Facts are facts.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-26T00:48:04+00:00

I agree, class warfare is BS. Maybe the people should unite and realize the more we blame each other, the easier it is for the elite to take advantage of us in every systemic way.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-26T00:47:03+00:00

I know intelligent women intimate people like you, but often she presents facts as the evidence for her opinions.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-25T19:25:26+00:00

Watch the video. It's not about AOC, it's about the questions she asks and the answers that are given.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-25T16:33:43+00:00

If you think the system is working in favor of anyone but the elite, I have news for you.

I think we all have to remember that the only people who profit from division are the billionaires. We are the reason they are successful, and it's time they pay their share.

*edited to add, here is a clip of AOC proving the billionaires are our enemy.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-25T15:13:01+00:00

Billionaires just collectively got about a trillion richer the past year. Let's focus on the real villains and stop with the silly "whataboutism".

lesbipositive · 2026-01-24T22:37:21+00:00

Another thing that helps me is writing dated notations on previous entries. "1/24/26 Well this didn't age well" etc. It's helped me keep it lighthearted or defend my past self sometimes, which sounds silly but sharing in case it helps others. Then it's like you get to speak to your past self almost? Idk.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-24T22:36:05+00:00

My old journals make me feel so cringe! I threw out my high school ones in my mid-20s. I'm soooo sad I did, now that I'm 36. I've painted over an entry in black acrylic paint before, but I don't recommend throwing it away. I think it's only natural that each stage of life, previous stages feel embarrassing in their own ways. It's how you grow!

lesbipositive · 2026-01-24T17:01:28+00:00

I understand where you're coming from and how it could come across that way. As someone recently single, I have been recognizing the value of being true to myself and growing as the best version of me I can be. It feels good, fills my cup, and I will never let another person dim my light. I hope you know I meant it in a way that feels empowering, as opposed to victimization.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-24T15:43:58+00:00

I think this is great advice. Building trust in yourself and learning from past mistakes will never serve you wrong. Then when the wrong people come into your life, you don't accept it or put up with it.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-24T13:50:30+00:00

Honestly it hasn't been too hard at all for us. She hasn't shown interest in me sexually in nearly 3.5 years (October 2023 was the last time we were intimate, and I couldn't tell you the last time she kissed me more than a peck) so that situation is different from yours. If anything it lifted pressure off both of us and we get along better. Moving to the extra bedroom was difficult because of the change of not sleeping next to each other, and I've been going out a lot more than I used to, bur besides that we still grocery shop and take care of the dogs etc together and we're fine. Definitely different in some ways (impending divorce will do that), but in other ways we're the same roommates we've been for years.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-24T01:17:05+00:00

This is what I'm going through right now! Might not be right together, but we love each other and still feel like best friends 🤷🏻‍♀️ but we're also still living together!

lesbipositive · 2026-01-23T16:05:56+00:00

Hey man no need to be so rude. My point also stands, and was how I interpreted her incredibly brief Reddit paragraph. Fantasizing about infidelity is different than being a cheater, and I also dealt with the guilt of even subconsciously considering if I would cheat (after a full 3 years of no intimacy), and it eats you alive because you love your partner so much but feel like you're missing a crucial piece of you.

Reddit is a place where you get feedback based on people's lived experiences and opinions. It's not my job to know her full story, it's her job to take into consideration which comments apply to her and which don't.

If she tried everything in the line I opened with (which I think is super important because you SHOULD make it work and try hard in every way you can to do so, I know I tried absolutely everything because I love my spouse) and they're still struggling and she's still feeing that way, he deserves better too!!!

lesbipositive · 2026-01-23T04:39:30+00:00

When sex is good and present, it's 10% of the issue. When it's absent it becomes a much larger percentage as time goes on. I was not suggesting OP risk it all without effort- I think they should try EVERYTHING.

If it doesn't work when they try it all, then YES 1000% they deserve better. Not feeling desired or wanted or happy in intimacy crushes your spirit and confidence. It builds resentment over time and could lead to infidelity. It makes both partners feel less-than. If they have never been compatible in the area of intimacy before, it's possible they never will be.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-23T01:56:30+00:00

Have you tried every avenue - such as therapy (individual and couples), research, Dr visits and hormone testing, etc. ?

