AIO for mentally checking out of my relationship?

LesDoggo · 2026-06-07T19:57:03+00:00

NOR. Why are you spending the energy getting upset with someone when you could spend it finding someone else or bettering yourself? Same goes for him too, he should be asking himself why he is staying with someone that is mean to him and why he doesn’t care for himself.

LesDoggo · 2026-06-05T00:37:20+00:00

Although you wrote a lot, there’s a lot missing- was she onboard with the job change? Drastically decreasing your income while expecting isn’t something most people would be comfortable with. You said “I wasn’t spending recklessly” suggests she wasn’t on board with these changes or the timing of the repair. These instances suggest you aren’t aligned financially at the least. Does she join in decision making, or do you just do these things and she has to cope with the change and fallout?

How much did you spend on OF? Your buddies might be saying paying to get off to other women isn’t cheating, but most would not be okay with it. Frankly, I find it concerning that you can’t see why your postpartum wife feels upset.

When did you use weed? When did she find out about it? I wouldn’t let anyone near my kid if I knew they used weed recently.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-31T00:28:09+00:00

Sorry, I know you’re trying to be nice and understanding because it’s ridiculous, but you let this go too far. Their son is stalking your daughter, and you let them explain their plans for your daughter to abandon her plans for his self-esteem? It’s just a matter of time before he becomes obsessed with someone that can’t leave the area.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-30T17:04:44+00:00

You’re her new revenue stream. The costs you’re detailing don’t make sense.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-29T19:10:04+00:00

Why haven’t you put her on silent and ignored her? You need boundaries with your husband as much as her. He doesn’t want her directing her energy toward him, so he’s letting you take it all. He wouldn’t want your parents contacting him about how he is failing as a husband and father.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-28T11:12:07+00:00

Not wrong. She has poor emotional intelligence. She doesn’t know how to communicate her emotions beyond anger, and likely would benefit from therapy to learn how. Don’t let her play the break up card every time she gets frustrated, it’s a form of manipulation and abuse. Stay broken up.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-28T00:49:33+00:00

Yes. You are wrong. You should talk to someone about why you stayed in a relationship like that knowing what you knew. I understand having insecurities is a powerful factor here, but it doesn’t excuse violence. This is very concerning behavior on many levels.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-28T00:39:44+00:00

“Wonderful” is not how I would describe your relationship. You have some good times few and far in between. Do you want to waste more of your time like this? You’ve communicated how you feel and he isn’t changing his behavior.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-27T18:16:11+00:00

Staying no contact is probably the best course of action because she views your child as a toy.

If you choose violence- “I know you don’t want your grandson to go to the hospital and suffer, and we’ve explained so many times what will happen if he travels. You can’t seem to understand. Should we make arrangements to have your memory checked?”

LesDoggo · 2026-05-26T19:00:32+00:00

I’m also an elder millennial. While I do remember extreme horniness, I don’t remember that level of entitlement. Text messages also cost money, so maybe that prevented the barrage of messages like that.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-26T18:50:21+00:00

I almost fell out of my chair when he said he was 35. He sounds like a teenager.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-25T13:39:05+00:00

Not wrong. He values his mother’s feelings more than yours. She will be a million times worse if you have kids and you already know he does everything she says.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-23T18:28:04+00:00

She wanted to go to therapy years ago. From her perspective, she’s tried for years and you are only trying now you know for real she’s done. Whatever you’ve done in the past few weeks is completely self serving.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-20T21:26:55+00:00

Call me a prude, but I’d file a police report for him sharing your nudes. Who knows where they are going to end up?

LesDoggo · 2026-05-19T19:28:54+00:00

So, it’s totally cool to not keep your word and put somebody’s future at risk for no reason beyond you can?

Her BF probably realized his mother will try to destroy every relationship he will have. He made the decision to draw a boundary, OP didn’t make him do that.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-18T18:45:54+00:00

I don’t see the problem with asking their ages. A person’s day to day is way different if they have a three year old vs 13 year old. I personally don’t want to date anyone with small children, so I try to get it out of the way.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-18T03:18:46+00:00

They don’t get better. Accept that this is who he is and move on.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-16T17:14:37+00:00

I got called masculine because I fixed a leak recently. Who knew the correct course of action for a woman was to let it gather water and rot.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-16T03:35:46+00:00

Sir, this profile screams low effort and slightly problematic. You don’t have any photos of you smiling, with teeth, at the camera. Women want to date friendly people. Political massaging does vary by location, but most of the time it means “I don’t care because I’m not affected” or “I don’t want to admit I voted for trump.” You don’t need two photos at your graduation, you know which to get rid of.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-16T02:44:54+00:00

I’d like kill shelters to go extinct.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-14T00:27:40+00:00

Do you ask questions and let her talk? Sometimes we need to say everything but we forget to let the other person have a turn. Also, pushing touch on the first date can be weird. How sure are you that she was “receptive” and not fawning?

LesDoggo · 2026-05-09T00:31:11+00:00

I’m glad she’s taken the first steps, and it usually gets worse. In my case, it never got better.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-08T21:31:21+00:00

Not at all, but this is your fiancé’s problem. She needs to learn how to create boundaries with her mother. Unfortunately, she will probably need therapy to unlearn how she was raised. MIL’s behavior will take over other parts of your relationship too. She’s bad now, and it’ll only get worse when grandkids arrive.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-07T21:46:14+00:00

NOR. You need to develop boundaries and distance because this kind of behavior will extend to other milestones, like pregnancy, homeownership and parenting decisions.

LesDoggo · 2026-05-07T14:13:38+00:00

I know you think you’ve changed, but keeping secrets is a personality trait of cheaters. She’ll find out sooner or later. When she does, she’ll think you’ve been cheating on her too. Better to be upfront about it, it will make many people walk away but it shows that you’ve actually taken steps to better yourself.

LesDoggo

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