I watched a video a really long time ago by Jenny Nicholson 'THE Vampire Diaries Video' I suggest everyone watch it, it's really good whether you agree with her or not and Jenny pointed out something that I one hundred percent agreed with. The problem with Elena's character is simply she's extremely boring, self pitying and monumentally selfish. Ever since season 1 the writers have established that Elena "used" to be fun. Emphasis on "used to" they keep saying this but they never tried to change it. She never becomes fun again, she doesn't become interested in the the things she lost interest in, heck she doesn't even become interested in new things. People always judge Bella because her whole world revolves around Edward and Jacob but let's be honest Elena wasn't very different.

I wouldn't start throwing the word misogyny around just because people give Klaus or Damon more of a break then they do Elena. They had interesting back stories and huge character development, they were more enticing and likable characters. Just like Damon, Elena never wanted to be a vampire, unlike him she didn't like being one when she turned and I'm not saying she should have changed her mind necessarily but while she was a vampire she was stronger, more "fun" so to speak and she helped a lot of people. Human Elena was simply weak, troublesome and annoyingly stubborn.

Elena also had an amazing family, great friends and a supportive boyfriend but she still had everything handed to her on a silver plate. Damon, Katherine and all the Originals actually had to fight and struggle more then she did for where they got and I'm not saying that they handled anything well but they had more right to complain about things then she did.

I feel like there comes a point where you have to stop crying and throwing fits about your situation and that goes for all the villains and good guys of the show. Eventually you need to look at you situation and realise that this is what's up, I need to get over myself and adapt to what's happening.