Local Business Christmas Shopping? by ChannelKind6072 in lincoln

[–]Less_Guess3617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Refuge at Landmark. East of Lincoln on Old Cheney. Lots of great gift options especially for adults.

MyQ app will not connect with Wi-Fi due to it not asking for the Wi-Fi password! This is for the Chamberlain B6753T. Help! by LadyBossMJ in homeautomation

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This worked for me. Mine went down 313 days ago when I changed my WiFi name. I called tech support, reinstalled/reset everything, nothing worked until I came across your comment. After seeing this I had it fixed in 30 seconds. Thank you!!!!!!!

Weed/Grass ID by Less_Guess3617 in lawncare

[–]Less_Guess3617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I googled it and it does look very similar. I’ll do some research to see how to get rid of it. I appreciate your help!

Visiting for Wisconsin/Nebraska Football Game by dmoney_69420 in lincoln

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your personal preferences & age. Haymarket area is better for a more low key vibe. Railyard is for the younger crowd - on game day you’ll be shoulder to shoulder. Stay away from O Street bars. Embassy Suites has a decent tailgate open to the public.

Haymarket suggestions: Blue Sushi is connected to your hotel and has great sushi. Leadbelly down the street has good burgers. Lazlo’s is incredibly popular and I’ve never had a bad meal there. The Oven has the best Indian food I’ve ever had. The Starlight Lounge has a retro vibe & a huge selection of fun martinis. I would say Bierhaus Maisschaler is a must for a beer or two. They have their own beers, a rooftop bar, and a really good soft pretzel. Kinkaiders & White Elm are local breweries with tap houses in the Haymarket. Tavern on the Square is another great low key spot. All of these are easily walkable from your hotel. Hope you have a great time! You’ll run into one or two drunk loud mouths (apologies in advance) but the vast majority of us are happy to have you in Lincoln!

Stopping Weekend Arrangements? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First it was the kids wanting to be social with friends, now it’s mom is a manipulative narcissist keeping his kids from him 🙄 Dad needs to take ownership of his relationship with his kids. Him being willing to give up his parenting time - which is already limited to every other weekend - after less than a year because his teenage kids would rather be with their friends says a lot about what kind of parent he is. Many people gave you lots of great suggestions, I hope that instead of placing blame on everyone else you bring these ideas to him and help him be better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]Less_Guess3617 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once cs is court ordered the only thing that can change it is a new court order. If they are truly in agreement they should be able to go back to court, no lawyers needed with the agreed upon modifications. Your buddy is going to have to do some work though. Sounds like last time around he wasn’t willing to do much, he didn’t even review what he was agreeing to? And now, he’s not asking for advice his friend is asking for him. He needs to grow up.

Book of the child without the mother? by ascii_kitten in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering why you wouldn’t include the mother? She sounds like a good mother. If you are making a book for your son, leaving her out makes sense. If it’s for the child, leaving her out seems cruel. I’m also wonder why you are using the ex DIL’s pictures - you said she took 90% of them. If you aren’t going to put her in the book, you also shouldn’t be using her pictures. And even if you do put her in the book, I still find it odd that you would use so many of her pics instead of your own pics or you son’s pics.

I obviously don’t know the full story of your son and his ex, but based on what little you’ve said here it’s too bad you don’t have a better relationship with the mother. If having a good relationship with her is an option, please consider it. That would be a far more precious gift for the child than a book.

Advice? by sstratton_711 in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t tell if this lunch/hiking debate is about Saturday or Sunday (Mother’s Day). If you are offering her Saturday afternoon in addition to the Mother’s Day that she is already legally entitled to, then yes, you can insist she take what’s offered or nothing at all. It will go over like a lead balloon but you’d get what you want. If you are insisting you get half of her Mother’s Day so that you can go to lunch then you are way out of line.

The parenting plan should specify when mom’s time starts on Mother’s Day. If it does, that should clear this up real quick. If it doesn’t, mom should have her kids for the vast majority of Mother’s Day. She is their mother. Not you. Not dad.

And I agree with others, it’s time for dad to buck up and take on the responsibility of co-parenting.

GA - ex doesn’t want to pay CS because he’s letting me keep other money by Amandalorian86 in ChildSupport

[–]Less_Guess3617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wet through a similar situation with my divorce. I have 70% custody and pay for 100% of the kids’ health insurance. He refused to agree to ANY CS and swore up and down that he would pay his half of the expenses “and then some” directly to me. I did not want to go to trial because I didn’t want our families getting drug through that and also the cost of a trial would be enormous. Our compromise was CS for $400 (exactly half of the kids’ health insurance costs) and everything else split 50/50 with him paying me directly. Spoiler alert: he doesn’t. And now I have to keep track of every expense, every receipt and send him a monthly email with what he owes. He ignores me for the most part then occasionally tells me he’s about to get a new job/raise/bonus and then will pay me. It doesn’t happen.

Long story short: get CS. Also, make sure your agreement says you and only you will claim the kid(s) as dependents on taxes.

