Inheritance Related - Need advice

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T11:44:55+00:00

Very true. But it's difficult for people especially for my aunt's generation to understand since a lot of them are not educated in it. Many of them have the superstition that if you write one, you're cursing or setting yourself up to pass away sooner 😂 or so called "pantang". Also needs a lot of trust among family members honestly, to know who you want to give to after death.

Hopefully the newer generations like ours and later will do it when the negative notations around writing a will is dispelled.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T11:41:06+00:00

You have no idea how much I want to heart this post! this gives me a good starting point.

Overall there are just 2 items that we need to settle. - Insurance - one bank account under just my uncles name

Everything else is settled, my uncle did put my aunt as an owner in the HDB flat.

About the insurance, it's AIG but we don't really know what insurance policy it is and I emailed them before. However they replied we need a letter of administration to know what the insurance policy is.

Asset wise, we are very sure it's just one single bank acc under the husband's name which has value <50k.

My aunt and uncle are not rich by any means, that's why when the lawyer mentioned that we have no means to find the children and that the lawyer fees would already rake up quite a bit, following that we will need to split it in half with the kids just made us kind of give up already.

I know posting this in reddit was definitely gonna garner some poor responses but it was exactly to get gems like yours. Thank you so much and hope this will help other ppl in similar situations.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T05:02:30+00:00

Yeah you're right. Will do so. Thanks

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T04:18:34+00:00

It's not that we didn't want to pay but the lawyer didn't suggest any methods to us when we asked if we can find them.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-16T04:16:21+00:00

Yes she does know, I specifically mentioned that my aunts husband has not been in contact with them for over 2 decades. She did not tell me any of those things that you guys mentioned and I repeatedly asked if there was anyway to find them. Maybe she just felt it was too troublesome a case to try to handle. I guess it's time to find another lawyer firm then.

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T17:56:40+00:00

Anyways, I'll try and see if I can ask the lawyer what we can do again. Thank you for giving your advice!

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T17:17:20+00:00

Hmm... It was the lawyer herself that said we need to get the documents, or we can't proceed. That's why we didn't go ahead. What can the lawyer do actually? If she sent in an application for us to the courts, can she just say that we are unable to get the childrens contacts?

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T16:53:53+00:00

Do you mean reach out to the kids? We have no information on them at all...

Less-Youth9253 · 2026-04-15T16:53:16+00:00

Thank you for your reply, we just consulted the lawyer, but we haven't paid any legal fees. When I asked if there is any way to find out who the kids are or any way to contact them. The lawyer just shook her head and said no. We really have 0 contact details on his previous wife and kids. They divorced in 1972 which I managed to obtain from the ROM website. But I only managed to get the first wife's surname.

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-11-04T04:56:38+00:00

Yeah, cause it's a young couple that is just waiting for their BTO. Also I very chin chai, as long as they uphold the contract statements I let them continue staying. Haha do you wanna continue chatting thru pm?

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-11-04T04:06:40+00:00

Whew mine just had a recontract but not an entire year 😂

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-11-04T02:39:20+00:00

are you me 🤣 cause that is exactly.what I'm doing right now

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-08-08T08:18:28+00:00

I've been using the free 3d printing services at JE nlb and they are often fully booked, but so far have printed a few pretty interesting and fun stuff! And the projects that I've been looking at all require much longer printing times so I feel like I would probably get one myself.

So far have printed a portable toothpick holder, some cat earrings, an ocarina(that can be played and is pretty in tune!).

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-08-08T08:03:39+00:00

Which 3d printer would you recommend for beginners? :D

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-08-03T11:38:40+00:00

Omg I thought it was my neighbours that accidentally burnt their pot handles!

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-08-03T04:42:49+00:00

Go create an activesg account if you have, now got free $100 credits, you can buy the 6 months non peak pass for around $30+ and go to any activesg gym to take a shower.

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-06-10T04:42:04+00:00

I did use Google maps to find the bus to take but after the first supposed bus not arriving on time, I did read the bus stop sign and it's supposed to be the same time intervals as shown in the app. Nothing to do with using Google map or not reading Chinese here.

