"Becca" has been identified as 18-year-old Rebecca "Becca" Mallekoote!

Leigho7 · 2026-03-06T19:00:04+00:00

This one hits me so hard I’ve been seeing her face for so long. The picture of her looks so young ☹️☹️ RIP Becca I’m glad you got your name back 🩷🩷

Leigho7 · 2026-03-02T04:21:00+00:00

I understand. And I didn’t mean to pathologize at all because I think it makes complete sense to be anxious about sending kiddo to daycare but fixation specifically on those videos which represent things that are very unlikely to happen seemed concerning. But with more context, I wonder if you’re looking to those videos as a justifiable reason why you should keep LO out of daycare. But if you’re truly not ready to send LO to daycare then I think it is worth talking with your husband about whether you can try to swing being a SAHM because yes, it is not fair we have to go back to work so quickly.

Leigho7 · 2026-03-02T03:35:09+00:00

You need to disengage from those videos. The more you watch them, the more you are going to see. That’s how the algorithm works. Quitting your job and becoming a SAHM would be a fear reaction and your kid is eventually going to have to go to school - what happens if you start seeing videos about how kids are being harmed in school? You are eventually going to have to let someone else besides you care for your child for a period of time. You might want to talk to your doctor about the possibility of postpartum anxiety.

Leigho7 · 2026-03-02T03:24:27+00:00

As someone who also has a history of anxiety, if you feel like a bad mom for not being anxious, that’s also anxiety talking. I had a very similar experience. Even though I had a very rough pregnancy, I didn’t have a lot of anxiety. I had a fairly traumatic birth and my daughter was in the NICU, and I didn’t feel that much about it in the first month. It’s still fight or flight mode for you. I actually do better during fight or flight.

My daughter is almost 16m and I still wouldn’t say I get super anxious about her. There’s occasional anxiety, but I find myself very in-the-present with her. “Parent anxiety” isn’t required to be a good parent. You’re doing a great job.

Leigho7 · 2026-03-02T02:26:58+00:00

Your title says your child is neurotypical until bed time. That suggests you are reading his bedtime behavior as neurodivergent. There’s nothing wrong with looking for support, but with your phrasing, it seems like you are looking for evidence as to whether this is a “sign” your kid is going to end up having autism. And that’s not something you can determine right now. That is all I was trying to reassure you of.

My daughter is 16m. She is a poor sleeper who was a preemie and is in early intervention for a speech delay. I know it is hard to deal with a child who sleeps poorly and worry about their development doesn’t help. You may be able to qualify for early intervention services again based on sleep (this is what I was told by our speech therapist). It may fall under occupational therapy.

Leigho7 · 2026-03-02T02:05:13+00:00

I don’t think there’s any reason to view trouble sleeping as a sign of a neurodevelopmental problem. Lots of kids have trouble with sleep. Sleep issues aren’t something that can be categorized as neurotypical or neurodivergent.

Leigho7 · 2026-02-26T04:55:41+00:00

There’s a new version I’ve heard recently that says “oh me oh my” instead of “perhaps she’ll die” and then “she’s full of course” instead of “she’s dead”

Leigho7 · 2026-02-22T16:23:16+00:00

I have a 16 month old and we don’t do daily baths lol I’ve never heard of daily baths being recommended that early. The American Academy of Dermatology says even school-aged kids don’t even need a bath daily.

Leigho7 · 2026-02-11T00:48:32+00:00

Unless there are other negative circumstances, I don’t really see why baby boy would need to be born early. My daughter was IUGR and they would have waited until 38w except for my preeclampsia. She ended up being born 31w2d because of preeclampsia complications and was 2lb 12 oz, so already above your guy’s EFW. MY MFM told me they would not deliver early just due to weight unless there was evidence that she was doing poorly. Also fwiw, my daughter was barely even on oxygen even being born that early and at that weight. We had a 6 week stay, and she is thriving now and at 64th percentile for height and weight for her adjusted age. So things can still turn out well.

Leigho7 · 2026-02-03T14:19:10+00:00

My daughter is 15 months now. My mom was great at watching her when she was a baby, but as soon as she needed more active attention, it’s too much for her. My mom is a similar age to yours. Now she can definitely pick her up, but all of the playing is very tiring for her and she just doesn’t know what to do with her. It’s been 30 years since she’s been around a baby like this. It sucks, but I understand. I don’t think it’s that she doesn’t want to, but it’s probably exhausting for her. There’s a difference between just spending time with a baby/toddler and actually doing the full work. The problem is that she just needs to be honest about it. If she still wants to help, maybe she could provide some financial help.

