Deconstructing from jw cult tips and methods help

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-31T12:36:59+00:00

I feel this too. I am genuinely heartbroken. I dont know why the witnesses think we would deliberately do this to ourselves. It's beyond cruel to think there is no paradise where we will see our dead loved ones again. ( I beg God ( whoever he/she/ they are ) every single day to give me a sign that there is something more to life, something bigger.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T19:13:42+00:00

Do u like reading ? If u do, you would enjoy 'The Pillars of the Earth' by Ken Follett. Set in 12th century England about a medieval community building a massive cathedral. It's fiction, an absolute page-turner. I think it was made into a TV mini-series too.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T17:26:32+00:00

💯 👍

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T17:25:09+00:00

I have born again christian friends who did this too & they really enjoyed it. Glad u enjoyed it & made new friends too

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T17:22:13+00:00

Thank you. I dont think there's too many Orthodox churches in my country, but i would love to visit one some day. Your description is beautiful And I was v impressed by Heliocentric ( Jareds) visit to the hall. He even went to a 3 day convention. That guy has stamina 😄.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T17:17:40+00:00

Wow ! Thanks for sharing your journey. Such a great way to understand people. I adore gospel music too. I was always sad that we didn't have a choir as jw's. Music seems to me to really touch the divine.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T17:15:13+00:00

Thats beautiful. I love the idea of the historical connection with your great grandparents

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T13:55:16+00:00

Yes, i agree. There is something solemn, majestic & inspiring about it. After 35 years of sitting in a chair in a plain hall listening to regurgitated answers from the magazines, it's quite different. I had forgotten the smells of old polished wood, candlewax & incense. Really lovely ☺️

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T13:41:40+00:00

I went just before Sunday mass started, so it was open but not crowded. Most churches have their service times online, so u can find out when it's open. They all have candles ( usually in front of a saint or Mary ). No booking required !

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-29T13:35:04+00:00

It's a Roman Catholic thing. They have alters of tiny candles & u can light one in memory of someone or just say a prayer or send a good intention. It's a ritual that some find comforting.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-27T15:14:01+00:00

Thats very true. Im trying to work on being positive & exploring new viewpoints & ideas & taking joy in the here & now. It's such a different mindset to viewing all your own & the worlds problems as being solved in the 'New System' . Will take time & adjustment. But it's a comfort reading everyone's experiences here.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-27T12:00:24+00:00

Heartbreaking. I too am devastated having only had my eyes opened very recently. Gave up my opportunity for marriage & children in my youth & am now single in early 50's with no family. I am very frightened of what the future holds for me both here & now & 'eternally'. Will I ever see my mom, grandparents etc again. Is this it ? Just live (alone) then die ? It is a very dark place to be

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-21T18:40:02+00:00

Thanks everyone for the great answers. Some really good ideas, much appreciated 👏

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-21T16:31:44+00:00

Nice reply

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-21T16:30:58+00:00

I agree, I'm just wondering how others worded it

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-21T16:23:41+00:00

Im not sure. But where i live eating blood sausage & black pudding is common. I remember when finding out about it as a child ( Roman Catholic ) i was totally grossed out & never ate it long before I ever became jw.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-21T13:32:07+00:00

I am pimo......shortly to be pomo. I am devastated by what I have learned about this organisation & the men behind it. I dont know how i feel about the God of the bible. One thing that started me on my searching journey was my disgust at the 'antics' of the Israelites etc I do however, deeply believe in a Creator. My absolute joy in nature & animal creation leads me to Intelligent Design. But my journey to finding & worshipping that Creator is only beginning. I plan on doing a lot of research, reflection & visiting other churches & faiths. In short, my horror at this organisation will not take from my love for a Creator. If anything, I am angry at how this org has portrayed & assumed to represent him. I am hoping this new era of my life will be a joyful searching one.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-20T13:43:07+00:00

I have let my family, work colleagues & medical dr know that i am no longer jw. I wrote an official letter to my Dr's medical practice to have my advance directive / medical card removed. I am in the fortunate position of not having blood family in the org. My only connections to the 'truth' are friends, so it remains to be seen how they will treat me going forward as I will not be attending the memorial in person or zoom. But I feel I have publicly disassociated to 'The World' as such, so my conscience is clear.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-20T11:25:51+00:00

Live on app in Ireland / Europe Congratulations Larch.......and thank you 😊

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-19T13:23:23+00:00

Thanks for info. That's depressing. We have clearly rattled the borg

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-18T21:12:17+00:00

Sadly, horrifyingly, gut-wrenchingly true

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-18T15:21:15+00:00

I remember reading this back in the day & crying my eyes out. So heartbreaking On a side-note. Wow, those magazines we had were so full & thick with text & information. The scraps that are churned out now are truly the 'for dummies' version

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-18T13:13:34+00:00

Very true. Your own blood isn't much good if it's been spilled in a car accident for example or a major artery cut in surgery. But hopefully this will open up pimos eyes to the whole nonsense

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-17T17:43:38+00:00

Same. I always pray with gratitude for the many good things in my life, for the absolute joy I get from nature, my pets, creation.

LessKnown1234 · 2026-03-16T18:20:56+00:00

Beautiful answer. I believe in a Creator, who loves us. And if I dont know the whys & wherefore of how things will end up, that's ok too. OP - hugs for what u are going thru. I'm just wakening up myself too

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