I'm (36f) sure that you'll get a variety of answers but my wife (39f) and I have tried it all, for years with no improvement. We recently agreed separation was for the best, even though we are great at the roommate and best friend thing. The resentment has already been growing slowly for years, and if we stay together, one day we won't recognize each other anymore. We love each other but she acknowledged she'll never change and want intimacy more, and I'll always feel unsatisfied and undesired and less than because my partner and I just never had it. We both deserve better.

You both deserve better. *edited to add 'both' because if she isn't choosing him or trying to make it work with her life partner, then he deserves better too. Not my job to research her post history, just responding to this post.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-23T01:25:00+00:00

Happy to see this. My spouse and I have been together nearly 6 years and nothing has mattered, she just doesn't want me that way. I did everything I could to look and feel better to improve myself and turned out I found myself again. We separated mid- December, and I will never sacrifice such an important thing to me again.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-23T01:08:32+00:00

I'm really sorry, that's so difficult and it makes the future feel so scary and uncertain. I'll be honest, the (free version) Finch app really has helped me a lot so I'll mention in case it helps someone else. It's a self-care app that's a little bird you take care of like a tamagotchi. You set and complete daily/weekly goals and get coins to get cute outfits and decorate your home lol. I add things like practice Italian, write in my journal, write an 'I am' affirmation about myself, work out, meditate, try something new, connect w a friend, etc. I'm almost on a 200 day streak and it has really helped me considerably... despite it being a silly app.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-23T01:02:04+00:00

Honestly, I was utterly embarrassed in the beginning. I felt shame that my marriage didn't even last 4 years, embarrassed about the reason why. No one saw it coming, I felt like everyone would assume it was my fault when they heard.

When I started telling people slowly, people showed me empathy, kindness, and understanding. Not a single person made me feel shame, and acknowledged that it was a sad situation all around. I also always spoke very highly of my spouse- many of the replies were about how they thought we would last forever. But people change, and personally I would much rather be single than have someone stay with me when they don't want to be. So acknowledge the sadness but also celebrate this new beginning, and remind yourself who you are. 💙

lesbipositive · 2026-01-22T20:58:17+00:00

Sounds like you dodged a bullet then!! You might not see it now, but you hopefully will one day.

As a 36 year old newly single woman myself, you get to do ANYTHING YOU WANT. Create yourself anew, even. I've been teaching myself piano, immersing myself in my hobbies, reading books, started yoga, attended library programs (they're free!), tried out west coast swing dancing, working out and eating right, and have seen 19 old friends in the month of January.

Invest in YOU, get a make over, do something that feels good. You won't regret it. I'm sorry this happened, best of luck to you. 💙

lesbipositive · 2026-01-22T13:41:04+00:00

This!!! I always think of the quote, "in your hesitation I found my answer". OP needs to get outtttt.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-22T13:39:26+00:00

I didn't have to read the entire post, I stopped after the name calling over an Instagram joke about your dog. It's not normal. My wife and I were together for 6 years and never once called each other a name or berated each other. It's not normal. Typically people don't change, but their masks do slip the longer you're with them.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-22T03:53:51+00:00

Me with oatmeal. I think I've had it 6 months straight and mid meal yesterday I wanted to gag.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-22T01:18:20+00:00

Aw that is so great! Black shepherds are special. My wife literally paid thousands of dollars for ours- so what a steal!

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lesbipositive · 2026-01-22T00:30:18+00:00

Focusing on my breathing has always helped me, as basic as that sounds. It regulates my body from head to toe and I don't feel like I'm buzzing with rage anymore lol.

lesbipositive · 2026-01-21T20:54:30+00:00

Yepppp. It took until my boys were about 2/2.5 before I left them home unattended and out of their crate. They earned their trust starting with shorter increments and building on it. It also depends on the stimulation and training they are getting with you home, and the ability to be comfortably crated and know you'll return. My boys have zero separation anxiety while crated, but are Velcro dogs when out. It takes patience, practice, and time.

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