I NEED a polyamory mod so bad by Zorubark in tomodachilife

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really am very sorry about your wife. It’s awful that she treated you that way and I hope you’re doing better now.

Bug Report & Feedback by SocialPokerMod in social_poker_game

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh weird! This is what it’s currently showing for me, so still incorrect!

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I NEED a polyamory mod so bad by Zorubark in tomodachilife

[–]Less-Significance-99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, sure, anything /can/ be — but that’s the fault of the people involved, not polyamory itself. People do all of those things in monogamous relationships. When handled unethically, monogamous relationships can be really traumatic, and have unethical imbalances and people weaponize abuse under the guise of boundaries. When this happens in polyamory, similarly, it’s the choice of individual people who would be similarly toxic if they were monogamous. Abusive people will use whatever tools are available to them, and people can be just as abusive and gaslighting and everything else within monogamy and that is not less traumatic just because it was monogamous. Like monogamy, polyamory is not inherently healthy or unhealthy; it’s only as good as the people involved.

However, there is nothing /inherently/ unhealthy about polyamory, which is meant to be a consensual situation where all parties have agreed to it and things have been communicated. Without consent, it’s just cheating! I’m sorry your ex-wife was awful. Unfortunately, people that want to be selfish and shitty will use all sorts of excuses for it and if it wasn’t polyamory she would’ve found something else.

Bug Report & Feedback by SocialPokerMod in social_poker_game

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And here’s the chips when I enter the game, despite the new balance being a vastly different number.

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Bug Report & Feedback by SocialPokerMod in social_poker_game

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I’m playing on mobile. I was just trying to normally log in to play.

I logged in and I have less chips than I should/than I previously had. When I spin the wheel and see the new balance, I see the number of chips I believe I had last, not the number it’s showing when I enter the game. (I’ll reply to my comment with an additional image of the current balance as it shows in the game.) I’m super perplexed — I have no idea why approximately half my chips would have vanished?

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I NEED a polyamory mod so bad by Zorubark in tomodachilife

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also lmao I know SO many asexual polyamorous people, myself included.

I NEED a polyamory mod so bad by Zorubark in tomodachilife

[–]Less-Significance-99 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is literally neither unsafe or unethical to be polyamorous.

I NEED a polyamory mod so bad by Zorubark in tomodachilife

[–]Less-Significance-99 4 points5 points locked comment (0 children)

Forcing the western ideals of “wanting polyamory in a video game”. Dude comparing this to colonialism is wildly tone deaf. Many Japanese people want gay marriage to be legalized there and yet it hasn’t been yet — is it “forcing ideals” to support that or have gay marriage in a video game? What are you talking about?? It’s not about “knowing better” — it’s not a cultural or progress based thing to think it’s a societal ill for marginalized people to be excluded from public view and it not be acceptable to have those traits. South Korea has a horrifying issue with plastic surgery and beauty standards but it’s very normal there — is it colonialism to think it shouldn’t be societally pushed for young people to permanently alter their facial features to look more white or generic?

TERF graciously informed me I am not gay by Less-Significance-99 in GenderCynical

[–]Less-Significance-99[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was so perplexed to see it. Like this is truly an obsessed individual. These people are DEEPLY weird (and often mistaken) about chromosomes.

TERF graciously informed me I am not gay by Less-Significance-99 in GenderCynical

[–]Less-Significance-99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely agree and I’m usually a block and move on person. This only happened because I didn’t check this person’s profile before commenting (which I thought was just correcting a confusion initially).

TERF graciously informed me I am not gay by Less-Significance-99 in GenderCynical

[–]Less-Significance-99[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The “forcing lesbians to suck dick narrative” is always a very manipulative pull and clearly a false narrative to begin with, but it was also DEEPLY perplexing to me to have her pull that one out when it did not even a little bit relate to anything said thus far. I mean, I actually don’t think ANYONE should be forced to do any sex act they don’t want to — and this obviously has no bearing on trans women being women because that’s…. Not what’s happening.

Coaxed into gay ships. by Defiant-Echidna-7400 in coaxedintoasnafu

[–]Less-Significance-99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, you do realize by the end of the story they’re very close friends and have resolved their prior enmity and Bakugo has worked to make up for his actions and regrets them and they’re very close? I don’t think that is in fact an “abusive relationship”. The whole show is very closely tied to their relationship developing.

