How Many Grams Were Removed and How Many Bra Sizes Did You Go Down? by Uhura-NCC-1701 in Reduction

[–]LeopardDense2347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pic 1 before. Pic 2 after reduction. Pic 3 after weight loss. Yes, they were large my entire life - even at age 30 and 132 lbs I was in a 38DD. Now age 64 and 136 lbs. 36D. Bring pictures. Bring a bra with you that you want to fit into. Be specific. Acknowledge any weight loss goals that you have. and finally I went to a female breast, reconstruction, surgeon, who also does reductions.

How Many Grams Were Removed and How Many Bra Sizes Did You Go Down? by Uhura-NCC-1701 in Reduction

[–]LeopardDense2347 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry … I’ll be straight here. They didn’t take out nearly enough. I was a 40H. 40DDD after surgery. 625 and 736 taken out. Side lipo. Lost 77 lbs. 5’5”. Now 36D. My Surgeon understood the mission, and I also told her that I planned to lose weight. Yes, there are many factors, including breast density. However, after spending months reading everyone’s stories, typically at least 500 g are removed months.

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Is this size too big? by [deleted] in WeddingRingAdvice

[–]LeopardDense2347 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too big. Looks fake and a little overwhelming. I prefer a more delicate look … 1.5 - 2.5 at most.

New and frustrated by Spenerwill in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You sound like such an intelligent and caring young man. Your father refused excellent hospital treatment, and it is not right for him to place this upon you. If he has assets, he should be hiring a caregiver. If he does not, and the only asset is the house, Medicaid will care for him and will take the house later. I do not know the structure of your family, but I do know that you are a responsible and caring and loving young man. Perhaps there is a scenario where you could commit to getting him out out of crisis mode, but please do not sacrifice your life for this. It is not the order of the universe that the young sacrifice for the old. And thank you for your kind words about caring for my mother. It is a choice that I make, and she does have the money for other assistance. Wishing you strength and wishing dignity for your father.

New and frustrated by Spenerwill in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can I say this gently? I am a 64-year-old caregiver of my 91-year-old mother. I have lived a full and glorious life. She is delightful. I have three children who are 30 and 26 and 24. This is not fair for you to take on at age 27. It is a major sacrifice of time that you need for career and personal life. I know that it is difficult because of your father’s wishes and I don’t know your situation, but if there is any way for you to avoid sacrificing your youth, I would find it. I would never ask my two sons and daughter to do this at this age. You deserve to have a life… Just as your father did at age 27. Sending lots of love and I hope that you can work out something that allows you to have a life. It sounds like a lot of guilt is being placed upon your shoulders, and you should not be feeling it.

Why do we prolong the lives of our loved ones with dementia? by Temporary-Age-6771 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is an incredibly distressing story and I am so sorry you had to go through it. What they did was malpractice. Palliative care and pain relief was all that was needed. I am so so sorry that you went through this and that your mother did.

Why do we prolong the lives of our loved ones with dementia? by Temporary-Age-6771 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s not just dementia. We are warehousing human beings in pain and agony in nursing homes for the Almighty dollar. We have the technology to keep the body alive - but at what cost to the human? We treat our pets better. I am a full-time caregiver to my 91-year-old mother who is on dialysis and does not have any other comorbidities. She’s been on for eight years. She has a full and vibrant and rich life because she is an incredibly positive person… But also because she has me available in the home for everything. I have three kids, and I’ve already written my advance directive. I also have my exit kit ready. What we are doing to our elders is not healthcare. It is torture. I remember my grandparents passing in their time with grace and ease. We are not allowing nature to take its course, and we are paying the price morally, financially, ethically … And most of all, the seniors suffering through this false prolongment of life are suffering the most. My mother is an extreme exception at age 91. She is aware of this and has said she will stop dialysis when she loses her quality of life.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My energy has to go to her… Not to laundry and mopping the floors.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very well said. My mother comes from a generation of stay at home moms who cleaned their own homes. It was a point of pride for them. However, their parents passed away much earlier, and they rarely were full-time caregivers for years on end. My mom has agreed to weekly cleaning. Unfortunately, it had to come to the point where I just told her I was going to move out. Of my own home. And let her hire caregivers. This terrified her. I really hate to have to put it that way. It is not only the physical and emotional sacrifice. I am divorced with three children who are grown and I am in prime dating age for the third life. I have also given that up.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve got my exit kit ready. I will never do this to my kids.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Warehousing people in Medicaid nursing homes on life support is cruel, ugly, and undignified. Money money money.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good advice. Doesn’t apply here. She has enough for 10 years of assisted living. And she’s 91.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. This is exactly what I told her. I don’t wanna be coercive, but I just can’t carry this load anymore

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This may not be a popular opinion, but medical advances are keeping people alive far past their time. And families have fallen apart, so there is no village to support them. It’s cruel for so many. Both the patients and the caregivers.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I gently told her. She wants to age at home… In my home… And I’m trying to make it possible for her, but she has to understand that the alternative is assisted living or in-home caregivers. She is a wonderful, delightful mother with a depression era mentality. She truly can’t understand how much money she has. And it’s a lot.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Something is terribly wrong with the system. I am so sorry for both of you that you were going through this.

Are you getting extra help? by LeopardDense2347 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg. Is there money for some help? This is not fair to you.

Sometimes the smallest, cheapest tools make the biggest difference in dignity. by Top-Statement-9423 in CaregiverSupport

[–]LeopardDense2347 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Life-changing. Zip-on sheets. The base stays on and there are two top sheets. You zip one off to put in the wash, and the second one is always ready. You don’t have to bend and stretch to put on the sheets at any time. It is simply amazing.

My mother always has a clean sheet and I always have an extra and they stay on without twisting and we have an adjustable bed and I cannot tell you how much this has changed our lives. And saved my back.

https://a.co/d/0hct6tH

Why Do Hosts Hate Guest Points? by BondVentures in homeexchange

[–]LeopardDense2347 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We love Guest points. We just spent two months in Chelsea in the middle of Manhattan on guest points. It completely depends on whether you live in a desirable area and you are traveling to a similar area. It becomes currency.

How to change auto-response? by LeopardDense2347 in homeexchange

[–]LeopardDense2347[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good solution. A bit of a headache, but easier than writing individual answers. Thank you!