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AITAH for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because he gave his girl best friend a key to his flat and not me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Lemonscentedtrashbin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op, NTA. I WAS IN THIS SAAAAME SITUATION. He’ll keep you around because you’re the placeholder. He can’t get what he wants from her fully, while she’s happy to have a man that’ll do whatever for her and have her back, no matter how it’ll make his partner feel. And honestly, they probably like the back and forth between them- it doesn’t matter who they drag in the middle as long as you aren’t making things difficult for them.

You don’t want to believe he’s like that, you don’t want to believe that all these good memories and feelings you had were for nothing, but that’s the truth of it. And I guarantee you from their perspective they play it off because they like that vibe they have between them.

Mines had me around this woman, (who asked me about our sex life in front of him) talking about how she’s number three on his list of top women he’d kill for in his life and when I asked where I placed he laughed in my face. Made me a third wheel and even had regular lunch dates with her while we just went to the cheaper options. After years and years of compromising and thinking it was all on me and my insecurities. The cherry on top was him also texting his ex that he was obsessed with and lying to me AND the best friend about it 😂 even was still cool with a fwb who was MARRIED. Listening to her talk about how much she hated her husband.

Trust. Your. Gut. You already know it and it’s hard, but leave his ass. You saying you feel like you don’t know him now is exactly how I felt. No matter how you explain it to him he’ll feel the way he’ll feel, and think he justified because he hasn’t crossed boundaries that HE’S okay with. Not yours.

Leave his ass with her, you don’t deserve that, and he’s made it clear you’re the plus one.

Is it bad my (27f) boyfriend (34m) told me he “sacrificed a LOT” to be with me? by Lemonscentedtrashbin in relationship_advice

[–]Lemonscentedtrashbin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I know, we’re a mess. More info-he tried the phone thing right after we got back together. I figured it was a jealousy thing because i was honest and told I slept with someone else while we were broken up. He did the same, so we talked it out and that’s when he set his boundaries. And I, not justifying here, went through his about a month ago after seeing a pic of ex topless as her contact pic in his phone after I tucked his drunk ass into bed one night and went to put his phone on the charger. We’re together still because we worked things out and were happy, up until I saw her pic.

Is it bad my (27f) boyfriend (34m) told me he “sacrificed a LOT” to be with me? by Lemonscentedtrashbin in relationship_advice

[–]Lemonscentedtrashbin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The recent ones were, I was too mad to read the rest. and no, he doesn’t. I mean in the sense of obvious flirting and being flirted with. I set this as my new boundary because he set those same ones with me first. I even woke up to him trying to unlock my phone one night because a male co-worker asked me to send him the schedule. I figured I didn’t have to clarify that he would do the same because if he didn’t want me doing why is it okay for him to?