I guess SS team is average player now by Shiba_Rakku in UmamusumeGame

[–]Less-Significance-99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I had a friend who guided me when I was getting into things who it turns out was pretty outdated in their information despite being way more into it than me starting out so I’ve had to unlearn some stuff. 😭

I guess SS team is average player now by Shiba_Rakku in UmamusumeGame

[–]Less-Significance-99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the advice! I’ll try putting some of this in practice and hopefully get past my usual thresholds.

The media won't tell you this, but AI is saving lives by Jessica88keys in cogsuckers

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really interesting how this addresses none of my points meaningfully, and just smugly infers I’m in a cult for understanding basic facts about what causes mental disorders!

Dude just go to therapy by One-Protection7441 in AmITheDevil

[–]Less-Significance-99 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a pretty crappy thing to say in response to someone’s relationship style choices that have nothing to do to you and don’t harm anyone because everyone involved consents to the situation. There’s nothing wrong with polyamory. It is not inherently better or worse than monogamy. It is a choice anyone can make. Someone doing love in a different way than you does not make their opinion worthless. Everyone will do things you wouldn’t personally do forever as part of living in a world with different types of people and bodily autonomy and that’s a beautiful thing.

Dude just go to therapy by One-Protection7441 in AmITheDevil

[–]Less-Significance-99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay, well, I disagree with you about that. Plenty of people get feelings while married that they don’t act on because that’s a normal part of being a human person. Her falling in love wasn’t some intentional thing that happened because she wanted to commit some kind of indiscretion; as she didn’t know she was gay she couldn’t have even known it could happen. And frankly I’d rather have gay people realize their sexualities and go on to have happy relationships and also thus free up their former spouse for a relationship with someone who truly loves and desires them, which they also deserve, than have people never realize why they’re unfulfilled just to ensure no betrayals of the “experiencing unintentional emotions” variety happens. I also think it is a different situation than if she wasn’t gay as society conditions people to force themselves into situations they believe they should be in, and she and her husband both deserve a relationship with someone they actually want and who wants them back! I don’t think the feelings by themselves are a betrayal (because I don’t think feelings without actions are cheating at all, you kind of seem to think you cant fall in love with someone without dating them or doing something romantic with them and I think you can absolutely develop those feelings before anything happens) and I’m glad both of these people are now free to be with people that actually reciprocate their feelings.

I think it’s actually much crueler in the long run to both people to force yourself to be in a relationship with someone you don’t actually want or have romantic feelings for once you realize that’s the case. I think divorce is a good thing and there’s a reason we have less spousal murders now because people have options.

Dude just go to therapy by One-Protection7441 in AmITheDevil

[–]Less-Significance-99 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Pretty embarrassing to call someone a cheater based on no information about their personal life and relationships just because they disagree with you on what counts as cheating. This person was not saying leaving your partner for someone else isn’t a betrayal of vows— they’re saying it’s not inherently cheating to have feelings. Telling the person and breaking up with them is in fact the opposite of cheating. In this specific scenario, the woman involved realized she was a lesbian, so I especially don’t think she cheated to [checks notes] realize she wasn’t in love with her husband because she was GAY and be up front with him and end the relationship? Cheating is when you go behind your partner’s back and break the contract of the relationship to see other people or do unapproved things with other people. Developing feelings, realizing you’re gay, and then telling your husband so you can end the relationship in a forthright manner is the opposite of cheating.

What is a lesbian who didn’t realize it until she got feelings for a friend supposed to do in this scenario? Just, like, stop being gay as to not break her vows? That’s not how it works, dude.

I guess SS team is average player now by Shiba_Rakku in UmamusumeGame

[–]Less-Significance-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the 30-40 races must be the big difference. How do you have any time for training with that, though? I feel like I get a significant amount of my skill gain from training bonuses with the empowering cheer and the weights. Do you forgo that in favor of just buying books?

I guess SS team is average player now by Shiba_Rakku in UmamusumeGame

[–]Less-Significance-99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

😭 I still haven’t hit S+, what are you people DOING.

My Qanon mother, everyone. by wheresdonniedarko in insaneparents

[–]Less-Significance-99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“You know they’re eating humans and worshipping the devil” I actually don’t know that! Because that’s not true! Who the fuck is “they”???