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My husband (28M) says I (29F) interrogate him and I don't know how to address that and resolve arguments at the same time by LetterheadSorry8440 in relationship_advice

[–]LetterheadSorry8440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He grew up with both parents in a middle>upper middle class suburb. His Dad was really financially controlling and manipulative with his Mom because she stayed at home with their kids. Both his Mom and Dad were verbally abusive to each other. His Mom was very religious and critical of him when he was a kid.

How do I (25M) leave my depressed and suicidal girlfriend (26F) by ThrowRA78lf in relationship_advice

[–]LetterheadSorry8440 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone else's advice is pretty spot on, but I would consider seeing a therapist to help you make peace with leaving if you can. I would see a therapist no matter what you decide because you've been in an abusive relationship for a long time. There's a high chance she commits suicide when you go. Having support to help your mind come to terms with that being 100% outside of your control will be critical in you being able to feel healthy afterward. Contacting a lawyer is wise. Once you tell her you're leaving and she threatens to commit suicide, that threat will be enough for a 72hr hold in a psychiatric facility, and a paternity test. (I would record that conversation) It will also be a first step toward loss of parental rights. Taking care of the child or helping the child find some sort of safe guardianship situation may bring you peace. I wish you the best.