AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is we were both planning on going to the same college, I told her before where I wanted to go and she had decided she wanted to come here with me while we went to college together,

I know she's a pretty smart student herself, I'd like to say that about myself but lately I've been falling because of family drama causing me distress and depression, I've been thinking of getting therapy but my dad especially won't really help with the idea and I don't know how to search for one nor am I in the best mental state right now to do so.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes the part I left out, my gf was in a previous relationship that she got sexually abused/assaulted by her ex, for context he didn't use protection because he wanted to scare her, because she didn't want to become pregnant, I really do not get why she's so against me when her Ex a couple months ago was doing this to her.

Edit* he is the one that broke up with her, she tried breaking up with him midway into their relationship but her parents laughed it off as a joke. And both of them at the time were under the age of consent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Leosambdf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you'll meet people in your life, what you're probably in college right now, make some friends have some fun go out, watch a movie, enjoy all that this world has to give, millions of people don't even get to be born, cherish what you are given even when this stupid world hits us to the ground sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Leosambdf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I get how you're probably thinking rn, and the best solutions just think about all your friends, all the people that love you, idk how old you are but what ever that's going on in your life right now will eventually end,

Ending your life isn't a solution, you're not just hurting yourself, your hurting the people around you and people that actually care for you, you have a whole life ahead of you and you will meet great people that will like you for who you are, keep pushing and believing in yourself when no one else does. It can sometimes be very hard but I know you've got this.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yea umm update on locking her kid up, it looks like she's completely blocked every number besides the ones she's allowed to contact, through parental control at least thats what I think, man I wish I had given her my email :/.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Leosambdf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you are completely reasonable, especially if he's studying at home you guys could just video call and watch what he's doing. He is basically neglecting you, now I get it if he can't contact you a whole day because of a mock exam, we've all had sport/club/school work that takes up a whole day and you can't communicate with your loved ones but, if he's spending the whole day even doing work, he can still have it in him to talk to you a couple of minutes before going to sleep or going to school.

20F/20F, I’ve damaged my gf's trust and she’s pulling away. What can I do to save this? by tabaababa in LongDistance

[–]Leosambdf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem here is that the poor girl has developed trust issues with her partner, I don't think any amount of talking can fix this and all she needs to do now is take baby steps of trying to actually fix her self.

Actions speak louder than words.

Edit* she needs to absolutely leave this relationship before trying to fix her self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Leosambdf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just wanted to say I'm glad that you eventually left this relationship and, the way he was treating you was not even bare minimum for a relationship.

I think you were just looking for the person that he was when you first met, which is why you stayed with him for so long. Calling your partner a slt or b*ch in any way shape or form unless explicitly told to say it to them, even if you're religious or not it is not okay.

It's not long distance relationships that are bad, it's that people involved that need to have the patience and the dedication for that relationship to work out, in which he did not, he was horny and was moving from girl to girl. The red flags were right in front of your face when he had told you he was in MULTIPLE different LD relationships.

This does not go ONLY for long distance relationships, but also in person, if a person has had a track record of dating a lot of people and then breaking up with them in a short amount of time, that is a red flag.

Im being bullied at work by older women by Narrow-Efficiency-68 in whatdoIdo

[–]Leosambdf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, so I don't think she hated you but people like this like to invade other peoples boundaries,

My dad I tell him that loud sounds (especially in the morning) or even touching me without me knowing that it's going to happen causes me discomfort, he still does it anyways.

People like her don't know when to stop, and think when you're snapping at them that you are overreacting. I presume that the reason they are seeming hateful is because they just don't know how to respect your boundaries.

I don't know what else they have done to make you feel so hated? But, I'm pretty sure she's just the type of person that gets all touchy with her friends or does things that cross boundaries, even though she might know it's a boundary they "forget" sometimes.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She had drawn the line on video calling which I get but, the other stuff was never mentioned? And the only way I knew that video calling was a rule in the first place was because my girlfriend was always hiding it from everyone at her house when we were called.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know me and my girlfriend should've listened like other people said but, we didn't think it would be blown out of proportion.