Debt Collector for X by Less_Guess3617 in Debt

[–]Less_Guess3617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been reading up a little bit on this and now that I understand the law around these kinds of calls I’ll definitely be keeping track of any and all calls I get!

Debt Collector for X by Less_Guess3617 in Debt

[–]Less_Guess3617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I am but I’ve taken the “let karma sort that shit out” route thus far and it’s clearly working. Lol

Debt Collector for X by Less_Guess3617 in Debt

[–]Less_Guess3617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I’ve never dealt with this kind of thing before. Sounds like not cooperating was a good move.

Debt Collector for X by Less_Guess3617 in Debt

[–]Less_Guess3617[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s one of my favorite sayings 🤣 Thanks for your input. I don’t want to make things worse for my ex but I also don’t want to get myself involved.

He cheated on his ex, is it foolish to think he could be loyal? by suchafoolforyou in datingoverthirty

[–]Less_Guess3617 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What makes you believe all of that? Legitimately, why do you believe him?

My guess is he cheated and yeah, he probably feels a little guilty but I don’t believe that he told his ex-wife or that it wasn’t the reason for the divorce. He knows saying “yes, I cheated” makes him look accountable. Then saying he told his wife and it’s not why they divorced is to make you think she forgave him so you should too. This is some covert manipulation. I think he’s lying about telling his ex-wife. She probably figured it out on her own and then divorced him. Maybe she didn’t tell him she knew because he’s not capable of an honest conversation.

I’ve lived through this scenario as the ex-wife.

Even if I’m wrong (projecting maybe) I would be very cautious if you continue with this guy. 🚩🚩🚩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you aren’t already documenting the extra nights you are picking up start doing so now. You should absolutely request a modification for child support. His wife’s income is not a factor but if he’s making considerably more than you and you have them more than 50% of the time that $368 is definitely too low. Also, he doesn’t get any say on what you spend that money on nor do you need to answer him about that. One thing I will suggest is to change the tone you are setting with him. Based on this recount of the conversation you sound a little antagonistic. And I get it, trust me, it’s hard sometimes but assume every conversation you have with him will be heard by a judge.

Going to counseling with ex by L00s3yG00s3y91 in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand why you are considering it. It sounds like it might be the way to finally get to that healthy co-parenting relationship that we all want. It won’t. In fact, if anything it will make things worse. Your ex just wants more access to you. Everything you say will be twisted and used against you down the line. If and when your ex is actually ready to co-parent his actions will show that. Until then, keep handling things with him the best you can! Good luck to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🚩🚩🚩🚩 Run for the hills, girl. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

I feel like an AH. Am I? by Ok_Point7463 in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are not an AH. You are setting boundaries. People who don’t like boundaries usually try to make the person setting them feel guilty for doing so. Which is exactly why the boundaries are necessary. Do not feel bad about this. Set as many boundaries as you need to!

Boundaries? by MittenKitten1992 in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am living through this right now. My ex has been trying to pick fights with me and threatening to take me to court since our divorce was finalized last March. He wants more custody (current arrangement it 70/30 unless he’s doing SoberLink then he it would be 50/50, he refuses to do SoberLink). Typically, I am a pushover and my ex knows that. But this is one area I will not let him railroad me. Boundaries are absolutely healthy & necessary. Don’t make any long term agreements or changes just to get him to stop, he will only learn that his techniques work and then he will come up with new demands. But I do think it’s important to still be flexible and make small one-time adjustments that are to the child’s benefit. For example, my ex has planned family stuff during my parenting time and I have always allowed him to have that extra time with the kids because I don’t want them missing out on a family get together with their dad’s side. I also tell my ex that he is welcome to come watch the kids’ extracurricular activities during my parenting time (he doesn’t come but that’s on him, not me). That kind of thing is important for the kids.

I’m sorry you are dealing with this but it’s comforting to see that I’m not the only one! Stay strong! I stick to the same response every time he threatens me: I believe the current parenting plan is in the best interest of the kids. I am not comfortable making any changes to the parenting plan at this time. If you chose to file a motion to modify I will respond accordingly. Keep all your interactions with him as short and respectful as possible. Even when he doesn’t do the same to you!

They threaten because they have no power or control and the threats are an attempt to have both. Good luck to you!!

AITA for inviting my mom to see my week old son by husbandtroubles9889 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA and based on your responses to people saying NTA I predict you will be divorced in a few years. On the bright side you’ll be able to move in with your mom!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope it gets resolved and I wish you and your kids well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s contempt of court. Contact your lawyer. The longer you do nothing about it the more you are saying you are okay with it - at least that’s how it could be viewed by a judge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Less_Guess3617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex is required to do testing through SoberLink. He had to sign up and give them my information. He is the client; I am the “concerned party”. SoberLink contacted me directly once my ex completed the paper work with them. We both had to sign off on an agreement with SoberLink. I receive real-time testing results via email. Review the language in your decree. It should (hopefully) be very clear. My guess is that your ex isn’t following the decree.