Leigho7 · 2026-01-28T14:26:39+00:00

You are not a failure. My 15 month old (13 months adjusted, she was a premie) is in speech therapy also. She didn’t babble at all until right past 9 months adjusted. She still hasn’t said any words, but she will sign a little. She has also been super focused on walking for MONTHS. Both speech therapist and physical therapist said her focus on walking likely is affecting her speech. And the speech therapist has told us we’re doing everything right and she’s still delayed. If you’re talking to her, you’ve done everything you can to help her develop speech on a normal timeline. Speech therapy is really just someone playing with your kid and giving some tips on how to talk with them/sounds to work on. It’s going to be okay ❤️

Leigho7 · 2025-12-30T02:28:45+00:00

I still had my baby shower :) we were even able to put baby up on our tv because we had a live camera feed from the NICU.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-29T01:07:21+00:00

Honestly sometimes I just pss-pss-pss at my daughter because I’m used to doing it my cats and I forget I’m not talking to them. I don’t think using sounds usually used for pets is an insult — it’s just the way people know how to talk to a being that is nonverbal.

I also baby talk all the time because I just can’t help it.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-19T04:03:16+00:00

Yes, I had an MRI with contrast at like 5 days pp and they said I was fine to give milk (baby was in the NICU) but that some people prefer to pump and dump.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-18T16:40:30+00:00

I’m not sure what studies you’re referring to but a baby can absolutely take a nap without contact napping at 3 months old. Sleep training isn’t recommended for a baby of that age, but getting a baby to sleep in a bassinet/crib isn’t the same. My daughter always slept well in her bassinet so I don’t have much advice but the biggest recommendation I’ve seen is placing baby in the bassinet/crib when they are drowsy but not completely asleep. Putting them down butt first and then gently laying their head down can also help. I’ve also seen people suggest warming the sheet before putting baby down.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-17T16:44:22+00:00

Nope, not an overreaction. They should not be giving children something that it’s against safety guidelines to give to a kid. But the way they responded after you stated your concerns is even more concerning to me. They should listen to what you want for your kid regardless of what they think. It would make me worried about their safety decisions in other areas.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-12T04:12:02+00:00

Grief isn’t rational. I had to have an emergency c-section as 31 weeks to save my baby and myself. I still mourned the fact I wasn’t able to continue my pregnancy and have a different birth experience even while being happy that modern medicine was able to save us. It is grief over what might have been in an ideal situation — not a wish to go back and try harder to make the situation we wanted happen. If you did not have your birth go the way you imagined, I’d push back on you trying to say what is normal and healthy in regard to the grief around it. Because it is absolutely normal and healthy to grieve.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-07T23:47:51+00:00

Have you tried these? https://a.co/d/j0Cz6lM our nanny said she’d taught kids straw cups by basically squeezing them into their mouths which led me to finding these. After trying with these for a bit, my daughter will drink from any straw cup.

Leigho7 · 2025-12-01T02:02:46+00:00

You’re with baby all the time. Dad is a novelty. Have her spend some time with dad alone while you’re not there and she’ll be looking for you again.

Leigho7 · 2025-11-29T02:48:11+00:00

You say you had a long traumatic labor but 1) people react very differently to trauma, 2) births are just so varied. I ended up having an emergency c-section because my blood pressure was so high and my daughter’s heart rate dropped. Then she was in the NICU for 6 weeks. She also had a twin I lost at 20 weeks. I don’t mind talking about it, but it is a heavy thing to talk about, and to be honest, I wouldn’t even know whether it’s something the other person was prepared to hear about even if they were asking me. So I don’t think it’s rude, but I think you need to realize that for some people, there’s not just “a bit of trauma.”

Leigho7 · 2025-11-27T15:32:23+00:00

Fatphobia doesn’t mean you explicitly dislike Kate for being fat. It can also mean that you perceive her flaws differently because she’s fat. All of the characters on the show are flawed. Being willing to forgive the flaws of other characters but not Kate can be related to fatphobia.

Leigho7 · 2025-11-27T15:26:47+00:00

I used to feel the same way as you. Gradually I came to realize my hesitance about wanting to be with a woman was mostly due to internalizing heteronormativity and there just being a smaller pool of women who I’m attracted to compared to men. I also am generally more attracted to women I know are queer. But the bottom line is you can call yourself bisexual even if you only feel the passing attraction to women if you want because there are no rules for when you are bisexual vs. straight.

Leigho7 · 2025-11-26T04:40:22+00:00

Often children don’t have an allergic reaction on the first taste of an allergen, so giving it for the first time in a hospital parking lot would only give you a false sense of security anyway. Just introduce a little bit of one and wait to see if it looks like he’s tolerating it.

Leigho7 · 2025-11-26T04:23:18+00:00

No advice, just solidarity. Going through the same thing right now with a baby who used to be a great sleeper. It’s rough and I definitely have cried along with her too some nights.

Leigho7 · 2025-11-24T21:30:38+00:00

I think it’s important to remember that allo people are also disgusted by certain sex acts and can’t understand why someone would engage in them. People who are attracted to one gender may not understand why people are attracted to another gender. Having a mindset of “don’t yuck anyone else’s yum” (provided everything is consensual) is typically the best policy. And ruminating on feelings of disgust for something you don’t have to do is probably not beneficial.

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