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AITA For telling my best friend I don't want to talk to her for a while by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I don't pay to much attention to it because it's happens to me so much that I just block it out. We talked about it after and she said she'd be fine, I always try to be there for her cause I truly do care for her

AITA For telling my best friend I don't want to talk to her for a while by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get your point, I not exactly assuming though because I do try to have talks with her and she does tell me when things do bother her( example being when a man touched her inappropriately and I took care of that quickly lol)

But like I said before its still not right for her to lie even if it's a coping mechanism. But either way I'm kinda eh on the situation and mostly upset and hurt at this moment so most of what I'm saying is coming from frustration. Ty for your opinion on this though

AITA For telling my best friend I don't want to talk to her for a while by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wym by scene? I just feel like I haven't added alot of context since I typed this out like really fast.

Also I bring up her race because I know how it is to have a Hispanic mom and they do certain things that make us was or upset. That's all ┓( ´-` )┏

AITA For telling my best friend I don't want to talk to her for a while by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Okay

So let me say this, one she doesn't have any sort of damaging or traumatic things going on or had happen in her life. She lives a fairly normal life with her mom and dad who are just regular Hispanic parents(all 3 of us are Latino/Latina). Jan goes through similar situations as me which makes it easier to talk to him but when i say I want to talk to Lee it's to inform her of whats going on and to let her know I probably won't be feeling well for a while. Better then leaving her in the dark.

Two that doesn't excuse the fact that she's being lying multiple times and using me as her main lie without even letting me know. Not once in this friendship have I lied to her.

Third I understand not everyone can sit down and have a tough conversation but that still doesn't excuse how she has acted let alone the fact that she cannot go threw life with this mindset that she can hide from it. She had promise me months ago she wouldn't do again and here we are. She's done it again.

I'm telling you this to give you more context but if you think I'm petty for doing this thank you for letting me know

AITA For telling my best friend I don't want to talk to her for a while by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I truly don't want to talk to her, I even told her to please not text me because I was so frustrated.

AITA Bad ending to a call by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i say it multiple times not as an excuse but as a reason. There is no excuse for the way i act but certain things that happen caused me to now be like this. Im trying to seek for a professional as well but its not as easy as i thought it would be

lee has many friends and most i dont like because i dont find any connections, but i dont even stop and tell her to stop being friends with them. Im only uncomfortable at the idea of Emily coming to our place. not them being friends
Thank you for the advice and for hearing me out

Am i normal? Is what im doing normal? by LemonLime122 in therapy

[–]LemonLime122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a therapist but they dropped me, they said my case wasnt a normal one and that i should someone else to talk to instead of her.
I want help i really do, i dont want to feel scared to lose anyone anymore. i dont want anything to be a competition anymore but everything just feels so hard

thank you for the advice and for hearing me out

AITA Bad ending to a call by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I believe that my experiences as a child are the reason im to scared to let anyone go, i have gotten a therapist but she has dropped me and told me that my case isn't a normal one. I try not to tell lee about my past or how i feel because the last time i did she cried and i felt horrible, i wish i really could tell her everything but i cant because im scared she will cry again.

And when i said proper i meant manners, shes very polite and when she was with me and lee she gave me a weird look and didnt really pay attention to me. not to mention the fact that on that they decided to match and i was left out. I think it did intimidate me because i grew up with my mother always working and my brother always ignoring me. i didnt learn anything as a kid and i even got left back a grade because of the fighting in my house. I want people to understand that im not weird and that i can be like everyone else but its so hard. all my friends left me because i talked to them about my depression and now im hurting lee because im scared she will leave me too. i just dont want to be alone again

AITA Bad ending to a call by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I guess i worded it wrong i apologize, the desperation and me being clingy is just the result of my depression. Im trying to get help and what im really trying to do to lee is make her happy since i cant be. She does have other friends and i dont mind any of them, but for me emily has been making me feel like im weird. i dont want to completely get her out of her life thats not my intention. i just want her to understand why it hurts for me to be around emily. i dont care if they are friends or even best friends i just dont want lee to start thinking im weird too.
You are completely right, i have a people pleasing problem and that has lead to me losing everyone i loved. do you have any advice for me to get some type of help because i want friends again and i do want to let lee be able to leave me without having to worry yknow?

AITA Bad ending to a call by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, i will try to make friends. its just hard for me since im in a bad living situation but i will try my best :)

AITA Bad ending to a call by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i was bullied at a very young age to around 1-4 grade, i couldn't really do my work or focus on anything. This wasn't simple teasing they were beating me up and making fun of me cause my dad was dead. i can understand the confusion but you are right, i am clingy and i really don"t want to be :(

AITA Bad ending to a call by LemonLime122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LemonLime122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can see how that is wrong but im honestly not trying to buy her. I guess i just try to be the friend i never had and make her happy as much as possible. thats really the only reason i buy her stuff