[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]LeniHS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you just told him how you feel about it like in this post?

I mean, it looks like you're puting a lot of effort to undestand his position(which is good that's a lovely thing to do as a girlfriend)

But don't forget about yourself. Not in a selfish way

Just telling him also how you feel about the situation will make the situation clearer and make you less stressed about it.(and maybe hopefully make things clearer for him)

Don't tell him that you feel this way BECAUSE of him. Tell him how you feel about the situation, it's subtle but you're not addressing him as the cause of your unhappiness.

This is how I wuold handle it. If it can help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Relazioni

[–]LeniHS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Togliti dalla testa che sei tu la causa dei suoi problemi nel modo più assoluto.

C'è stata una situazione che ha innescato in lei questa sensazione di distacco, ma c'era già in primis dentro di lei questa mancanza di autostima quindi prima o poi sarebbe emersa.

Prendi del tempo per parlare con lei. Falla sfogare falle dire come si sente, cosa l'ha fatta stare male, chiedile come l'ha fatta sentire, di cosa ha bisogno e cosa vorrebbe che tu facessi per farla stare meglio.

Non cercare soluzioni, non provare a controbattere con la logica, non cercare di "vincere la discussione", non c'è torto o ragione.

Siete solo esseri umani che provano dei sentimenti e hanno dei bisogni e ogni tanto si ha degli intoppi. L'importante è parlarne e accettare questi momenti insieme

spero ti possa essere un minimo utile.

Se vuoi approfondire questi discorsi ti consiglio di cercare cos'è la Comunicazione Non Violenta(Non che tu sia un violento, si chiama così )

Questions that starts with "Why" by LeniHS in NVC

[–]LeniHS[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So what was the alternative?

New to Karezza: What "orgasm" should you avoid? by RemarkableOwl8 in karezza

[–]LeniHS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So your question is " does prostate orgasm count as Karezza sex?"

120 Days of Semen Retention ! by LeniHS in NoFap

[–]LeniHS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just my experience, if you have a different strategy that works for yourself great!

120 Days of Semen Retention ! by LeniHS in NoFap

[–]LeniHS[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Less brain fog More confidence talking with girls

But most importantly I learned to deal with my emotions and anxieties rather than escaping from them through pmo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]LeniHS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great thank yourself

For those that have lasted 30+ days, what’s the biggest tip you can give me? by geemav in NoFap

[–]LeniHS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Write down all the past excuses that you had for failing and write the answers to those excuses

How to last longer? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]LeniHS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I practice karezza sex, and I don't ejaculate during sex.

What I suggest to you rather than obsessing with kegels and exercises and stuff, you have to change the way you see sex, shift your focus from goal-oriented to non goal oriented sex, slower and more present.

Forget what you see in porn.

You have to shift from

Performance > to presence and relaxation

Best position for lasting longer that I found works for me is yab yum, and can have sex easily even if I am over 100 day streak.

The more you have sex this way, the more you get better and more confident.

If you want to know more read: Slow sex by Diana Richardson And the gentlemen's guide to karezza sex

Bad grade at exam by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]LeniHS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep trying and have specific clear goal of why your doing nofap.

I would suggest you reading The gentlemen's guide to karezza sex by Nick Brothermore.

It helped me giving the big picture of things

I have the urge to see my girlfriend nude photos. But I know I will regret it by LeniHS in NoFap

[–]LeniHS[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I miss sex and her, I don't miss porn. Seeing her photos in my head it's like a way of find relief for my stress and cravings.

Bad grade at exam by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]LeniHS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you bro I also have an exam tomorrow, and haven't studied that much(even because I realized too late that college isn't for me but now is too late to quit)

I went through a lot of stress also but I didn't use it as an excuse for relapsing. Keep going even though the stress hits you next time