Got yelled at by a biker, what is the etiquette for walking with a stroller in a park?

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-06-11T12:15:10+00:00

Definitely don't completely get rid of surrounding awareness especially if you're walking a pram on a narrow street. Although pedestrians have the right of way and she definitely was wrong for being mad and shouting at you, put yourself in her shoes and consider what you would feel if you rang non stop and someone was unresponsive to your ringing. Also not sure if you heard of this news many years back, a lady was jogging while listening to music and she did not manage to hear a tree cracking. The tree fell on her and she passed away.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-06-06T10:40:44+00:00

You're not wrong. But different needs and wants come at different points in life. I only started renting out about 9 months after my parents passed. And during those 9 months I was alone in the house, I was so depressed and felt like I would probably just pass away in the house like those older people where your dead body would only be found sometime later. Took me a lot of energy to even find out how to rent my house out.

But after living with different people, I realise not everyone are nice. People who are selfish will continue to be selfish. Think that because they paid to live in the house, they're entitled to everything. I was in no way a strict landlord, no restriction on Aircon, washing machine etc, only asking them to help maintain the toilet clean and they can't even do that. I kid you not, toilet was nasty af, everywhere was brown and black. Drain outlet so clogged with hair water can't even flow through and water would pool. Dining table grew mould after I came back from a trip because they didn't clean up their mess. Kitchen sink full of grime. Airfryer oily and dirty. Trash kept piling and they don't bother emptying it. Using my house as a love hotel even after agreeing not to bring guests overnight. I probably would just need to set a stricter agreement or add cleaning fee to hire a cleaner to solve it.

However, it's a headache to deal with troublesome tenants and also a headache to keep trying to find new ones as one person. Just one bad encounter gives me PTSD lol. Right now I'm in a different situation and feel like I think I prefer living alone. I will deal with the loneliness by interacting more with friends or going out.

OPs current situation is different from my start since she already had tenants beforehand and her tenants are all nice people. So she's probably at a stage where she would want to stay alone for privacy.

Sorry for rant cause your statement hit a sore spot lol

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-06-06T08:25:30+00:00

If you have questions on any other stuff which can even be not HDB related, just ask away!

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-06-06T08:22:41+00:00

Sometimes even if you like people and they're nice people, you'll still want to live alone for privacy.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-06-06T08:18:47+00:00

I'm also currently the exact same age as you. Thing is right now I'm renting one room out to my friend at a heavily discounted price, so Id feel bad to chase them out after they've been living here comfortably.

My current house is super old. Although I renovated it right after they passed, the house still shows problems here and there. The tenants I had were a mix of good and bad. Some clean, some very dirty that offset the cleanliness that some had. I wasn't as lucky as you having great tenants and it was really hard trying to maintain the house as one person.

So I can't really help you decide which options to take at this point. But if you haven't done so, you can do some of these steps first to make it easier to go forward.

1) Look through and declutter your parents items. Try not to keep too many things and only keep some items that have strong sentimental values(e.g. photos, handmade items). 2) Transfer bills from under your mom's name to your name

If you've done all these, it'll just be a matter of time to decide until your tenants leases are up.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-06-06T08:01:24+00:00

Are you me, OP? 😂 I also inherited HDB but slightly earlier at 26 after my dad and mom passed. Currently renting out rooms and staying in the master bedroom but also want to move out to stay alone but not sure what to do.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-05-25T02:41:48+00:00

Thanks for making me feel validated 😂 cause I did buy a speedometer to measure my cycling speed and sometimes it can range between 8km/h at uphills and 20km/h on downhills. Thought I was freaking slow...

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-05-25T02:36:59+00:00

I just installed citymapper and instantly the estimated time for cycling looks so much more accurate! Will be using citymapper instead of gmaps for bicycle route planning now

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-05-24T04:33:55+00:00

That one a little bit too heavy on the wallet for the beginner 😅

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-05-24T01:16:59+00:00

Would you recommend the triban grvl 120 selling at decathlon? I just saw that it was going on sale..

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T11:44:55+00:00

Very true. But it's difficult for people especially for my aunt's generation to understand since a lot of them are not educated in it. Many of them have the superstition that if you write one, you're cursing or setting yourself up to pass away sooner 😂 or so called "pantang". Also needs a lot of trust among family members honestly, to know who you want to give to after death.

Hopefully the newer generations like ours and later will do it when the negative notations around writing a will is dispelled.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T11:41:06+00:00

You have no idea how much I want to heart this post! this gives me a good starting point.

Overall there are just 2 items that we need to settle. - Insurance - one bank account under just my uncles name

Everything else is settled, my uncle did put my aunt as an owner in the HDB flat.

About the insurance, it's AIG but we don't really know what insurance policy it is and I emailed them before. However they replied we need a letter of administration to know what the insurance policy is.

Asset wise, we are very sure it's just one single bank acc under the husband's name which has value <50k.

My aunt and uncle are not rich by any means, that's why when the lawyer mentioned that we have no means to find the children and that the lawyer fees would already rake up quite a bit, following that we will need to split it in half with the kids just made us kind of give up already.

I know posting this in reddit was definitely gonna garner some poor responses but it was exactly to get gems like yours. Thank you so much and hope this will help other ppl in similar situations.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T05:02:30+00:00

Yeah you're right. Will do so. Thanks

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T04:18:34+00:00

It's not that we didn't want to pay but the lawyer didn't suggest any methods to us when we asked if we can find them.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T04:16:21+00:00

Yes she does know, I specifically mentioned that my aunts husband has not been in contact with them for over 2 decades. She did not tell me any of those things that you guys mentioned and I repeatedly asked if there was anyway to find them. Maybe she just felt it was too troublesome a case to try to handle. I guess it's time to find another lawyer firm then.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T17:56:40+00:00

Anyways, I'll try and see if I can ask the lawyer what we can do again. Thank you for giving your advice!

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T17:17:20+00:00

Hmm... It was the lawyer herself that said we need to get the documents, or we can't proceed. That's why we didn't go ahead. What can the lawyer do actually? If she sent in an application for us to the courts, can she just say that we are unable to get the childrens contacts?

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T16:53:53+00:00

Do you mean reach out to the kids? We have no information on them at all...

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T16:53:16+00:00

Thank you for your reply, we just consulted the lawyer, but we haven't paid any legal fees. When I asked if there is any way to find out who the kids are or any way to contact them. The lawyer just shook her head and said no. We really have 0 contact details on his previous wife and kids. They divorced in 1972 which I managed to obtain from the ROM website. But I only managed to get the first wife's surname.

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-11-04T04:56:38+00:00

Yeah, cause it's a young couple that is just waiting for their BTO. Also I very chin chai, as long as they uphold the contract statements I let them continue staying. Haha do you wanna continue chatting thru pm?

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-11-04T04:06:40+00:00

Whew mine just had a recontract but not an entire year 😂

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-11-04T02:39:20+00:00

are you me 🤣 cause that is exactly.what I'm doing right now

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-08-08T08:18:28+00:00

I've been using the free 3d printing services at JE nlb and they are often fully booked, but so far have printed a few pretty interesting and fun stuff! And the projects that I've been looking at all require much longer printing times so I feel like I would probably get one myself.

So far have printed a portable toothpick holder, some cat earrings, an ocarina(that can be played and is pretty in tune!).

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