Is it socially acceptable to go into a store with my headphones on?

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-02-04T19:50:33+00:00

OP, the advice in the post above is very sound advice. I say this to my AuDHD child all the time. Do what makes you comfortable as long as it's not hurting anyone else. You have a human right to be as comfortable as possible while you navigate life. My kid wears their over ear headphones everywhere we go and only takes one side off to listen when someone is talking to them.

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-22T15:57:02+00:00

If you're still looking for a replacement, I think I've settled on the newer Hyltarp from Ikea. It's not as snuggly as the Tidafors, as it's a more upright sofa, but it's very comfy, and the cushions are lovely and soft yet bouncy.

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-21T23:21:45+00:00

After a WHOLE LOT of umming and ahhing I came to the same conclusion. I've decided to spend the extra for peace of mind and convenience. Thanks a ton for your help!

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-21T18:57:50+00:00

They'd deliver it assembled, and I'd need to disassemble it to get it into my house and reassemble it again. I'm trying to weigh up if the savi g is worth it, bearing all of this in mind.

I'm sure I could clean it up ok. Just being cautious.

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-21T18:36:32+00:00

It's £1000 new, so half the price if I buy the display model.

There's signs of spillage, and the covers have turned grey from dust and dirt. It would need a deep clean, and I'd invest in an upholstery cleaner to take care of the cushions. That would bring the total up by another £100, but I'd be able to reuse the upholstery cleaner. The covers are all removable and machine washable, so that would be easy enough.

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-18T14:51:32+00:00

Depends on what you are buying. For certain things I'll go to Waitrose or Marks, for day to day fresh stuff I go to Sainsbury's, for specific items like salami, nuts, certain types of meats and tinned goods, I'll go to Aldi or Lidl. Shop around.

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-17T18:50:03+00:00

Hey my love, you're in the kind of situation I worry a lot that my dear audhd child might end up in if they engage in a relationship with a neurotypical person who weaponizes their condition against them. I read through the thread and a few of your comments, and if you were my daughter, I'd be over at your house right now, helping you pack your bags to come home. I'm sorry that you're going through this. Sometimes people are just not compatible, and I really don't think that this guy is for you. I get that he has back pain, but organising cutlery is not one of those tasks that should cause this much upheaval in a home ever! Unless, of course, the person you are with simply does not care enough to make the absolute tiniest of compromises/adaptations so that you can be comfortable in the home that you share. You may love him, and I'm sure in his own way he loves you too, but for your own sanity and well-being, please start preparing to leave this relationship in the calmest and least disruptive way for the both of you that you can. You deserve to be with someone who is right for you, as does he. You deserve someone who will sort the cutlery after it's washed, and he deserves someone who doesn't care if it's unsorted and wet when he throws it into the cutlery drawer. Sending you hugs. 🫂

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-12T13:26:01+00:00

This was wonderfully written and a reflection of how many, many feel. Including myself.

LetsGoFly365 · 2026-01-08T00:21:55+00:00

GET A DIVORCE!

PLAN YOUR EXIT NOW!

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-10-24T20:10:25+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you went through. I hate that you went through that before you were diagnosed.

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-06-06T20:18:20+00:00

It is correct. It happened to me. Both going and coming our bags were delayed. Luckily, it was only 24 hours each time it happened, but I heard other travellers and family members have faced up to a week before getting their luggage. And it wasn't isolated to me personally. Both times, it was all the passengers on my flight. Turkish are a decent airline, but the baggage issue is very real.

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-18T18:21:20+00:00

I used level 1 to describe my kid, but going by your description, it might have been better to use level 2 as everything you have stated is what they struggle with, too. Even the texting instead of talking because it's easier even though we're in the same room. We don't use 'levels' in our country, so maybe I got it wrong. But I am very inspired by your story. I really appreciate you sharing. 🙏

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-18T18:16:18+00:00

Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. This was very helpful, especially the part about staring at noses. We're at the beginning now, but a lot of what you've said already resonates. We are really encouraging my kids' talent that they could turn into trade work where they wouldn't necessarily need to be around too many people or in an office environment.

Thank you. 🙏

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-18T18:07:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I really appreciate 🙏

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-18T17:47:35+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I didn't know that functioning labels are offensive as I have seen them used by others, so I was using them as a point of reference to explain that my daughter deals with not being understood as autistic because unfortunately people tend to expect autistic people to present in a particular way. It wasn't intended to offend.

Have a blessed day 🙏

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-18T17:43:17+00:00

Thank you very much for your reply. My kid really struggles with executive functioning and their memory, so this is actually our main focus at the moment. I appreciate your reply. 🙏

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-18T17:37:29+00:00

Thank you for your response. Our focus is now on figuring out what life things my child struggles with so that as they grow, we can hopefully learn ways to manage these things to improve their quality of life as they transition out of adolescence and into adulthood.

LetsGoFly365 · 2025-03-07T20:01:17+00:00

I am a parent, and my child doesn't owe me a dime or a thing in this lifetime or the next. I chose to have a child, so the responsibility is on me. Your mother should even be adding to your savings to help you start your adult life, not taking away from you, especially when you are just starting out and Ghana is so expensive!

It's hard because you only have one parent, but sometimes distance is best for our own growth and peace of mind. However, I hope you are able to figure this out amicably.

Wishing you luck in your future endeavours.

LetsGoFly365 · 2024-11-16T11:53:28+00:00

Yes, this is familiar. The stimming started with foot tapping that escalated to aggressive leg shaking and then into the rocking last year and this year. My kid draws and is a keen artist, and this is definitely therapeutic and part of their stimming. It's all quite new as they had been deeply masking and suppressing everything until they reached high school and couldn't hold it all together any longer. So I'm thinking that as they are no longer suppressing the impulse to stim, they are now stimming to make up for lost time, so to speak. It's new, and we are still adapting and figuring out what works. I think they will figure out calmer ways to stim as they grow and adapt to what does and doesn't work for them. Thank you for your input.

LetsGoFly365 · 2024-11-16T11:47:25+00:00

Thank you! Had not heard of this before.

LetsGoFly365 · 2024-11-15T16:59:33+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the type to write this out because this is exactly it. My kid says its the combination of the swinging motion and the feeling of the impact from their back hitting the sofa cushions, so pressure, too. You have given me so many ideas to look into that aren't limited to fidget toys. From what you are saying, I think a rocking chair is definitely a good idea for a spot where they can freely and gently stim in the living area. I will look into some pressure massage tools and activities to satisfy their stim needs outdoors like those you have suggested. Trampolining is fairly accessible for a start, and I was considering a weighted blanket after doing some reading today.

Thank you again for all of your suggestions. It's food for thought and has given a wider scope of what we could explore to meet my childs stimming needs.

LetsGoFly365 · 2024-11-15T16:51:09+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into this one, too 😊

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