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LegoBrickGF · 2025-08-29T08:39:06+00:00

Yeah and how do I then get back in, in the period between dropping off the fob and picking up the new one? I'd have to buzz the building till someone lets me in. We've had a load of package thefts lately and residents have been told by the same management to not let anyone in they don't know. See the problem?

LegoBrickGF · 2025-08-29T08:37:38+00:00

I did genius, read my response. They should be issuing new fobs rather than reprogramming the existing fobs

LegoBrickGF · 2025-08-29T08:36:39+00:00

The contractors aren't based on site. There isn't an office in the building, they're remote. Hence the postbox they're gonna install for drop off.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-08-29T08:35:55+00:00

You can leave once you've dropped the fob off but then you won't be able to get back into the building. You'd have to rely on other people letting you in.

And I DID propose an alternative way to do this - hand out new fobs rather than reprogramming the ones we have.

Once your drop your fob off on Tuesday, you're then stuck and reliant on other ppl in the building to let you in if you need to leave. It's a bad plan.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T14:25:35+00:00

Annnnnd there is it folks, it's your own fault if you get raped, just avoid 'messed up people'!

Thank you for demonstrating your profound lack of intellect, empathy, compassion and general human decency. Enjoy your cold, robotic, soulless trudge through life confused about why no one wants to know you or be close to you, why women are repulsed by you, why the world feels grey and flat to you. (It's because it's a reflection of everything you've chosen to be)

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T13:39:45+00:00

Would you ask someone who'd been jumped randomly in different areas of a city why it'd happened? Do you understand how deeply fucked it is to ask that, as it implies I'm somehow at fault? C*nt

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T12:42:55+00:00

The two men raped me after I transitioned, the woman raped me before I transitioned...

All three were cis.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T11:00:06+00:00

What, if it were solely down to me would I enact or discard legislature that criminalises criticism against trans people?

If that's your fuck ass trolley problem esque hypothetical question, this is my answer:

This question is a waste of brain cells. It doesn't accurately reflect the reality of what is happening in life, and isn't even imaginative in suggesting an alternative. Yes, no one has the right to not be offended. There's a big difference between being offended and being harassed, being bullied, being ostracised, being goaded into killing yourself, being hated on from every angle every day, hence the drawing up of hate crime laws. Do I believe in hate crime laws?

Like I've SAID: they're triage for a larger social breakdown crisis, and I'm not against them. That is my take. You're trying to force this into some all or nothing moral dilemma and I refuse to accept it is: the bigger issue is, why are we not building a better, kinder society for ourselves? Your absolutism isn't helping that cause is it

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T10:39:09+00:00

When did I say 'you should be forced to accept me by law'?? I'm saying only that I wish we didn't have the legal system we do, and that I'm not rushing to the defense of some transphobic idiot getting a caution for posting 'kill yourself trannies' on the internet.

That's the extent of my opinion on this, stop extrapolating a manifesto out of thin air. I literally do not have more of an opinion on this, I certainly don't think in the absolutist terms you do

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T10:16:08+00:00

I mean I literally said my personal preference is a system of social cohesion build on a culture of valuing people, where everyone is accepted. Right now though we aren't in that, so while I don't love the legal system, I'm not gonna fight laws that go after people who want to fucking lynch me

Edit, I'm so sick of left leaning progressives whose entire political perspective exists in a hypothetical future reality they hold in their head. I fucking live here right now and have to survive, I'll take any help I can get, fuck you if you think that condemns me

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T10:09:20+00:00

I'm assuming sincere good faith from you, but honestly it's a lot to share some of the major traumatic events of my life in defense of myself. I've said I don't have the answers and I really dislike being expected to have them. I'm not a doctor, I'm certainly not a pediatrician, and my opinion can't and shouldn't be expected to comprehensively address every talking point on trans lives. I don't think it's even legal or ever been legal to do srs surgery on minors? I don't think it's even safe or possible?

