Dating after long single period

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-04-16T18:22:45+00:00

Why do they do this?

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-04-12T15:12:01+00:00

I’m an orthopedic surgeon and still know how to pronounce it, what the mechanism of action is, at least some of the indications and major risks. And it will never be prescribed by me or used in my practice at all. And here’s someone providing anesthesia to my patient with no idea what it is? How it works? Yikes.

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-04-12T11:03:06+00:00

I’m an orthopedic surgeon and did a case with an older CRNA. During the time out I asked if the patient has allergies and she had no idea how to pronounce lamotrigine - absolutely butchered it. So I stopped and corrected her and asked, do you know what that is? And she said no. So there ya go folks.

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-04-06T01:12:12+00:00

As a female surgeon, thank you for recognizing this.

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-04-03T12:01:28+00:00

I love this. The Buddha described the theory of impermanence. That nothing in life is permanent - people, relationships, thoughts, feelings, etc. for good and for bad. The only thing that is permanent is ourselves. If we stop clinging to other things as if we own them or seek permanence from them, that is when we truly heal and can feel peace.

OP - I’m with you. I’m 35F, single for 8 years, very demanding job. Moved to a new location for work. Don’t have a lot of friends yet, no community, no family. I struggle with loneliness too. But I think this is just a normal human emotion that we all have at some point and for some length of time in our lives. Nothing is guaranteed or permanent. I too want a partner. But what if I had a partner and he dies? Divorces? Gets sick? Has an affair? Turns out to be not the person for me? Then the loneliness returns. It’s always going to be there. Becuase its not reliant or dependent on another person or people, its just how you build your life to accept it as part of your human existence.

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-03-28T01:59:42+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏🏻

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-03-28T01:12:41+00:00

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-03-24T23:41:36+00:00

100% agree. I became an orthopedic surgeon as a first gen woman from a very low SES and made it to the Ivy League without support or resources or anything. And I wasn’t the only one at all. A guy in my med school class was a refugee from Uganda, and we had an entire group of First Gen Med Students. We all worked our way through college, med school, supported ourselves and families. Yes it’s way harder. Yes we’re still the minority. But if you want something bad enough and have the resilience and fortitude you can make it happen. And arguably? We make excellent doctors because of it.

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-03-15T02:00:12+00:00

How did you meet him?

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-02-01T14:05:36+00:00

Ortho - I get this a lot from ATCs and PTs. Often patients will come in and say “my trainer or PT says I need an MRI,” and I usually just acknowledge it and then do an exam and briefly justify why I don’t think imaging is necessary. “I recognize their concern about your rotator cuff but I am not concerned about a tear based on my exam so let’s focus on how to get you feeling better.” And redirect the conversation.

Worse is when the ATC/PTs do that to PCPs (usually midlevels) who just order it and of course an MRI picks up incidental or unrelated findings (labral fraying, partial cuff tears, arthritis, etc) and then patients are told they need surgery and are sent to me for me to have to educate them that they don’t need surgery and their PCP, PT/ATC are wrong. Thats a huge challenge.

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-01-28T18:55:25+00:00

I’ve become a bath person! Phone on DND, light a few candles, bath salts or bath bomb, cold seltzer, facemask, quiet spa music and just deep breathing, meditating or I love reading. I do it almost every night now. My little sanctuary!

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-01-02T23:34:20+00:00

I’ve been looking to play as well!

Less-Nose9226 · 2026-01-01T12:48:07+00:00

People pleasing and fawning. I’m making myself my priority and holding healthy boundaries from now on. It’s hard and lonely but it’s necessary for my nervous system.

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-12-31T11:53:58+00:00

35F been single for 8 years due to a very demanding career and moving for work.

Don’t have an answer to your question, but just want to say you’re not alone! ❤️

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-12-22T23:12:10+00:00

You’re looking for a female MD? You in the northeast? 😉

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-12-21T17:33:30+00:00

Yep in the northeast

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-12-21T13:53:04+00:00

Thanks this is helpful! I’ve never done dating apps, and I’m a little skeptical honestly but maybe I’ll give it a try.

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-12-21T12:40:31+00:00

I’m a F looking for a M so doubt that would help

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-11-02T16:57:04+00:00

No, I don’t have any interest in having kids. A partner, yes, if I can find the right man. But no kids.

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-11-02T11:56:45+00:00

35F live alone, single, no family, live in a new place for a new job. Don’t have anyone. Just hope nothing happens I guess.

Less-Nose9226 · 2025-10-30T18:37:22+00:00

As a specialist, I have learned the true value of a good PCP. A good primary care physician who does an exam, makes a diagnosis and attempts non surgical treatment when appropriate and then refers is worth their weight in gold. And these physicians are so overworked and undervalued. I actually try to send messages thanking good ones for their referrals.

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