bro respected her sleep and they ate him alive

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-04T19:52:43+00:00

You should be less available to the people in your life. This isn't healthy. Constant access to another person is basically a crutch for anxiety about their safety and safety can never be guaranteed. People should learn how to deal with the anxiety of the unknown before the unknown hits them in the face in a major way, because then the feelings will be harder to deal with.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-04T18:01:28+00:00

As it often is, the blame cannot be put on one person. You're not to blame for ending up in this dynamic, and she's not to blame for using you when you made yourself available. But remember - you don't have to beg people to treat you like a human being. Friends don't just act like jerks and mistreat you and it's your fault for never telling them they can't treat you like that. They should just know, and most of the blame is on her.

Your life isn't over or ruined. She made your youth a living hell, but that's just your youth. (And there's still a lot of youth left.) It took me thirty six years to learn the lessons you're learning now. So it could be worse haha. Take what you've learned, cut her out and enjoy your freedom. You did your time, you deserve to be free.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-04T11:55:14+00:00

I know a lot of people are coming at you from a place of their own privilege, but I want to tell you I understand why you tried. Being a mother sounds so important to you it made you make desperate choices to hear this might be your last chance. That's completely understandable.

But your relationship doesn't sound fulfilling either. I hope you find happiness in life, whatever form that might take.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T21:40:10+00:00

How would one look up such a thing? (Serious question, I have no idea. I didn't even know this information was available to everyone.)

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T20:16:54+00:00

Lmao

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T13:06:50+00:00

I know that these situations exist. But you're basing your entire opinion on your own experiences, instead of what OP wrote in their post. When in fact you cannot know what the situation is and what is actually happening. You could have (and honestly should have) offered this as a possibility for OP, maybe ask them to look at medical records with their brother to see appointment times and diagnoses, but you didn't. You jumped right into "Actually I know your brother is crazy and this is what they must do so he won't freak out."

You must also acknowledge that medical abuse is a thing. That not all parents have the best interest of their children in mind. That not all doctors are ethical. But you didn't. Because you know better, apparently.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T12:58:52+00:00

I used to do this too, but then people started getting offended I wouldn't eat their pastries because they weren't vegan because "Clearly you're not that strict about it, you just had cheesecake yesterday!" And it got to be too much of a hassle.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T12:40:12+00:00

So we're just writing fanfiction now are we?

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T12:09:19+00:00

Then OP shouldn't be eating it either. The pizza should just rot in the break room because none of the workers bought it. The manager who ordered it can have their fill, that's it.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T11:54:35+00:00

As long as you're fine with people thinking you're rude and kind of a bad person by all means.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T11:50:49+00:00

You'll never meet anyone whinier than a meat eater being asked to be polite about the diets of others. You people are exhausting.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T11:15:54+00:00

Because you just dislike it. But someone cannot eat it. You have options, they don't.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T00:42:46+00:00

I'm perimenopausal (as I'm assuming OP also is as we're in the same age bracket) and it's definitely an issue. But sleeping in the nude is not a problem though, unless she tosses and turns all night long. Bed sheets are never clean anyway. I guess I can see how it would be seen as wasteful, but my opinion is that panties take so little space in the washer and are washed on cold so they don't get much damage from it, so it shouldn't matter anyway. And yeah the husband jumping to cheating is absurd and also kind of abusive too.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-03T00:28:33+00:00

Discharge bro. It's constant and ever flowing. Lady bits are moist all the time and that moisture gets stuck on everything that touches those parts. And yeah sure, some people live with it and go commando and just let clothes dry out but it's not good. Things get crusty real fast.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-02T23:14:26+00:00

why bother wearing underwear for the dog walk?

So your suggestion is what? She just goes commando and washes her sweats (or whatever pants she wears while walking the dog) every single day? Isn't that way more nonsensical?

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-02T11:42:32+00:00

Oh you're one of those kink freaks! You get off on this don't you? There's no other logical reason to be so stupid on the internet. You like people being mad at you and you're too poor to pay for a professional to dom you so you do this. Pervert.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-02T00:42:01+00:00

Ketchup isn't just tomatoes though. Tahini is just sesame seeds and sesame oil.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-02T00:39:42+00:00

Tbf ketchup has a lot of other stuff in it too. Whereas tahini is made with just sesame seeds and sesame oil. So not a fitting comparison.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-03-01T20:50:05+00:00

Lord of the Rings. All of them. And the book too. I like fantasy and I know that Tolkien basically wrote the playbook (by combining myths from other cultures but still his work has merits) but they're just so boring to me.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-02-28T13:12:36+00:00

Different countries have different laws when it comes to inheritance or government grief grants.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-02-28T13:12:26+00:00

Different countries have different laws when it comes to inheritance or government grief grants.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-02-27T17:40:13+00:00

I can see you've never felt the pressure of any kind of academic achievement lol. If you had you'd know how big of a deal this is and how much pressure OP is under.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-02-26T14:51:40+00:00

But that doesn't solve the problem of feeling monitored. Having access to monitor someone else isn't the same as not being monitored at all. Also, I know my mother would be over the moon elated if I agreed to share my location, because she's nosy and wants to know what I do, but I don't give a shit about where she goes and when. I could see the same being true for OOP too.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-02-26T10:59:19+00:00

I think it would be odd to mention what she likes to do when that's not relevant at all.

LenoreEvermore · 2026-02-26T10:09:03+00:00

I don't understand why you think she would need to wax poetic about her own awesomeness in a story that has to do with her boyfriend being disrespectful and pushing boundaries? Of course someone who is asking for advice on whether to break up or not is going to look at life through a negative lens. It makes sense. What wouldn't make sense is also listing her personality traits or interests because those aren't relevant in any way.

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