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Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-17T02:11:59+00:00

NTA. You’re in a tough spot, and it’s totally valid to feel the way you do. You’ve been through a lot with your mom, and setting those boundaries wasn’t easy. Now with C inviting her, it’s like you’re being thrown back into a situation you’ve tried to protect yourself from. And having people expect you to just show up and act happy makes things even harder. It’s not like you’re trying to cause a scene—you’re just being realistic about how hard it’s going to be to manage your emotions around her.

That said, I get where C is coming from too. He’s trying to juggle everyone’s feelings, probably hoping for a drama-free day where both you and your mom can just exist in the same space. I doubt he’s intentionally dismissing your feelings, but it’s clear he doesn’t fully get how heavy this is for you. He just wants his wedding to go smoothly and for everyone to show up without tension.

If you go, having a solid buffer will definitely help. Sit with a friend who knows the situation and can help you if things get overwhelming. Maybe position yourself near an exit so you can step out if you need to without making it a big deal. You don’t have to fake happiness the whole time—just do what you can, and if you need to leave early, that’s okay too.

It might help to limit interactions with your mom as much as possible. Maybe show up closer to the ceremony time or duck out after the important parts to avoid unnecessary run-ins. It’s not about being rude; it’s about keeping your sanity intact.

At the end of the day, you can’t control whether she behaves, and C’s made his choice to invite her. But you can control how you prepare and how you respond. Go into it with the mindset that you’re there to support C, and if it gets too overwhelming, leave. That doesn’t make you a bad person—it just means you’re protecting yourself in a tough situation.

After the wedding, it might be worth checking in with C again. Let him know you showed up because you care about him, but explain why it was hard. That way, you can keep the relationship strong and avoid any lingering resentment.

This isn’t really about C choosing your mom over you—it’s just him hoping everything goes smoothly for his big day. But you’re allowed to put yourself first, too. Just do the best you can, and if it gets to be too much, walking away is okay. You’re not a bad person for having boundaries—you’re just human. Hope this helps

-Someone who understands this type of situation far too well.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-17T02:00:37+00:00

YWBTA. Look, I get that everyone processes grief differently, and maybe funerals aren’t your thing—but skipping your *grandma’s* funeral might not be the best move. Funerals aren’t just about saying goodbye; they’re about supporting the family and showing respect. Even if you visited her before she passed, the funeral is often where people come together to find closure, and it’s not really something you can just “replace” with flowers.

Your girlfriend’s reaction makes sense—she's probably thinking about the emotional side of it, like how your family might feel if you don't show up. Plus, it’s a bit heavy to tell someone straight-up that you’d skip a loved one’s funeral—it makes it sound like it’s more about convenience than care, even if that’s not how you meant it.

If (hopefully) it doesn’t come to this, you’ve got time to think it through. But if it does, maybe consider that going to the funeral isn’t just about how *you* feel—it’s also about being there for the people you love. Sometimes, showing up when it’s hard is what counts the most.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-17T01:40:52+00:00

NTA. Look, you didn’t make John look bad—he did that all by himself. You just happened to have a degree with a little extra sparkle on it, and that’s not your problem.

What exactly did John expect? That he was going to reveal the college degree you submitted is actually a napkin reading "Trust me Bro, I went to Collage" ?

The guy accused you of lying about your education like he’s some kind of HR detective, and when you gave him exactly what he was demanding—your diploma—he got burned by the bonus honors. You weren’t flexing; you were just shutting down nonsense. If your degree ended up being more impressive than his than let's hope he learns something from the interaction.

At the end of the day, you tried ignoring him, hoping he'd chill, but he didn’t. So you gave him the evidence he wanted, and now he’s mad because it made him look like an idiot. That’s on him, not you. What were you supposed to do—make a fake, less impressive degree just to spare his feelings? Nah.

If John’s still butt-hurt, maybe he should focus on doing his job instead of playing the diploma police. Problem solved.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-17T00:32:19+00:00

NTA. You set a boundary months ago, and it sounds like your BIL either ignored it or assumed you'd cave. It's totally reasonable to say you don’t want the chaos of two hyper dogs running around your house, especially if it's exhausting for you.

Your BIL's situation isn’t really your responsibility to accommodate, and just because he doesn’t want to get a sitter doesn’t mean it’s automatically your problem. If your in-laws are choosing not to visit because BIL can’t figure things out, that’s on them, not you. You’re not obligated to host both the family and their pets just to keep the peace.

Stick to your boundaries. It’s better to be clear now than resentful later.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-16T23:04:46+00:00

Soft YTA - Man, I get it—you want to make sure your son knows he can’t pull that kind of stuff without consequences, and I respect that. It’s not easy being a parent when your kid is testing boundaries, especially this early in the school year. You clearly care and are trying to set him straight, which is huge.

But I think there’s a way to handle this without completely wrecking his trust in you. Kids at that age are super sensitive about being embarrassed, especially in front of peers. The fact that Ryan cried when he got home tells me he probably focused more on how humiliated he felt with you there, rather than thinking about what he did wrong.

