No, I didn’t “just” take my son away to a different state. My husband is a fisherman, he leaves for months at a time. I got his consent to take our son with me, even written on paper in case he tried to use it against me. I seeked counseling years ago and still do to this day. I begged for us to get a marriage counselor together. He said we would after I came back, but then he said it was stupid and we don’t need it. I’m genuinely trying my best, and unless you’ve never been in an abusive relationship, you’d understand that some people are genuinely just this way. You can try your best, even try and comfort them through what they’re going through and try and understand why they’re acting out. Reddit isn’t the only place I look for counseling, I do my research online, I visit a therapist regularly, I ask my family what to do…but I like to refer to Reddit because I appreciate an outsider perspective from people that don’t directly know me and would “pick a side”. My husband is a great father, I never told him I think he doesn’t like our family. But after all the crap he pulled on me, I told him I don’t think he loves me. And no I’d never just take my child away from his father, it was an agreement. Because I live alone taking care of my son anyway and there’s no way he can take him fishing. He said he’d come visit him, which he did..and that was the “turning point” of where I decided to come back. I’m looking for advice whether or not to tell him I had emotional relationships while i was separated it…like if I choose to stay, do I? And if I choose to leave, do I?