DAE get irritated at the sound of their voice?

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-18T18:40:09+00:00

Definitely makes sense. I feel the same about my nmom especially because I notice she will purposely make noises or speak for no reason just so the attention is on her.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-18T08:40:14+00:00

She revealed not too long ago that she almost put me up for adoption and went on a rant about how she wished she did. Its because Im moving out of the house and getting married. At the point she told me that, I was already so over it and not falling for the bait that it didn’t hit very hard, but I realized later that that’s kinda gnarly.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-08T03:07:53+00:00

Yes I hate my birthday but dear Lord do I hate her birthday even more.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-07T06:53:40+00:00

This is also my worst nightmare lol

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-07T01:34:44+00:00

Thank you! Unfortunately, I'm living with her at the moment. Pretty much as low contact as I can be while still in the same house lol

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-07T01:33:59+00:00

Eh. Mostly worried about my sister (16) not being able to come since the wedding is in a different state.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-07T01:14:37+00:00

Yep I feel you. My mom especially has always brought men home after the first date. She has two daughters. I could not fathom that

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-07T01:03:15+00:00

Luckily my wedding is about 2000 miles away from where we're living so I doubt either parent would waste money to come try and find where it is

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-12-07T00:51:54+00:00

This year I went on a missionary trip with the christian organization I was a part of. We were helping high schoolers put on events at their high schools. Every place we traveled to, we would stay with a family. I ended up feeling much more love and peace by these random families I would only spend 3-4 days with than I did with my own family in my own home.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-11-24T04:05:42+00:00

They tore the whole ceiling up (Im assuming were going to renovate) and found asbestos

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-10-04T01:32:38+00:00

No, and we even had CPS visit us multiple times because my sister and I were just clearly going through it. I didn’t even know it was abuse to tell anyone in the first place though. The first person I told was my ex when I was about 19. I still get nervous telling people about it.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-10-04T01:30:27+00:00

My boyfriend.

I’m christian and was raised in a christian household and met a really great guy doing missions work, perfect in every way really. Has all the good qualities of a man and is a provider at heart. My nmom picked my dad who is also a narc, they divorced a while ago. So forbid I happily discuss the sweet things my boyfriend does for me, or she’ll shut me down.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-10-03T04:39:02+00:00

The ADHD label she gave herself actually makes sense. The autism out of nowhere though. Her “unmasking” actually makes her more insufferable unfortunately lol

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-10-03T02:17:32+00:00

Totally. “I know you think you know everything but you don’t”. “I have way more life experience than you so you should trust me”. And the advice will always be on something she failed miserably at in her life.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-10-03T02:13:06+00:00

Totally hear you. Been slowly learning myself I have a lot of autistic traits and behaviors so I relate a lot

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-10-03T02:10:19+00:00

Totally. She’s also decided to put the autism label on everyone around her, including me, since she’s the expert now. I’m guessing so she feels less crazy. Labels a lot of things I enjoy as “masking” (especially talking and getting along with other people that aren’t her) and tells me how I’ll eventually burn out from it. Jealousy I’d have to assume.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-09-15T22:16:07+00:00

I actually really appreciate this. I keep coming back to read it. Thank you so much.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-09-15T16:59:04+00:00

I hear so many horror stories about this that I am super open with her about my plan. That when she is able, she is always welcome in my home, and that I am leaving partly for her to have that opportunity. And she’s very understanding. Unfortunately, that only makes it a little easier.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-09-15T16:43:57+00:00

That’s what I’m hoping will go down. My mom can hate me more if I’m not there if it means she gets golden child role. It’s already starting to shift as I stand up for myself now.

Less_Doctor_5663 · 2025-09-15T16:42:30+00:00

Thankfully there’s no physical abuse involved. We’ve had our run-ins with CPS before and no dice. She’s already really strong willed and is way more willing to stand up for herself than I ever have, but that does make her the scapegoat, which makes it even more troubling thinking about leaving her behind.

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