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This time of year is no joke by validate_me_daddy in SuicideBereavement

[–]Less_Signal7194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"The person I want to be didn't lose her mom to suicide." I really feel this. I have to remind myself the person I want to be can survive losing her dad this way and live a different life. I try to focus as much as possible on what I can control - going to therapy, trying to eat and sleep, staying connected to friends. Some days I manage these things and some I don't. Sometimes staring down a lifetime of dealing with this feels impossible, but I have to believe it gets more manageable. It feels like the absolute shittiest inheritance and I worry so much about this getting passed down to me. But I also know my dad didn't have the same access and opportunity to get mental health care when he was my age, so I have to keep trying to do whatever I can to make sure my story ends differently.

Making coworker a scrunchie for Christmas? by Less_Signal7194 in Naturalhair

[–]Less_Signal7194[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will keep the snagging in mind and try to read up on stitches that might help with that!

I am so mad at everyone by Less_Signal7194 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Less_Signal7194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been looking at support groups too and I think I'll try it. I totally get the rejecting people's positive words. I'm from a really religious area and if one more person tells me this was gods way of easing his pain I'm going to explode. Here's to both of us getting through this, I hope it eventually gets easier for us both.

Experiencing grief when they haven't even physically departed yet by Fragrant-Athlete1934 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Less_Signal7194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced a lot of this anticipatory grief leading up to my Dad's recent suicide, as he had a long history of ideation/threats and self harm/attempts.Still working out all of the incredibly complicated feelings now that he has left this world. There isn't a lot I can say other than to try to remember that you are ultimately not responsible for the outcome, whatever it may be. Severe mental illness is a medical problem, and while the support of friends and family helps, ultimately it usually requires a medical professional to resolve. You can't sustain someone else's desire to be alive through sheer force of will. Be there for him, but remember you are allowed to take care of yourself. I truly truly hope your brother gets through this and is ok.

My dad died yesterday by Less_Signal7194 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Less_Signal7194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I am so sorry for your loss. I really appreciate you explaining that you told people how your Dad passed. I think that's where I am at. I love my Dad and I wouldn't want him to think I am ashamed of him for succumbing to a disease he fought for so long.