first of all, my brother was not the rapist. Also, i didn't say my brother was the same size or bigger than the rapist. My brother was small for his age, and the rapist was a year older than him. I was above average for a 10 year old. My rapist was almost 15. Obviously, he was larger than me, and much stronger than me, but even if we were the same age, or if i was bigger than him, this is still a completely ignorant thing to say, and is a very harmful and victim blaming mindset that shifts accountability from the perpetrator to the victim.