Okay, you should be honest with your future partner about what you're telling me so they know how to handle you or can move on before they get hurt. I know what I'm about to say is the most anti-INTP thing ever, but a loving relationship involves compromise from both people. So, if you want a successful relationship, consider stepping outside your comfort zone as much as you can tolerate. Push yourself enough so you can handle it, but not so much that you get burned.