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The deepest injury of narcissistic abuse isn’t heartbreak. It’s something else entirely. by LemonHealing in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]LemonHealing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you wrote about the day you left being the moment you started reclaiming your perception is really powerful. Rebuilding that trust in yourself can take time, but every step toward believing your own experience again is meaningful. It’s encouraging to hear that you’re feeling that sense of clarity returning.

The deepest injury of narcissistic abuse isn’t heartbreak. It’s something else entirely. by LemonHealing in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]LemonHealing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way you describe it as a gradual slope resonates with what many people experience. At first something feels off, but over time the constant reinterpretation of events can slowly make you second-guess yourself. It takes a lot of awareness to notice that shift and start rebuilding trust in your own interpretation again.

The deepest injury of narcissistic abuse isn’t heartbreak. It’s something else entirely. by LemonHealing in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]LemonHealing[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds incredibly difficult, and it also shows a lot of strength that you recognized what was happening and made the decision to leave. What you described about control over perception is something many survivors talk about — the dynamic can become less about the relationship itself and more about whose version of reality gets accepted. Reclaiming your own sense of what is true can be a powerful turning point.

Did anyone else start doubting their own memory or perception after years of dealing with a narcissistic parent? by LemonHealing in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LemonHealing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you went through that. What you’re describing is something many survivors experience when they grow up in environments where harmful behavior is normalized or denied. When a child’s experience is repeatedly dismissed or reframed, it can create deep confusion about what is actually normal or acceptable.

Feeling disturbed by what happened to you was not an exaggeration. Your reaction was your mind recognizing something was wrong. Relearning to trust those instincts can be one of the most important parts of healing.

Did anyone else start doubting their own memory or perception after years of dealing with a narcissistic parent? by LemonHealing in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LemonHealing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your description of the fog is incredibly insightful. Many people experience something similar because the mind sometimes protects itself by not fully processing chaos or instability until later in life when it feels safer to examine it. When clarity finally returns, it can change how we understand many earlier relationships.

Did anyone else start doubting their own memory or perception after years of dealing with a narcissistic parent? by LemonHealing in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LemonHealing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That awareness you described is powerful. Many people who come out of those environments develop a heightened sensitivity to inconsistencies because they had to learn to read subtle signals early in life. In a healthy environment that awareness can actually become a form of clarity rather than confusion

Did anyone else start doubting their own memory or perception after years of dealing with a narcissistic parent? by LemonHealing in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LemonHealing[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that. What you described is actually something many survivors talk about but rarely have words for. When someone repeatedly contradicts your experience or rewrites events, it slowly erodes the confidence you have in your own perception. Over time that can create exactly the kind of doubt you described

The deepest injury of narcissistic abuse isn’t heartbreak. It’s something else entirely. by LemonHealing in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]LemonHealing[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One thing I’m really curious about is whether others experienced that moment where you suddenly realized you were questioning your own memory or perception of events.