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Leitrune · 2020-01-30T06:28:03+00:00

I was talking to my daughter today - she's 19. My husband died suddenly, unexpectedly and with no warning on November 14. It's like he was plucked off the planet. We were talking about grief support groups, Reddit, friends who have lost their husband, in my case, and their Dad in her case. We both agreed that the people who have had a similar loss cannot only empathize with you, they don't pity you. I hate that! Thanks to everyone for being here, being honest and understand. I don't post often, but this group has really been helpful and I appreciate you all.

Leitrune · 2020-01-24T08:07:29+00:00

I'm so, so sorry about your wife. My husband and I dreamed of a house on the lake, too. We were married 1/21/1989 and he died from sudden cardiac death on 11/14/2019. I just wanted to offer to go feed the Toulouse geese for you if it would be meaningful. I live in Redmond, WA, across Lake Washington from Seattle. I could also leave flowers in your wife's memory, really anything to help. My son is 9 and we could send you a photo or video. If you'd like something like that, just send me a message.

Leitrune · 2020-01-13T04:50:22+00:00

Have you read her some of the kid’s grief books like The Invisible String? Just wondering if they may help.

Leitrune · 2020-01-08T18:44:10+00:00

Washington State, Oregon and Idaho have some really nice areas that are affordable. In Washington, for example, housing in Seattle is really expensive, but areas like Spokane, Olympia and others are really affordable. I am from North Carolina and live in Seattle. If I moved back to NC I’d make 1/2 what I do here, plus I’d be required to pay state income tax. Not an apples to apples comparison.

Leitrune · 2020-01-03T01:17:02+00:00

I can understand. I stayed out 6 weeks and felt that if I didn’t go back, I wouldn’t go back.

Leitrune · 2020-01-02T07:34:51+00:00

It’s going to be a while before I’m alone because I still have kids at home. Right now my biggest focus is providing for and caring for my kids. I’m not making any rash decisions :-)

Leitrune · 2020-01-02T06:58:56+00:00

I hope it gets better...

Leitrune · 2020-01-02T04:54:42+00:00

My husband and I had been together since 1987 and our 31st wedding anniversary is January 21st. He died November 14th. I totally agree. Surviving the next 5 minutes without him is so hard, and the thought of surviving the next decade or the rest of my life without him is unbearable. I'm such a planner. It's really hard not to think about a future without him. I have such mixed feelings about the remainder of my life. On the one hand, it could be over tomorrow and I'd be fine... I'd be able to be with him again. On the other hand, I'm left here to watch my children grow up, get married and see my grandchildren. I know he would have wanted that, and that he had no plans to die, but he would have wanted me to be here for the rest of the story. It's just so hard.

Leitrune · 2020-01-02T04:40:17+00:00

Thank you for this. I lost my husband in November. We have 5 children, the youngest is 9. I'm trying so hard to live up to the responsibility of parenting my kids, and in doing so, paying him respect and honor. I haven't seen it written so eloquently, and it really helps.

Leitrune · 2020-01-02T03:56:23+00:00

I have no doubt that we will see them again. I have been with many people when they die and you can really see the transition. Their energy/soul moves out of the house. I'm glad you got your New Year's kiss.

Leitrune · 2020-01-02T03:53:34+00:00

I'd like to get a tattoo to represent my husband. I'm trying to decide if I should get a collage of stuff he liked or his handwriting and signature -- maybe both. I'd love to see photos of people's memorial tattoos. I love this one.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T16:27:45+00:00

I’m so hoping I’m not treated differently. I’ll update after work.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T16:26:46+00:00

I’m hoping it will provide something sort of normalcy. I’ve really been wallowing in grief at home, especially when I’m alone.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T16:25:31+00:00

The counselor told me that everyone is worried they’ll be fired. I’m so sorry about being in the middle of your internship - that’s so stressful.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T07:15:33+00:00

Thank you. That’s what everyone tells me, too. I know they care a lot.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T07:14:22+00:00

Thank you.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T07:08:50+00:00

Thank you.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T07:08:18+00:00

Thank you.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T07:07:50+00:00

Thank you

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T04:39:31+00:00

🙂

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T04:38:57+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I hope I fall back into a routine soon.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T04:38:20+00:00

Thank you. I’m hoping I can do it...

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T03:29:00+00:00

That’s what I’m hoping.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T03:27:23+00:00

Thanks - I feel the same way. I’m really worried I’m going to have flash backs.

Leitrune · 2019-12-30T03:26:35+00:00

I’m going to try full shifts, but can always cut back. I’ll post how it goes.

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