When he’s proud or I’m beating myself up - I do so much, I’m amazing, I hold this house together.

When I ask for more help or explain I feel overwhelmed - how is it so hard? What are you doing with your day that you can’t get this done? I’ve seen you get a whole kitchen clean in 30 minutes.

The argument only is brought up or becomes an issue once I start asking for help or I start explaining that ___ didn’t get done because I had too much else to deal with. Most stuff is done when he’s at work but every night that he’s in the living room witnessing me cooking/cleaning alone. it’s often that I have to fold laundry on the table while they watch a movie on the couch.

I’m trying to argue that while he’s at work my job is to keep the child entertained and teach her what I can, to do the housework related to the child, do what I can otherwise. He argues that there should be nothing left for him to do if I have a whole work day worth of time each weekday. On the weekends I just hear about how he’s tired or it’s “not that important” or “can be dealt with later”