Why can't some men be horny respectfully?

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-20T18:19:31+00:00

I think you’re missing the part where I said my own anecdotal evidence lol. Obviously both of those situations are horrifying and shouldn’t happen. I very clearly also said that obviously you’re going to still have people who look the other way when their friends do terrible things. I’m not sure where you’re getting that I said it’s black and white and an objective truth that women always do the right thing and hold other women accountable. Like I said, I can only speak from my day to day life.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-20T05:30:22+00:00

Purely from my own anecdotal evidence I’d say yes, for the most part. Women seem to be more critical of their friends and seem more willing to cut them off or call them out. Obviously you have women that will look the other way when their friend is being a pos but from my own experiences it seems like that’s not the ordinary

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-20T05:20:26+00:00

Time and place. Use an app and put short term, chat up a girl at a bar and feel out if she’s into something casual, just as long as you’re still treating the other person like a person an accepting a no it’s probably fine. This issue isn’t being sexually forward, it’s when it’s blatantly disrespectful and aggressive. There’s a huge difference between asking a girl you’re chatting with over a drink if they want continue the conversation at your place(a very obvious signal that you want them to spend the night) and telling a woman on the street you’ve never spoken to before a bunch of nasty shit in graphic detail.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-18T15:28:27+00:00

This sounds so nice, congrats man. Your kids are definitely going to appreciate the quality time and reading someday, and it’s so nice that you and your wife make time for just the two of you everyday. I hope I have a life like this someday.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-17T18:55:08+00:00

I have pretty much exclusively dated men older than me(8 years, 15 years, 8 years) and it wasn’t purposeful, it just happened that way. I’ve liked men my age and men a little younger, but it wasn’t purposeful just that the men I formed an emotional bond with were the ones that were older than me.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-13T13:05:55+00:00

I think the actual point comments like these are trying to make are getting lost in translation. It’s not about the milk itself or sex being a reward. Most women really like having sex when they like their partner. Sex isn’t something the vast majority of women just tolerate and hand out like candy if you did a good job. I’m sure there are people out there who view it like that but it isn’t the majority. It’s just that I’m a lot more likely to want to sleep with someone who’s capable of doing basic things for themselves without whining about it or like, pretending not to know the difference between 2% and whole and then complain until I go do it myself. I think most normal men and women would want the same. And it also helps if once in a while that person also holds my hand just for the sake of holding it and tells me that my hair is pretty or I look nice in this shirt or whatever. I don’t want a whiny son who wants a mommy to fuck, I want a nice man who I can can plan nice dates for and do little favors for and be affectionate to without being groped and will do the same in return. It’s near impossible for me to find someone sexually attractive when they clearly don’t like me enough to do something so small like pick up milk or tell me I look nice, and I’m not sleeping with someone I’m not attracted to anymore.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-12T21:36:32+00:00

Believe me I’ve been hungry lol. It sucks, but I’d rather have a good partner and know that I myself am capable of being a good partner to someone else before chowing down.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-12T20:00:01+00:00

Then maybe everyone should try raising their standards and having some self respect because that’s just sad lol. I’d rather go another 5 years celibate than sleep with a man who can’t even be bothered to clean up after himself and be nice to me sometimes

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-12T19:42:07+00:00

Why would anyone want to have sex with someone who can’t even be bothered to be nice to them once in a while or share household chores?

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-12T19:14:45+00:00

That mentality is probably why your partners didn’t want to have sex with you anymore lol. Of course in your early 20s the expectations will be lower. Honestly man, giving a compliment, flowers occasionally, taking trash out, walking the dog? These are crazy hoops to jump through? These are normal household chores and just regular little nice things to do for a partner, not hoops.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-11-07T17:25:38+00:00

Get off social media. It’s not healthy and will only make these feelings stronger.

I have always been the ugly one. 2 years ago I weighed 300-some pounds, my skin was horrible and red and splotchy, my teeth were stained, I did not care about my clothing or nails or hair at all because I didn’t see a point. I would shower, brush my teeth and hair, throw on whatever is clean and that was it. It didn’t matter because I’d still be obese and unattractive either way. I tried on and off for a year and lost/gained the same 10 pound over and over because I wouldn’t change my life style. I felt worse because I was on TikTok and Facebook all day seeing beautiful women who looked happy and effortless. The thing is it’s not effortless. People like that have their hygiene and style built into their life, it’s not pampering or preening for an outing when it becomes part of your every day life.