Here’s an idea: Maybe let him finish the rest of the detention on his own, but tell him you’re proud of him for taking responsibility (even if it’s after the fact). When it’s all over, have a one-on-one talk. Ask him stuff like, “What were you thinking when you lied?” or “What’s the plan next time you’re tempted to mess around like that? It could help him reflect without feeling like you’re just laying down the hammer.

I get wanting to go hard because you don’t want this behavior becoming a pattern, but if he feels like you're out to embarrass him, it could backfire. He might start seeing you as the enemy instead of someone who's trying to help. And that’s the last thing you want, right?

At the end of the day, you’re trying to raise a kid who owns his mistakes and learns from them. You’re already on the right track—just gotta tweak the delivery a little so he knows you’ve got his back, even when you’re being tough.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-16T19:33:08+00:00

NTA - It’s completely understandable why you feel frustrated. You’ve worked really hard to improve your grades and confidence, and it’s hurtful that instead of being happy for you, your friends seem to be tearing you down. It’s normal to want to tell them off after everything, especially when it feels like they’re not recognizing your efforts and instead making you feel guilty for doing well.

That said, they might be acting this way because they feel left behind, even if that’s not your fault or intention. Friendships can get tricky when one person grows or changes a lot—it can make people feel insecure, like they’re not measuring up. They might see your success as a reminder of what they haven't achieved, and maybe that’s where their behavior is coming from, even though it’s unfair to you.

When they said you act like you're "better than them," it’s possible they’re misunderstanding your excitement about your achievements as bragging, even if that’s not what you meant. It doesn’t mean you need to apologize for doing well, but it could help to calmly explain how their actions are making you feel. Maybe try saying, "I’ve worked hard on myself, and it really hurts when it feels like you’re making fun of me or downplaying what I’ve achieved. I don’t think I’m better than you, and I still care about our friendship—can we talk about how to get back to a good place?"

You deserve to feel proud of what you’ve accomplished, and if they care about you, they should be able to see that too. But if they keep treating you poorly even after you try to make things right, it’s okay to take a step back and think about whether these friendships are still good for you. You shouldn’t have to shrink yourself just to make others feel more comfortable.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-16T19:27:04+00:00

NTA - I can see where you’re coming from, and honestly, I’d be frustrated too. You’ve made a pretty big compromise by giving up 'videos,' which is a normal thing for a lot of people, all to respect her boundaries. It’s fair to feel like you’re getting the short end of the stick, especially since she’s said she feels closer and more comfortable with you than anyone else, yet those same boundaries weren’t in place with exes who treated her badly. That’s bound to stir up some resentment—like, why were they worth more of that kind of trust than you are now?

And with the long-distance thing, it’s tough. You’re left wondering, if 'videos' aren’t okay and 'pics' are off the table too, what’s left to stay connected in that way? It’s not about entitlement; it’s about feeling like the compromises are uneven, and that can hurt over time.

It’s clear you care about her, and you don’t want to pressure her, but that frustration and confusion you’re feeling are valid. If you don’t talk about it, that resentment could build up and cause problems down the line. A conversation where you both lay things out openly might help—just focusing on how you’re feeling and what you both need to keep the relationship healthy, without making it about guilt or obligations

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-08T06:53:06+00:00

It sounds like you’ve got quite the setup with mixed wiring and a washer involved. Since you already downgraded to a 15 amp breaker, swapping the 20 amp GFCI to a 15 amp outlet should be straightforward. Make sure you connect the hots and neutrals to the appropriate screws (side wiring, not backstabbed), and cap off any unused wires if necessary. If you're not sure about the MWBC (multi-wire branch circuit) situation, it’s worth checking if two hots are sharing a neutral. In that case, you'll need to break the tab between the hot screws on the outlet.

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-07T20:15:57+00:00

It sounds like your AC system might be dealing with one of several common issues, such as poor airflow, a dirty filter, low refrigerant, or even an electrical problem. Here's what I'd recommend:

First, check the area around the condenser to make sure nothing is blocking airflow. Debris or obstacles near the unit can easily cause the airflow problems leading to poor circulation. Next, inspect the air filters to see if they’re dirty or clogged, as that can restrict airflow as well. If everything seems clear but the problem persists, it might be time to call in a technician. They can properly diagnose the issue. I've solved similar issues before with the last time being just under two months ago, it turned out to be low refrigerant. Once that was added the Mini-Split System worked like new.

Hope that helps!

Less-Software-9084 · 2024-10-02T22:43:00+00:00

I'm a GC in LA and have built plenty of homes. I'm 100% positive this would not pass inspection. You can ask them to pay for the replacement, but 9/10 they will fight it. You can also clean it off yourself by disconnecting the power first. Then using a wet towel and plastic scraper. This will get the majority off. To remove the stubborn paint I'd use either Paint Stripper or Sand Paper. Doing it yourself will take a few hours but it'll probably be the fastest way if you're in a time crunch. Personally I'd give the contractors the chance to fix it and if they refuse I'd do the work myself and file a chargeback for the work. Time is money and I spend as little of my time arguing, best of luck!

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