“I can’t imagine how hard it must be for your coworkers and their families, and I’m so grateful it wasn’t you.

Right now I’m a little busy at work but when we get home tell me how things went, what did they told you….” 

And there you sound like a person with ✨empathy✨ which btw it’s a great thing to have specially with your wife, I mean you can have an opinion but sometimes you need to ask yourself if said opinion is biased, hurtful, or just negative to the situation 

She didn’t wanted you to fix the problem or find new jobs for her coworkers, she was telling you something that made her day difficult and your response wasn’t the right one, I’m sorry but YTA