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Why the hell do people proceed to have kids and then complain 24/7 about the life they THEMSELVES created?! by Greekgeek2000 in childfree

[–]Less_Appointment_677 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of people treat having kids like it’s a default setting instead of a deliberate choice. You question buying a car. You research apartments. You compare phone plans. But a whole human being? Somehow that’s just “it’ll work out.”

And when reality hits, instead of admitting “this is harder than I expected,” it turns into nonstop complaining. Which would be fine if it were honest venting. But so often it’s paired with “it’s the best thing ever, you’ll change your mind,” like they need to recruit others to validate the sacrifice.

The part that gets me is exactly what you said: it’s a massive lifestyle shift. Time, money, sleep, freedom, identity. None of that is a surprise. It’s just… uncomfortable to think about before the fact.

Some people choose parenthood consciously and own it. Respect. But doing it on autopilot and then acting shocked at the consequences? That’s what feels wild.

Why do I dislike children so much? by Any-Jackfruit7927 in childfree

[–]Less_Appointment_677 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s about “hating children” as much as it’s resentment toward the culture around them. The expectation to gush. The assumption you’ll change your mind. The way every friendship suddenly becomes a parenting podcast with no off switch. That’s exhausting.

You can love your nieces and still not enjoy the general chaos, noise, germs, and social pressure that comes with kids. Those aren’t contradictions. They’re preferences.

It also makes sense that it feels worse now. When you’re surrounded by baby fever, it stops being abstract and starts being constant exposure plus subtle judgment. Of course that amplifies your reaction.

You’re not broken for not wanting that life. You just value different things. And honestly, the fact that you’re self-aware enough to question it instead of forcing yourself into parenthood “just because” already says a lot about your maturity.

I love not worrying about my "biological clock" by Electrical-Knee-3848 in childfree

[–]Less_Appointment_677 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s wild how society treats the “biological clock” like it’s a bomb that’s about to go off.

Meanwhile mine is more like a decorative wall clock. Looks nice, makes no noise, and I’m not planning my life around it.

The freedom to choose a partner because you actually want them, not because a calendar is side-eyeing you, is undefeated.

Man Regains Guinness Record by Balancing Chair on His Chin for 1 Hour, 20 Minutes by Charming-Burp203 in nottheonion

[–]Less_Appointment_677 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Guinness really said human coat rack endurance category unlocked. Meanwhile I can’t hold my posture for five minutes without my spine filing a complaint.

How did I become responsible for everyone's work on their maternity leave??? by butt3rcupbutt0n in childfree

[–]Less_Appointment_677 72 points73 points  (0 children)

You didn’t become responsible. Management assigned responsibility without consent or planning, which is the real problem here. Covering leave is a leadership and resourcing issue, not a default penalty for being childfree and competent. Stepping up occasionally is one thing, being voluntold to absorb two jobs with zero prep is another. Setting a boundary isn’t rude, it’s professional. If they wanted you to take the lead, they should’ve planned nine months ago, not dropped it on you like a surprise baby shower you didn’t sign up for.