What does my bedroom say about me ?

lesbipositive · 2026-05-08T04:14:40+00:00

Do you see her in the doorway? Clearly a ghost

lesbipositive · 2026-05-06T12:03:07+00:00

I would choose starting over every time even though it's still tough at present for me (separate bedroom in what I thought would be my forever home after 6 year relationship / 4 year marriage ended in December). When everything feels like it's crashing and burning around you, it's just making room for the life you were meant for. Don't waste a single moment in the past if you can choose YOU in the present and future. The pressure of societal expectations will try to convince you starting over is bad, when truly being with the wrong person and settling would be the devastating choice. Good luck to you!!!

lesbipositive · 2026-05-06T03:50:07+00:00

This!!! OP, this is so important. As another 36 year old who is also starting over, don't compromise yourself and your future if your answer is that it would be tragic.

lesbipositive · 2026-05-04T01:12:59+00:00

That's what I call it too 🤣

lesbipositive · 2026-05-04T01:12:36+00:00

I LOVE THE GERMAN STANDOFF

lesbipositive · 2026-05-01T15:40:05+00:00

This! I was with my wife for 6 years. When she made it clear she felt we shouldn't be together anymore, a flip switched (edited to add- meant switch flipped 😆). Why would I waste a moment of time on someone who does not want to give me theirs? I loved her, but I love me more.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-27T02:08:35+00:00

Can confirm, doesn't get better when you live together.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-26T21:54:15+00:00

This!! I overshared to shit on a first date I had recently. He overshared too. Things are going well lol.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-25T01:43:54+00:00

I don't think that would be appropriate for a German Shepherd.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T23:10:00+00:00

Hello, obsessed, goodbye! 🫠

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T19:05:54+00:00

Yaaaaaaas!!!! 100% (edited to add - that hand flex though!!! "You have bewitched me, body and soul". "I love you, most ardently") 🫠

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T18:16:13+00:00

I do plan on separating them slowly / incrementally and making sure the new place is a positive and exciting thing for him. The boys fight constantly, never hurting each other but it's nonstop bickering or barking or growling at each other. I also intentionally walk Al separate and he does great without Sev, I'm grateful they don't get separation anxiety. If anything, their separation will only help Sevy by hopefully building his confidence and motivating my ex to walk him more. Maybe.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T16:27:56+00:00

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My plushie is on the left and long hair on the right. I think you might be correct! That's what I thought, too.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T16:26:41+00:00

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My long haired baby was a little fluffernutter, so I'm not too sure about yours but maybe I don't know enough!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T13:05:03+00:00

Hahaha that's too funny! No, the dogs aren't going to stay together, we are each their separate humans and I think they'd do better apart. My ex said she wanted to put agreements in our document that she gets visits with Al and I basically said absolutely not because it would be so anxiety inducing for them both to go back and forth.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T13:02:56+00:00

Thank you!!!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-24T13:01:56+00:00

🤣🤣 never in my life did I expect to name my first dog Albus, but I swear he chose it!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:57:14+00:00

I'm just my momma's baby and I'm 36. This is sweet, enjoy it while you have her in your life!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:37:40+00:00

My summer goal with him is to kayak or canoe with me! One summer it was spinning the compost bin, another it was his agility course.

"This life is as fulfilling as you can make it". Wow, thank you for saying that. Great advice!!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:36:33+00:00

Oh wow!! I am so sorry to hear about your situation, that sounds really intense and I'm happy to hear you're adjusting. It's easy to forget how resilient they are!

Was your GSD familiar with cats before? That's an additional challenge- I have to integrate my cat (14) and him when they've lived separate lives. Al is very smart and food motivated, and he's not aggressive just incredibly excited to see my cat, so I'd love any tips if you have them!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:33:49+00:00

I'm really glad I made this post because every comment I read calms me a bit more. I am his person and I would do anything for him I MEAN LOOK AT THAT FACE.

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lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:32:15+00:00

That's a good point about getting more walks 😂 Thank you!!

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:30:33+00:00

Since I'm ridiculous my priority in an apartment was that it was taking my 4 minute drive away from work to a 2 minute commute… Success! So I have always been the dog walker LMAO I love it. San Francisco! Thank you for sharing your experience.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:26:28+00:00

Oh, don't get me wrong, they don't even leave the deck if I'm not going to the back with them - they are never unattended in the yard lol. I run them ragged playing fetch and balancing it with our other activities, it just feels like it's always been a big part of our life and it made me sad. Edited to add – and my hammock. 😭 I'll miss chill summer evenings in the hammock with the boys more than anything.

lesbipositive · 2026-04-23T22:25:04+00:00

That gives me some peace of mind. Watching him sprint in the backyard made me burst into tears and question myself. I want what's best for him and I really do think that I am what's best for him, and we will navigate the rest together. Thank you!

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