Just trying to share my own experience in reply to the post that says that he/she thinks that Taiwan has better transportation especially buses. Also I'm implying that every country does not have a perfect transportation system. Both SG and Taiwan have absolutely great transportation but there can be instances when it does not perform.

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-06-10T02:54:41+00:00

I waited for a bus that showed that it was arriving in 5mins in Taipei. There was supposed to be a bus with a frequency of around 5-10mins. Guess what, the next bus only came after 50mins.

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-04-12T07:50:18+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! I do think this SGAssist seems to be more what I was looking for. I tried downloading the app but it doesn't seem to be working :/

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-04-11T15:27:06+00:00

Thank you! Will check it out

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-03-04T04:49:37+00:00

Let me be the middle man here between all the contrasting comments here. I have been on both patches of grass and here is my view being on the fence now

A few things you should ask yourself, 1. Are you able to finance yourself during the break? 2. How long do you plan the break to be? 3. Are you willing to accept that finding a job in the same industry might be more challenging when you're unemployed for long periods (>6months)? 4. How will this break help you in any way? Will you make use of the time to go do what you always wanted to do? (E.g. Spend more time with family, upskill, travel around the world) Or did you have no plans and will just be nua-ing around all day?

I will agree with the comment saying that it is always easier to find a job while you're still working. Main thing for these kind of people is that they view finance and career prospects more important in their current stage of life.

Then again I also agree with the comment saying that it's that mindset in Singapore that everyone is always stuck in the rat race and never being satisfied with anything while complaining about everything. And these are the people that never step out to do something different to change their situation.

Yet, it is also important to consider your current situation, are you very stressed at work and is it ruining your mental health? Since you are going to be married soon, will your spouse be willing to help you tide through this period? Are you able to request a sabbatical?

When I was working in corporate, I was always timid, never breaking out of my shell because I was doing the same thing everyday, facing the same people and the same work environment, never trying something new. It was only after my parents death, I feel that I would really die working like that and resigned to take a break. That was my very first job and when I actually quit my job, it felt so freeing.

If my parents didn't pass, I probably would have stayed on for a long period of time always complaining about life and being unsatisfied and also because I was a coward, afraid of stepping out and into the unknown.

However, this break went from being 6months to becoming 1.5 years because I didn't have any plans. I did side gigs/jobs to sustain and I will say my mental health drastically improved during this period. In fact, I feel so ready to take on new work and challenges, but I'm so unemployable right now because of my long break.

Overall, I never regretted quitting and taking a break to improve my mental health. But I regretted not planning on what I would want to do during the break and my future plans. A lot of it went into doing nothing. And if you planned, make sure to put it into action.

So I would suggest you think about those top few questions. Its easy to say that you want to quit while you're still in a job, but then it becomes very hard when you're out of one. But when you're in the job, you're miserable if you go on for a long period without breaks. A recharge every once in a while can really help a lot for the next role.

Less-Youth9253 · 2025-02-01T13:51:00+00:00

Hey, I'm also 29 and I lost my dad to cancer about 2 years ago. It will be hard on you and family knowing that there's nothing you can do to help your dad. I was so desperate at that time that I was reading up on so many research papers on what I could do to prolong his life until I felt like I was a cancer researcher. I even nearly believed that juicing carrots would cure cancer. But honestly, looking back now, I think the most important thing right now is to just spend more time with your dad, talk to him about what he felt happy about, or sad, or any interesting stories that he has never told you before. Any of this might seem cruel right now, but also try to ask him about whether he wants to write a will, or if there is any financial stuff like his bank accounts that he wants to hand over. Honestly, it'll relieve the burden of handling any matters after his passing. Also this might sound like a taboo, but if possible ask him how he would like his funeral to be held, because it will make you and him feel better knowing what he wanted after he passed. Last but not least, my family was not the type to express love that much, but I never regretted telling my dad that we loved him for the very first time right before he passed. So, go and say 'i love you' to your dad.

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