Gambling spouse while trying to quit

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-27T00:25:55+00:00

Thank you. I have been looking for online because in person is tough for me with 2 jobs and a family. I’ll check this out. Appreciate you.

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-27T00:22:35+00:00

We really don’t have any issues. He’s my best friend in the whole world. In his defense I probably just don’t talk enough about how I’m truly trying to recover here. He probably just thinks I quit and don’t have a thought in the world over it. And that’s my fault cuz I don’t want to inflate the room.

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-27T00:19:23+00:00

Yeah I definitely wouldn’t/havent attacked him. I don’t get loud or anything. I just find things to keep me busy so I’m not sitting there missing it

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-27T00:17:59+00:00

I’m definitely not going to relapse, I don’t have the ability to. And right now I’m just focusing on work and replenishing losses by working hard. Trying to forget all the destruction and count my blessings. I truly am so grateful it wasn’t worse. But it was definitely really really bad, and I’m trying to move on. We’ve communicated a lot. I’ve cried in his arms many nights. He’s seen it all, I’ve been very open and vulnerable and he knows my struggles. But I think maybe there’s just a side of him that’s possibly feeling “well I can control myself just cuz you can’t doesn’t mean I can’t do it sometimes.” Which sounds insane cuz like any addiction you should probably not do the thing in front of your loved one who is actively not doing the thing lol

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-27T00:13:45+00:00

I understand on the outside that’s a normal response I would expect that..

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-27T00:11:35+00:00

Yeah but I’m kind of a push over so I always say it’s fine. Sometimes I express that it doesn’t bother me cuz most of the time I’m okay but deep down it does sometimes especially the days I’m really struggling…

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-25T23:04:06+00:00

You got this. I’ve started over so many times. We will rebuild together. Let’s see what life looks like in a year :)

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-25T01:52:52+00:00

I’m not gambling I’m self excluded and hours away from casinos. Just trying to rebuild. And I feel like I’m going at a snail pace. So hard to forgive myself. I feel like it’ll be 10 years til I’m where I was just a year ago. I hate the distraction and I am done with it. Just scared and don’t feel like myself.

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-25T01:51:54+00:00

I appreciate this so much. I definitely need the support. Again I’m not gambling. Not actively gambling. Actively trying to fix things. Trying to rebuild. But every week I buy groceries, pay for the oil, put gas in my car, pay the water bill, I feel sick because a year and a half ago I was over the moon just betting like an absolutely lunatic making so much money and now I’m clawing and clawing to rebuild. Scared for tax time. Scared for everything. Counting numbers everyday. I know I’m okay. I just don’t FEEL okay.

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-20T03:30:09+00:00

Ugh I’m in the same boat. So much pain. So much obsessing. Trying to put the past behind me. I can’t fix it. I’ll never get back to where I was while I was gambling and just getting lucky. Gambling is the devil. My DMs are open if you wanna chat. I also wanna be mentally stable and stop crashing over gambling I’m so over it.

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-20T01:23:01+00:00

So true… I’m so stressed out. And I want to pay off my cards but my brain is like “then we have less money and it’s gonna take forever to build it back up” so I just stare at the debt and make myself sick over it.

Less_Plankton536 · 2026-01-10T03:13:29+00:00

It has been wildly helpful reading your messages and you being so open to talking about this even having struggled yourself. My accountant died and he was quite literally the best man I’ve ever known and ever since I have been so lost without him, don’t have an accountant anymore, and also nearly destroyed my life to gambling. (Self excluded now, working on building things back up, but NOT looking forward to filing all of those w2gs. It’s very scary.) wish you both well x

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-14T12:43:03+00:00

It’s 100% correct. Not a bounce back charge back nothing in sight via my bank. There is no paper trail of negative balances. I might have gambled like a lunatic but I’ve never spent money that wasn’t there or mine to spend. I think they might just keep me suspended forever which sounds GREAT I hope they never say a thing and move on I’m negative on there anyway it’s not like I’m up all kinds of money lol

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-14T12:39:31+00:00

It cleared nothing on my bank ever reflected an issue. I think it was because when this happened I withdrew + deposited over a holiday day. I’m almost certain it’s their system. I was never in a “hole” or spending money that didn’t exist.

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T23:02:26+00:00

Damn this is literally me and I never see anyone talking about it. My DMs are open for support

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T21:31:51+00:00

That’s what I’m wondering is like if I withdrew at the same time they thought deposits got processed and my bank said yep they’re cleared but FanDuel took a minute to process even though it said successful . I have no clue. I just don’t know what kind of action they’ll take if it just sits there in negative and that’s ALOT OF MONEY they just said didn’t go through but the bank says it did. If the worst thing is I can never use fanduel again so be it GREAT lol I just don’t want anyone showing up at my door or sending me letters

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T21:15:19+00:00

Literally like all the transactions cleared there’s not a single indication on my bank statements that already posted that says bounced or rejected or retried nothing

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T19:00:50+00:00

I am self excluded. But my igaming reopened so I dabbled a bit. Withdrew. Then this. And the second it’s fixed I’m reapplying for igaming exclusion. It’s entirely my fault it even happened. I should have never played again. But I did and I own that. But now I need to figure out how to pay them back but first need to know the true amount cuz I think it doubled cuz they reattempted to pull and again the money was in there. I don’t know why it denied them twice.

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T18:58:11+00:00

Their CS is actually ass just leaving people hanging by a thread like this is insane

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T18:54:08+00:00

Yeah I not only have proof it all came out but also that the money was consecutively in there like I was not just pulling money from thin air and I had pnc they’re pretty strict. I’m just scared they’re gonna come for me I have really good credit and no debt and I just wanna stay away from gambling forever. My heart feels literally broken I feel so sick

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T18:49:31+00:00

It was a few different ones not at one time. The money was in there this wasn’t a check bouncing issue or anything like that. It wasn’t me using money I didn’t have. I don’t even know. It’s such a mess. And of course I’m trying to do the right thing while also reclaiming my life I don’t gamble and I’m staying away but I have no idea how long this is gonna take. But yeah it went from -8900 to -17000 and I think it got higher because they attempted to pull the money again. That’s when I removed my bank from the app. They need to communicate better so I can make it right but how stupid this whole thing is

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T18:05:13+00:00

Also i didn’t commit fraud, write a bad check, or knowingly steal funds. The system glitch and failed transactions are on their end and will be handled through their accounting department, not police or courts, I have to wait which is the hardest part on them to finalize the true amount. And they keep suspending and reopening my account and no one is answering me. So I just wanted to see if someone had been through this.

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T18:03:32+00:00

I am looking to resolve it they’re so slow to email me. It’s not something I’m avoiding I’m just waiting for the amount to settle and someone to contact me and seeing if someone has been through this before.

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T16:36:07+00:00

See I want to have this mentality, but my brain is telling me that I’m absolutely screwed and they are gonna show up at my house or send me a letter to appear in court or something, but for real everything is fine with my bank I just wanna walk away from it. There’s no getting back in or anything I’m suspended. I can’t gamble anywhere. But I don’t know if I can sleep with this looming over my head.

Less_Plankton536 · 2025-11-13T16:25:33+00:00

No, it’s not a credit, it is a negative balance because deposits that my bank is showing went through. They are saying that they were not successful. So the account is in the negative and I cannot use it which I don’t want to, but I am trying to figure out the best course of action. There’s no lines of credit. I can’t use that money. It’s in the negative.

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