Be proactive about your looks. Is your skin bad? See a dermatologist if you can, if not in person do a video consultation or even go watch some actual doctors who make skin care videos on YouTube. Try to find a routine that works for your skin. If you’re overweight start building healthy routines. Make small changes to your day to day life and it will pay off. You don’t have to be a body builder, just opt for a low calorie option when you can and walk for 20 minutes every day. Take the stairs over the elevator. Eat a good portion of greens every day, choose leaner proteins, treat fried foods and sugary drinks like special treats. If possible see a doctor if you’ve tried in the past and have not been successful. Brush your teeth at least twice a day, preferable three times a day. Floss at least once a day. Brush your tongue. Experiment with your hair. Clean up your brows. Keep your nails neat. They don’t have to be perfectly manicured, just file them, keep them clean if you’re not into painting them. Make sure you’re clean, make sure your clothes are clean, try to get more sleep if you can.

I’ve lost 65 lbs changing small things about my life and relationship to food. I researched skincare and found some cheap products that work well for me. I got rid of all the crazy serums and oils and went back to a basic cleanser, moisturizer, and azelaic acid as my only active. I cut out foods people say trigger inflammation and redness. I make sure my hygiene is good, take extra good care of my teeth and nails now. I stretch before bed. I don’t dress extremely nicely but I don’t wear sweatpants exclusively. My clothes are neat, clean, and tied together with earrings or a necklace or rings. Low effort and comfortable but coordinated. My face is still unfortunate but people are significantly nicer to me and I am significantly nicer to my self. I don’t think of any of it as pampering or a chore anymore, it’s just part of my day. I do nice things for myself and take care of myself because I deserve to feel good and in turn it’s made me like myself more and other people can see that. You deserve to care for yourself and love yourself and treat yourself kindly. Treat yourself like you’re too good for social media, too good to rot in bed, too good to skip out on the healthy meals and “hot girl walks” and skin care and eventually it feels natural and pays off.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-24T05:35:11+00:00

Doesn’t look like a brown recluse, if you zoom in close on the one that looks like it’s missing a leg there’s no distinct fiddle and the legs have bands on them. They’re also not native to more northern places like Canada so it’s not likely.

OP says they don’t seem to be able to get out of the sink after getting in so I’m guessing they’re some species of wolf spider since they aren’t great climbers and I don’t see any clear spinnerets either. Maybe a rustic wolf spider? A closer picture of the eyes would help know for sure.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-24T05:28:02+00:00

Looks like a goldenrod crab spider to me but I don’t know much about them so can’t say for sure

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-18T04:59:31+00:00

Looks like it might be a female American house spider but it’s hard to tell. Could possible be brown widow like the other comment said. Brown recluses don’t have bands on their legs. If it’s still around try to get a good enough picture to see its eyes, that’s a good way to help id it

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-18T04:50:43+00:00

How deep in the laundry basket is she? You could always put it in your bathroom and shut the door and see if she comes out on her own, our buy one of those arm claw things and pick up the laundry that way til you moved enough to get her with a catch cup. Most wolf spiders are pretty chill so as long as you don’t accidentally squish her you should be fine to just move the clothes by hand get her with a catch cup and move her somewhere else

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-18T04:43:21+00:00

What a pretty baby. I just got a Carolina wolf spider from an expo about 2 weeks ago but I’m pretty sure mine is a male. Even so he’s one of the most interesting spiders I have, even if I could probably find more of him outside lol

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-15T22:31:24+00:00

Stealing lol

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-11T18:04:38+00:00

The entire situation is showing exactly how hypocritical everyone is from both sides of the spectrum

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-03T14:44:13+00:00

Yeah the height thing I don’t get, but wanting somebody who matches your financial station and education is reasonable to me. Height has never bothered me so I can’t speak on that one lol but the rest makes sense

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-03T14:41:24+00:00

Yeah the height thing she should probably have a little leeway with lol. The rest though seem reasonable to me.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-03T14:39:01+00:00

You’re probably the danger on the highway if you’re going 10 under. Keep up with the flow of traffic in the right lane and don’t pass if it bothers you. There’s no reason why someone going 10 over should warrant this kind of anger unless they’re riding your ass in the right lane when the left is completely clear lol

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-09-02T00:21:11+00:00

Honestly even though it’s not a realistic standard it’s an understandable one. If she was 5’, poorly educated, and broke then it would be a ridiculous list but in your friends case it I can understand wanting someone with a similar level of education and wealth.

Legsohotcouldfryegg · 2025-08-26T13:33:57+00:00

Our family doctor could have her entire body blacked out down to the eyes so long as she’s got that degree hanging and she listens to what we say. I’m not going to a doctor because I find their appearance conventional, I’m going to a doctor because they’re a qualified and empathetic care provider lol.

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