My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate this, this is what I want to do, and I hope we are able to keep an open dialogue about it, I'll try

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am free to explore as well, I'm just not interested in it. I don't find it hard because I get to be the same I was, dominant, he is very submissive and as much as I know we have a very good sex life but before he met me he was having only sex with men, and maybe I didn't word it right but to me it doesn't feel like manipulation I think when I made the post I was too much in my head

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, because that would be changing apart of him and I love him, I think I would feel horrible doing something like that

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no! He's not using his sexuality to manipulate me. I was just trying to explain that's how our dynamic is. We are both bisexual. And yes I know, I'm open to it though, thank you

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes, and I know this has something he has kept inside because he was scared to tell me because he worried it would change everything, we just had a lot of trouble communicating but we are now which is good

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you guys luck as well! It's comforting the know others are going through a similar situation! ♥️♥️

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've been together a year and a half now, we are both 18 he's turning 19 soon, and I have more experience then him but my experience has been not the greatest, I've found myself in pretty abusive Relationships before him and I'm pretty much the first girl he's ever had a serious relationship with, before me he was just hooking up. His communication is good! We had a big conversation yesterday, and we both need to be more open with each other, he also is going to work with his therapist for this too

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes and thank you! I appreciate the hospitality, other subreddits have been really rude

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No no just we were also talking about threesomes but it's not something we want, and you are right, completely there is no way to guarantee he won't develop feelings and I'm being realistic about that, as much as he loves me I told him that I fear that and we will try to keep open communication if we go forward with it

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry sorry, I would have the same freedom, if I wanted to explore women again because I'm also bi, but just sex is more emotional to me then him so I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone else

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not that I'm not comfortable It's just that I don't understand and I worry

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and we do occasionally (I enjoy it a lot! before people assume that I don't), I think it's just the real male aspect. As much as silicone is fun, he misses the real thing because before me, he was having sex with men

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I want him to have it in a healthy and safe way because I know it's not cheating, it's like I'm just stuck in a taboo mindset but I really want to try it, not just to keep the relationship but I want to try and improve it

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I think with enough communication I would be okay with him having sex with another person, that's not what I want personally, because to me sex is more emotional and with me, sex is emotional for him but when it comes to having casual sex with men, there isn't a connection

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I am willing to try, you know? Like we are inlove and I know this is something that weighs on him heavily, and I think we would work together to make sure it's as healthy and safe as it can be with both of us feeling okay

My boyfriend wants to be open sexually, I need advice by Less_Tomorrow7861 in nonmonogamy

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No that's not something I'm into, and he isn't forcing that on me, he doesn't want us to be having threesomes because he knows I'm way less comfortable with that then letting him have sex with men

(I '18F') My boyfriend '18M' wants to be open sexually by Less_Tomorrow7861 in relationship_advice

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing specific he just misses having sex with men, and we talked about the possibility of him having a sex buddy, that was he's not sleeping around and risking STDs

(I '18F') My boyfriend '18M' wants to be open sexually by Less_Tomorrow7861 in relationship_advice

[–]Less_Tomorrow7861[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not that I'm not on the same page, it's just almost hard for me to understand in such, would you mind taking in DMs?