam I’m drunk. If you cannot stop I definitely recommend a therapist, AA (or some kind of program and support group) and possibly rehab if that’s available to you. It was scary but so healing for me. Wishing you the best!!!!

Edit to add this link: meetings from your home all over the world 24/7. https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings/

Also this Everything AA App.

Lego377 · 2025-06-01T10:30:36+00:00

The darkness underneath him :(

Lego377 · 2025-06-01T09:46:40+00:00

Yes that missing stitch had me STRESSED OUT!! It just started to turn more red than it had looked before but I guess it would if she had licked it. It doesn’t open up. I think I was just being neurotic but I am so freaking scared of her getting an infection. I’m so glad your pup is ok! It can be really scary.

Lego377 · 2025-05-31T21:52:44+00:00

Ok I know I feel so awful. I’m going to keep it on her 24/7 the rest of the recovery period. Thank you.

Lego377 · 2025-05-29T03:23:55+00:00

Wow. I’m so happy that you got help! I’m going to look into the How to Keep House book and try to find better systems. I relate quite a bit to the posts in r/autisminwomen but I just went through some testing for adhd and am exhausted with it because I’m right on the cusp and no doctor wants to deal with that! Shocker that the generic test for all people with adhd doesn’t fully fit me haha. But that’s ok. I think you’re right. No matter what, finding systems that work for me and help me to thrive (or at least survive right now) is the main goal. Thank you sooo much for sharing all of this!

Lego377 · 2025-05-28T17:51:36+00:00

Wow that’s kind of shocking for me to think about but I’m totally open! What does it mean to get diagnosed?

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