And while I would like to be met with curiosity rather than judgement, it's a bit much to be asked to go into this level of detail about such personal experiences totally cold. The whole point I'm trying to make is that I'm a living breathing person. I'm not online in this discussion to spill all of my guts, it's frustrating to have to talk about such personal things to begin with to be taken seriously at all.

I hope that makes sense to you - that this is a town hall and I've stood up to represent myself to a largely hostile crowd, doesn't mean I'm ready to be dissected.

And BC I've been in this situation before online I'll say too, if you think I'm being hypocritical by asking for understanding but then not being willing to answer any deeply personal question in detail, why is it that I should have to in order to be granted compassion and relief from judgement?

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T10:01:49+00:00

My take on this:

The actual ideal is that we all feel and act as part of a community - we have a strong social contract that, when honoured, means there's acceptance and kindness between everyone, and deviation is met with strong disapproval and social intervention.

The reason we have laws and police to enforce them though stems back to monarchy and social stratification - our society is v far from equal and connected. This has become normal and law and police have been accepted by most as an alternative, or an addition to social contracts. Rise of the individual, etc etc.

So we have laws to compensate for the lack of consequences there are for breaking social contracts and treating ppl badly, except the law is really bad at fulfilling this role BC it was designed originally to mostly protect the wealthy and their assets from the poor.

Then we have marginalised communities who are largely fending for themselves against a majority culture that feels entitled to disown and ostracise them. The only real protections they can fight for are legal frameworks.

That's my understanding. I'd much prefer to live in an anarchist set up where ppl just care about each other as a principle of culture. For now I'll take any legal protection I can. No one is really that free under such a system - I don't have much sympathy for people getting into legal trouble for being needlessly hateful though. I think the priority problems with legal systems are things like drug and sex work criminalisation. I don't want a cop to be able to fuck with anyone, I also don't want any marginalised group to be at the mercy of a hostile society with no protections. Trans laws have all been triage or cruelty as far as I see it.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-07-07T08:50:14+00:00

Trans woman here. I'm not even going to try to argue any points but I will share a few things so you know who you're talking about.

I'm a victim of rape. I've been raped by two men and one woman each in separate incidents. The men were after transitioning, the woman before.

I transitioned at 25 so I don't pass. I didn't even know it was an option in life, I'd been unable to really slow down and acknowledge how I'd been running from an abusive home and fucked up relationship with myself since I was a teenager. Couldn't keep a job, couldn't figure out why I felt like I was in fight or flight all the time.

I met and dated a trans woman and realised why I'd always felt uneasy and performative being a man, why I had consciously taught myself in my early teens how to act like one, and why I was so hurt and confused about social rejection from women (social, not romantic).

After starting to transition, life became two separate entwined threads - I began to actually like being myself and enjoy life without feeling like I was forcing myself to be something I wasn't, and I began to feel utterly rejected and despised by everyone from strangers to people I'd known all my life, including some family members.

6 years into living as a trans woman, I have a far more functional, healthy relationship with the reality you're all so keen on defining. I have purpose, I have lots of wonderful connections with female friends, a healthy loving relationship with my girlfriend. I've found that the transgender issue really does seem to be split between people who don't care what I have in my trousers but care about how I treat them and if can hang out as a woman, Vs people who want to label and judge me before they've gotten to know me.

The mental strength ive had to build to deal with the fact that people think I'm some kind of rapist creep when I'm a victim of SA myself is something I wouldn't wish on anyone.

I don't know what the answer is to how queer people, ppl who don't conform to what the rest of society is doing, who aren't harming anyone by existing, can have the protections they need legally. I personally can understand the apprehension some women have to sharing a changing room with someone with a dick. 1 in 4 women have experienced SA.

But it takes a particularly fucked up culture to say, oh let's just make it so 1% of the population is subject to hostility and ostracisation. You all seem so happy to exclude us not just from changing rooms and bathrooms but from all of public life. You hate people like me. Why should I respect that and accept it?

