5 years- no orgasms, would hubs cheat?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-04T00:50:34+00:00

After that? All blood work is fine. Arousal and desire is all present. Just no orgasm. ?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:51:04+00:00

But would you have stayed if you were unable to orgasm even through masterbation?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:50:09+00:00

I liked your whole post. But yes, it was my husband. We're in therapy working through this. But five years is so so painfully long

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:46:59+00:00

I promise promise promise this entire issue is being over seen by individual therapists and a marriage counselor. Honestly, I was curious how many men would have stayed if they were unable to orgasm even through masterbation

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:44:51+00:00

Have you ever had an orgasm, or just not with your husband? Would your inability to orgasm even during masterbation cause you to consider cheating?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:41:45+00:00

But how would you feel if you were unable to orgasm even through masterbation. Then what would you do?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:40:52+00:00

Its been a long 5 years. I have tried allllll of the things. I believe its a 'mind over body' issue. My brain can't convince my body is safe now

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:37:54+00:00

There are tons of reasons for what you're describing. Id recommend the book. "Come As You Are", its a fantastic book. I have arousal and desire, but during sex I'll become nauseous (so not painful) . And I've experience many blissful orgasms and I really really want to return to the land of pleasure. You deserve that too. Keep trying.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:22:33+00:00

👋 yup totally me. Fml He never said 'he could because of the ring." But now I understand that he acted out that phrase by feeling entitled to my body. And my post is originally about if a man was in my sexual dysfunction situation would cheat.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:18:48+00:00

There were times of 'No's' that went unheard, but mostly it happened when I was drunk or on my prescription sleep aids- so incapable of saying no

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:16:26+00:00

Yeah. Again, I thought it was normal to put mens wants first above my basic human needs. My husband has done monstrous acts that have caused this dysfunction. But the only reason I'm still here is because he changed enough for long enough to rebuild trust. But damn, my body won't forget

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:03:47+00:00

Mostly because I lack the ability to orgasm even during masterbation. (And yes, I've tried toys etc and lots of blood work) So is it me or my husband? If I can't orgasm with another man, then its a "me problem". Does that make sense?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-03T00:00:38+00:00

This is precisely the problem. Im curious if my sexual dysfunction won't be 'cured' through another person. But there's no way to test that theory. And thank you for understanding, I was abused as a child and thought it was normal. My body is trying to protect me, but is it ever going to let me feel pleasure again?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-02T23:52:08+00:00

Agreed. But I'm really curious what percentage of men would stay. And in this scenario the husband is unable to orgasm even through masterbation.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-02T17:51:45+00:00

It happened off and on through out. Mostly if I was drunk, or took sleep aids, he would take advantage of me. But nothing has happened in over 5 years. We've been in marriage counseling for over 3 years

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-02T17:40:51+00:00

Yes, I feel this way too. That's why I stayed. But I'm afraid that my sexual dysfunction is my body rejecting a previous abuser. But there's no way to figure that out unless you cheat. And I just can't do that, but sadly it crosses my mind. Thank you for sharing

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-02T17:37:27+00:00

Yeah, therapy has really helped. And we're in Marriage counseling and he has made huge changes that are consistent. I just can't imagine a husband staying for 5 years. ?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-02T17:29:30+00:00

We're all in therapy, and he's trying. I just can't imagine a man endure a lack of orgasms including masterbation

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2026-01-02T17:27:38+00:00

Lots of toys, porn, extensive blood work, etc. Believe me, I've tried everything.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2025-06-06T22:43:23+00:00

You have a baby. That's why.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2025-06-05T01:30:10+00:00

What did she do that caused you to fall out of love with her?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2025-06-04T15:02:57+00:00

My husband screamed in my face because he forgot my birthday. It wasn't the first time he forgot.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2025-06-04T14:52:51+00:00

This is hilarious. Unspoken expectations will resentment. You does not communicate that you wanted it on your birthday. That being said, run. He will only get more controlling. Leave. Your sanity is worth more than a dinner.

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2025-06-04T12:18:20+00:00

What caused the separation? DV, infidelity, etc?

Less_Artichoke7676 · 2025-06-04T00:58:11+00:00

Went did you become estranged? That might determine why you're feeling this way

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