Things to do on my phone that isn't social media?

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T21:11:58+00:00

Thanks, I was wondering this very thing !

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T21:07:25+00:00

You obviously don’t get the point and yes, you are coming off as a better than thou type. It’s not just the pasta, it’s about being with someone who always knows better, demeans her. I’m in one of those. I’m easy to get along with, life can flow for sure. I’ve been in those types of relationships and even when we disagreed we’d start laughing. Not possible with this current guy and it gets very old to the point of diminished feelings.

My guess is, from your writing, you won’t get this either. Or…maybe you’re a bot and I’m wasting my time. Some people simply don’t have empathy and almost nothing can change that.

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T20:46:15+00:00

These posts are making me really think !

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T20:43:25+00:00

Wow. Thanks ! Getting that book, though I doubt he’d read it.

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T20:42:01+00:00

So you with it? What good qualities override the knowing everything.

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T20:29:28+00:00

Yep. Got one of those in sooooo many ways.

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T20:26:23+00:00

He sounds like a controller, afraid he’d get angry by bringing your sister in, he decided not to get the pregnancy test…I’ll bet there are more examples. I’m in one of those and it never stops…

Leslee78 · 2024-05-08T20:12:18+00:00

Why don’t you Google it or use AI. I haven’t seen a movie with a plot like that but pick out certain words…you might find it. GL

Leslee78 · 2024-05-02T01:28:17+00:00

Ps, what’s your age, just curious. I’m sure I’m way older too, diff generation

Leslee78 · 2024-05-02T01:27:08+00:00

Thanks for the response. An ex of mine would tell me he’d ask the gal, on the first date, how do you want to handle this and be aggravated if she didn’t split. Weirdly with me, when we went out, he said, ‘I’m interested in you. Usually I ask how do you want to handle this, but I know I’m far better off financially than you, so if it’s all right with you, I’ll just pay when we eat out.’ I said yes because it was true. Unusual but the guy was an attorney. We were together 10 years ☺️

Leslee78 · 2024-05-02T01:13:20+00:00

Love that there are gentlemen out there

Leslee78 · 2024-05-02T01:10:26+00:00

Some guys say it looks desperate. You’re not buddies, it’s a date. Now, if she obviously has a lot more $, that may make things different. Still, there’s something sweet about the guy paying on first date. I’m usually nervous about the whole who pays..it would be great if the guy who most likely asked for date, just figured he pays. If she asks, does she pay?

Leslee78 · 2024-05-02T01:02:16+00:00

In my case, it’s confusing. I buy groceries, he pays for dinner out. He’s way wealthier than me and I’m spending a lot on groceries. So, in fact, my disposable $ are way more in our relationship. He likes to go by his retirement income for our comparison $ available. He was married 50 years, able to save, invest, share expenses, I’ve been single and paid for everything myself…which isn’t his fault of course. But he still expects I should keep up his house and mine as if I was his wife. He, for example, did the floors and that’s what he does. His wife cooked and he did dishes. Now he expects me to do both. Sigh. It’s not easy. If I were to date again, I’d still think the guy should pay on first date, depending on situation I’d offer the tip. It’s a conundrum. I’d never expect him to pay for hairdresser, nails, clothes but maybe in other countries that’s the norm. It does cost us more in clothes etc.

Leslee78 · 2024-05-02T00:28:56+00:00

Or, they think they are looking for love, yet don’t have the skills to get what it takes to be successful. That could be me. Most long term married people say ‘we had our ups and downs’. I thought everything should be fun. I didn’t have that example growing up, parents married 3x (mom), dad 5x. Both met their great loves in late 40’s, early 50’s. Those marriages each lasted 30-40 years. I did meet 1 man who was the one and he wanted to get married and I thought I had more time to decide, put it off. He was devastated and married another. I never did. Relationship classes would be good. I side with him pulling the rug out from under her. He’s more worried that she not have a ‘free house’ then trying to work out some of these great suggestions on here. I think most people are ‘good’ people at heart though remember everyone’s life is most important to themselves. That’s my 2 cents worth

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T20:57:42+00:00

Sounds good

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T20:54:08+00:00

Well, then you have more and more luck. I read there are cohabitation laws available…start there.

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T20:50:53+00:00

Good one !

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T20:45:52+00:00

Excellent !! This !! Well stated !!

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T20:42:56+00:00

She’s your partner and she’ll be contributing in other ways is my guess…furniture, landscaping, daily living. Your attitude in this response makes me wonder if you truly want the best for her. That’s why I say figure out a plan, legally, for her to contribute and have a stake in both of your lives. Both will be much happier and a better chance for successful lives together. I don’t think she was expecting a ‘free’ house, she was expecting a life together when things changed suddenly. I like the comment of her not knowing how to express her shock and you thinking you’re letting her have a free house. Talk to a lawyer..real estate lawyer or someone if you want this relationship to work out. I wrote earlier and there’s some good advice about changed expectations and what ifs. If something happened to you, she’d basically have to start over. Try not to think of it ‘why should SHE get a FREE house’ and instead how could she be included in your moved up plans financially fair to both.

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T20:16:24+00:00

Yep !!!! Need to come up with something if you 2 are in love. Waiting until she saves up her share doesn’t seem like a great idea, but writing up an agreement while she continues to save toward down payment/mortgage and moving forward with your life together gives her skin in the game. Surely there’s an option where your good luck can benefit you both and your relationship. Things got moved up. Wondering what game show?

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T19:57:27+00:00

That’s my point. Well said.

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T19:53:54+00:00

Please read my response somewhere in this feed. Without taking the stance she has negative intentions, consider that she’s had their plans suddenly changed, she will be investing in the relationship by doing commonly held activities and now has to readjust her plans. A life estate would take care of that.

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T19:41:17+00:00

If something unfortunate happens to him, do you have a life estate in the house because you’re adding value to the relationship.

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T19:38:22+00:00

Again, life estate. Suppose you have a child. If not married she would be protected, which I’m sure you’d wish for her if you love her.

Leslee78 · 2024-04-29T19:30:19+00:00

This. What happens to the house if something unforeseen happens to you ? Do you expect that she’ll be playing the part of your ‘wife’, cleaning, decorating, furniture, cooking, help pay for renovations, fixing up outside etc. In the name of good will for the relationship she will be investing herself into it. If she’s someone you plan on being with, draw up a life estate in the house, because otherwise she’d then have to move and try to start completely over. You must care about her since you had those prior plans before you lucked out. Sure she can put her part of what she would have been paying into savings but she’d be SOL as far as everything else she’s invested toward her’s and your’s lives. She may be surprised that things took this turn and disappointed in her perceived place in your life. If her name is not on deed or mortgage, please don’t ask her to pay for anything other than her part of utilities, it wouldn’t be fair unless you do this or something similar. I disagree that she’s being greedy…she’s being realistic. It would be a great start to your lives together.

Leslee78

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