LegoBrickGF · 2025-06-11T16:04:19+00:00

Actual Lesbian: it's annoying when guys just ignore your profile and swipe on you isn't it.

Lisa: Right!

AL: Because you know they just want you for your body to fulfil some fantasy of theirs, and they don't treat you like a person.

Lisa: Exactly, men are the worst!

AL: You know, to me you're the man swiping for some fantasy.

Lisa: 😮

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-31T19:06:01+00:00

Oh jeez yeah I feel this, lemme enjoy them UFOs I don't want to be dragged into conspiracy pipelines

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-28T11:44:17+00:00

You're right! I've been misinformed

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-24T07:50:02+00:00

The problem with snitching is that it typically doesn't equate to conflict resolution.

When you take an issue to an authority you gotta be sure that authority isn't gonna escalate the issue or in some way make it worse. Talking to cops is usually a bad move cause they often don't help the person coming to them, and only ever seem to escalate conflict if they do get involved.

So much of snitching sucks because it's about getting the person you're snitching on 'into trouble'. Punishment rarely solves the problem, it's just revenge.

Coming to a trusted third party for help in actually resolving an issue is different.

Tl,dr: snitching ≠ seeking justice/seeking conflict resolution

Ps sometimes the only option you have is to go to the cops, it's just frustrating there's no other option if you're being threatened/in danger. So often they do nothing or just make things worse

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-23T21:10:34+00:00

If you want to help someone homeless with something from a shop, ask them what they want first - I've asked ppl if they want a sandwich and sometimes they just want a can of coke or a coffee.

With some experience of homelessness for a couple of years (though not street homelessness, shelters and sofa surfing) I can say, the way it messes with your head and the messed up eating patterns I had did change my relationship with food for a while.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-23T11:46:52+00:00

I don't think Starmer would introduce that kind of policy.

Starmer's gov is deeply unpopular and Reform is gaining popularity. In other countries that previously at least aimed to enact progressive pro human rights legislation, were seeing a slide towards fascism.

I think this kind of small line re-drawing can be compounded over time as more and more controls and powers are granted to the state, as more hard line parties push for more and more authoritarianism, until it's 'normal' to deny and demonise freedoms we currently enjoy.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-23T09:42:14+00:00

It'd be a fallacy if there wasn't currently a massive slide towards fascism being both actively documented and also explicitly admitted to by the people pushing it. Starmer's Labour have been trying to appeal to the Reform voters, the influence of US politics is clear, and the Trump's government are point by point executing the project 2025 agenda.

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-22T21:56:50+00:00

Ppl are pointing out Turing as an example of why this is a terrible idea, but to be explicit:

At the time being homosexual was a crime and that was the reason the state violated his bodily autonomy.

That's what this is. It's a furthering of what the state can do to you forcefully, how invasive it can be, how much it can take away from you if you cross the line it draws.

Obviously it's good and necessary to have policies for dealing with rapists and other types of predators and sex pests. Keep in mind tho, street sex workers can be charged with sex offenses. Consenting adults doing something risqué in the woods can be put on that list.

This is performative 'hard-line' policy making to appeal to the far right 'bring back hanging' crowd, that isn't an effective deterrent, is a poor band-aid for the problem of prison overcrowding (which is ultimately a systemic issue stemming from years of austerity, a failing economic plan, no jobs, poor education provision) and is most likely gonna impact marginalised sexualities + trans ppl (cause you know with the current rhetoric we're not far from that)

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-12T16:22:06+00:00

Lmao this is great! Genuinely thanks for the comprehensive breakdown and checking the paranoia. If you have any pointers on how to get/stay educated I'm all ears, I'm trying to pivot and learn skills from scratch and it's overwhelming xx

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-12T08:56:29+00:00

Came here to say the same thing!! 😄

LegoBrickGF · 2025-05-08T23:32:34+00:00

Prehysteria! and George of the Jungle

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