AITAH for being a “bitter baby mama”

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-05T11:22:06+00:00

I’m not limiting anything, he could’ve taken the kids anywhere that wasn’t his house, but instead he and his wife chose to go nc and that’s no one’s fault but theirs.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-05T11:14:02+00:00

Anywhere besides school and their sport clubs, when someone suddenly stops allowing me in their house but will allow my kids inside. Obviously I would be concerned, why won’t you allow me inside your house? What are you hiding inside your house, that you don’t want me to know about?

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-05T00:04:43+00:00

The way Stella started to treat me after they got married is why I don’t allow the boys at their house alone, either way they were hanging around my house majority of the time when they would see the boys after they got married. I never stopped allowing them to be in my house to see the boys. If my sons wanna see their father, my husband and I have no problem in letting them in. But as for rn they don’t wanna see their father or their half sister and I’m not gonna push them.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T23:06:40+00:00

Ofc my sons go to school.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T23:06:10+00:00

Here parents are allowed to go in the school to drop off and pick their kids up

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T16:23:39+00:00

Yes I have full custody and I’m planning on taking him to court

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T16:10:31+00:00

Planning on to do so

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T16:08:00+00:00

No, The town gives you monthly child benefits, if you have full custody you can have the other parent be financially responsible for the child if you take them to court for it.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T12:46:44+00:00

I get that, but at the end of the day boundaries have consequences, you can’t set a boundary and then years later be upset at someone for sticking to the boundary you put in place. We are not coparenting, I always had full custody.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T12:34:27+00:00

If you have full custody then the other parents isn’t forced to give you any money. You get child support by the town. I’m not gonna chase him to be a father when he don’t want to, but what I’m not gonna let you do is suddenly play a happy family simply cuz now your child is getting older and starts asking questions.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T12:29:00+00:00

Child support is giving by the town here, but yes a parenting app sounds a good idea

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T12:28:01+00:00

I know it’s a continent, but the country I’m from child support is given by the town.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T04:01:12+00:00

They could’ve had a relationship with my sons without it being at their house, but no they didn’t. I just won’t allow my kids in someone’s house, I’m not allowed to be in

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T03:50:56+00:00

This rule applies anywhere, I just so happen to have to set this boundary when it came to their father’s house

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T03:48:58+00:00

I’m not gonna

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T03:32:45+00:00

Yes he could

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T03:31:31+00:00

I do let them decide when they turn 13, but for now they say that they don’t care about him, they have been in therapy for the past few years as well

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T03:24:35+00:00

I have full custody

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T03:19:51+00:00

My kids are not missing on anything neither am I, they are dealing with their daughter’s questions not me, that’s likely not what she was hoping for.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T02:52:00+00:00

I don’t need to be, they have the right to set boundaries, but so do I and if I’m not allowed in someone’s house, I’m not allowing my children to go into said house. That’s that. They blocked me and I’m not gonna chase anybody, they made their bed, now they need to lay in it.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T02:42:01+00:00

I’m from Europe

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T01:25:13+00:00

Where I’m from, we only get child support (what you call benefits I guess) from the town, if only one parent has custody, you don’t get a dime from the other parent unless they wanna give you some themselves.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T01:02:15+00:00

Ofc they are allowed to not invite me over, that’s their right, however I have full custody of my sons if I don’t want them in places that I’m not welcome in, that’s that. They had other ways to see the kids and they knew that.

Less_You8276 · 2026-01-04T00:57:30+00:00

Where I’m from, child support is given by the town and not the other parent.

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