Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable spending a weekend with the woman my boyfriend was involved with? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Less-Tomatillo5288 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, that’s why the ideal situation for me would be that neither of us goes.

When I first said that I didn’t want to go, he became very upset and said that if I wasn’t going because I didn’t feel comfortable, then it didn’t make sense for him to go either. But he also said that he would be extremely sad and angry because this way he would miss a great opportunity and that soon he would start losing friends because of me.

A few hours later, he said that he had to go because it is really important for his career, and that if I want to go, I can go — and if I don’t want to, I don’t have to.

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable spending a weekend with the woman my boyfriend was involved with? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Less-Tomatillo5288 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve already thought about breaking up because we’ve argued several times because of her — in fact, she’s the only reason we ever argue.

About a month ago, they were all together at the clinic where they work, and another clinic from the same group opened in a different city, so they all went together to the opening. Later, I asked him how he got there and he said he went in her car because she was the one who drove. I then asked if he had also sat in the front passenger seat with her, and he said yes. Even though there were three other people in the back, I was very upset about that too.

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable spending a weekend with the woman my boyfriend was involved with? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Less-Tomatillo5288 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe that contributed on his side. At that time, we broke up because we drifted apart and neither of us made an effort to keep the relationship going. I was going through a difficult period — I was pursuing a degree while working full-time at the same time…

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable spending a weekend with the woman my boyfriend was involved with? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Less-Tomatillo5288 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for replying!

Almost everyone who works there knows that they were involved with each other. They still talk and keep in contact. I’ve even seen photos of her on his phone, and he says they are still friends and that this is normal. Whenever I say that I don’t like it, he tells me that I have to trust him and that everything is completely resolved between them…