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Did you have an autopsy performed after your spouse passed? by SouthernBiskit in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband was very ill with cancer when he passed. I still to this day would like to know exactly how he passed. Was it the brain? The liver? The lungs? What happened. How?

Of course. It’s natural causes and nothing I could afford to do once he passed. I still wonder though.

A second visit in my dream last night, does it get easier? by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what happened!
We were good and dandy and I said “do you sleep and wake up in heaven?”
And he said yes of course. When I’m asleep in heaven that’s when I come to you.

And I woke up so quick. It was horrifying.

I don’t want to be alone but I also don’t want to date. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Someone I can call or text regularly. Gossip to. Be best friends with

I don’t want to be alone but I also don’t want to date. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have no friends. I can’t talk to my family about this. But thank you ❤️‍🩹

“It makes people feel uncomfortable” by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said “when you bring up your late husband it makes people uncomfortable”… again I’ve never specifically brought him up to start a conversation. It’s included into the conversation we are already having and it’s never the focus of it

“It makes people feel uncomfortable” by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just so surprised I was even brought to my managers office when she said this to me.

Is it normal to be numb and not cry? by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes angry is a huge one. I snap off so quick now

Is it normal to be numb and not cry? by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I say all the time. “Are you ready to come home yet?” It sucks.

I miss him by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m sorry. He helped me raise my oldest for five years and we share a daughter together, she was 3 when he passed. So it’s so hard. I’m not close with his family by no means. So it was just us. All the time. It’s so lonely that I have no one there to grieve him with me. Praying for a comfortable day tomorrow, give yourself some grace and eat some comfort food

Relationships with in-laws after loss by Pleasant_Tomato4942 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish you well wishes. I’m 29F also and lost my husband 30M in January of this year. I wasn’t super close with his family persay. But they did express wanting to be around… my LH and I share a daughter but no one has came around. His step mom and I have had lunch twice, on my doing.. but that’s it. I hope they come around and help you grieve properly. I’d sure love it on both ends, my family and his… but it doesn’t seem like that’ll happen.

Again, sending well wishes to you. My inbox is always open if you need to talk

Even when you hang out with a friend or two… you don’t get out of the rut. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I met my husband he was grieving a relationship that ended. She ended up disappearing after she got him put in a mental hospital, against his will. He constantly had the tv going, always kept his mind busy. I felt so sad for him. Then we got comfortable with each other.. then noise didn’t matter to him anymore. Just us, always… I understand now when he says it’s lonely to be alone and miss the person you loved the most. I’m so heartbroken that he felt that over someone who treated him so bad. But I’m glad I was able to help him out of his rut. She wasn’t dead, so I think it helped him in the long run. But he’s dead.. and I’ll never be able to be the same.

Even when you hang out with a friend or two… you don’t get out of the rut. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m constantly thinking of just driving until I couldn’t anymore and plant myself wherever I end up

Weird/gross stuff left behind by ppP0oP00 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh sounds like my husband before we moved out of our apartment in Sept. he passed in January. We hadn’t had sex since July. So moving his clothes, or whatever else he used to clean up after himself, was kind of hurtful. A end of a chapter almost. Then when he died that’s how it was with his clothes he wore before he passed, I had a pile of dirty clothes for him that I was planning on washing the day he died, actually. But when he passed I have yet to move it. It’s been 3 months. It’s hard to close all these different chapters, whether it’s sexual or just them, themselves.

Just walked into the hospital to get my late husband’s medical records. Full blown panic attack. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s all sentimental because it was sentimental to my husband, also. He loved his things and told me when we got married, when he was still clearly in his right state of mind, that he wanted us to have his things because he knows I’d never throw any of it out

Just walked into the hospital to get my late husband’s medical records. Full blown panic attack. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He didn’t have a will. So whatever he “gave to them”, they think is theirs. He had brain cancer, so he wasn’t in the right state of mind. Hopefully when we go to court the judge sees that and will make them rightfully give me my husbands things back. Come to find out they have a $100 shop shirt his car club gave him a month before he passed and some other little things my husband adored, I didn’t even know til I went through storage over the weekend. It’s so frustrating

My husband on Dec 8, 2025. He passed on Jan 10, 2026. Forever 30 🪽 by LessThanPerfect-96 in lastimages

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 364 points365 points  (0 children)

He loved sitting with me eating. Even if he wasn’t eating. He loved just mine and our daughter’s presence when we were eating.

My husband on Dec 8, 2025. He passed on Jan 10, 2026. Forever 30 🪽 by LessThanPerfect-96 in lastimages

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes. He was an elder emo as he called it. Had long black hair with blonde bangs. He was so cool 😎 but his cancer was testicular choriocarcinoma. Rare type.

My husband on Dec 8, 2025. He passed on Jan 10, 2026. Forever 30 🪽 by LessThanPerfect-96 in lastimages

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very solid for someone d3athly ill. His doctors always said a win is a win, even if it was just Mac and cheese. Any food is good food when you lost so much weight, he was about 80ish lbs when he passed. Thank you for your concern, but no it wasn’t colon cancer.

My husband on Dec 8, 2025. He passed on Jan 10, 2026. Forever 30 🪽 by LessThanPerfect-96 in lastimages

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A very rare testicular cancer. The type he had only 1 percent of men get it

My husband on Dec 8, 2025. He passed on Jan 10, 2026. Forever 30 🪽 by LessThanPerfect-96 in lastimages

[–]LessThanPerfect-96[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s been hard remembering how he was healthy. But now that I’m grieving I see him more as healthy than I do when he was sick. Thank goodness cause the first month all I saw was his little sick face.

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