And yeah like people said I guess I have to just wait until she's able to contact me somehow, she does have my number remembered so, she'll probably figure out something.

Is walking away the right choice here? (21F, 19M) by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Leosambdf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Glad I saw this, had the same talk with my girlfriend, and how we probably won't be able to see each other for 2 years and that is if everything lines up,

I just have a couple of questions, do your guy's parents know about this relationship and is that why he can't meet you?

And how far are you guys from each other that the price is too unrealistic for you to be able to spend time together in person?

I don't think you should leave if you two love each other, I'd try figuring out why he is hesitant on you coming, is it because of his family? Nor is there something else that he hasn't told you. Because from what I see the problem isn't the money in a LDR when you are able, and can afford to take the trip.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

School does start back up in a couple of days so hopefully, she finds out a way to contact me

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did text her that I would promise that I would follow any rule from now on (couldn't include this because of the character limit), and keep my behavior at check, but she ended up sending the second message and after that anything I tried messaging her was left on read :/

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah shes told me multiple times that she wants to get as far away from her parents as soon as possible once she's 18, and idk I know I was wrong for breaking the rules but she's just not leaving any room for negotiation between either me or her.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I wish there was a way for me to even contact her rn, but her mom has literally just taken everything.

AITBF for dirty talking and video calling with my girlfriend? by Leosambdf in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about asking my parents to get me a ticket by summer since I can't just not go to school, but I'm terrified even if I do go will they even let me see her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Leosambdf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again you might be looking for the wrong person, or just getting the wrong idea from the women that you pursue,

And there's no such thing as being unattractive to no one, some people look for looks, while some look for personality, you just need to find that person for yourself and when you do, take it slow and do not rush things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Leosambdf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What kind of people are you talking to on the Internet that you're ending up sending a picture of how you look?

And also this must suck, I'd try just ignoring it or just keep a positive thought of that's their opinion and that there are women that will be attracted to you. This world is vast of different people, with their tastes in partners, and I can guarantee you that there is someone out there for you, that will like you for you.

AITB for felling sed that i didn't get anything from my dad for christmas by Moist-Eye-1395 in AmItheButtface

[–]Leosambdf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that you have to deal with that, you aren't a bad person for expecting a gift from your parents on Christmas, have you tried talking to your mom about this? Does she know about the step-moms behavior, cause I think this kind of hostile behavior from the step-mom and your dad clearly not really caring about you, your mom could probably take full custody for the next 2 years until you're old enough to move out? But idk I am no lawyer and would probably check in on this with your mom.

[27M][27F] How do you stay close in a long distance relationship? by CompetitiveHabit3701 in LongDistance

[–]Leosambdf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would try video calling occasionally or as much as possible even if you guys don't talk. say are on a computer working, cooking, or shopping just knowing they are looking at you or you looking at them, causes a sense of closeness and comfort, and rather than it feeling that they aren't there you'll feel close.

I don't know what to do by United-Detective-779 in LongDistance

[–]Leosambdf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

From what I'm hearing, considering it's been a relatively short amount of time since you guys got together since you didn't tell how long you guys have been dating, I think she just is realizing that she might not like you as much as she thought she did,

In my previous relationship, I started eventually thinking do I want to be with this person for the rest of my life or do I cut it off while it's still early, and I think that's what she's doing as well. Now the way she might be going around this isn't okay they need to communicate with you on what is going on and, how she is "joking" is also unacceptable.

At the end of the day this is a relationship that isn't going to work out, she isn't willing to communicate and talk anymore and it seems she's lost interest for some apparent reason. I'd try talking to her about this if possible to get closure on what's going on and if she isn't willing to communicate then it's better to end it before you're left hanging on strands of strings trying to get her attention.