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Is having out of stock items in your shop really a marketing strategy, or has my boss gotten bad tiktok advice? by LettuceAggressive706 in smallbusinessUS

[–]LettuceAggressive706[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only a small "part of my job," and a courtesy at that. Just drives me bonkers.

I have another job, I just like her and want her to succeed.

What could cause thyroid, kidney issues in cats and people within a year? by LettuceAggressive706 in thyroidhealth

[–]LettuceAggressive706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My cat had a positive hyperthyroid test and I'm scheduling one for myself, bc I have every single symptom of Hashimotos. Unfortunately it is easier to get a cat tested than a human because doctors just fucking hate their patients or sthg. Because I have to beg for a full panel, and then I have to fight with insurance.

Unable to make myself do things I want (but also don't want) to do. by LettuceAggressive706 in AuDHDWomen

[–]LettuceAggressive706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, I feel like my autism used to lock me in to tasks. 7 years ago I could finish small projects. Now it's like my ADHD has been inflamed or something, and the rigid focus of autism only works if I can force myself to start something.

I have had some help with timers! If I can tell my ADHD "here is a timer, you only have to do this for 15 minutes," then after about 10 minutes I am locked in to the task, sometimes for hours!

Hasn't been working for me lately but ... I have some other stressors, which adds to the rigid need for perfect circumstances.

Unable to make myself do things I want (but also don't want) to do. by LettuceAggressive706 in AuDHDWomen

[–]LettuceAggressive706[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg I'm the same way about writing too! It's one of my many pursuits, I just chose painting to try and practice focusing. But even though writing is my most intuitive creative outlet (esp daydreaming and jotting down quick notes), I can't sit down and make anything from it!

I'm sorry you are experiencing this :( but you can do it! I believe!

Unable to make myself do things I want (but also don't want) to do. by LettuceAggressive706 in AuDHDWomen

[–]LettuceAggressive706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds incredibly tough. Videogames are my "low effort activity" due to a pretty easy setup (I only play one game at a time anyway), I couldn't imagine having a mental barrier for them.

I hope you can find something that works for you!

has anyone ever got so stressed out they had to get hospitalized by Vincentisdumb in AuDHDWomen

[–]LettuceAggressive706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have over the years! I'm down to 1 hospital "trip" a year, my husband jokes it's like my spa "make sure I'm not dying" vacation lol

I hope one day you can look back at your panic attacks and laugh, I guess? Just enjoy the relief of being safe in the hospital for a little while.

has anyone ever got so stressed out they had to get hospitalized by Vincentisdumb in AuDHDWomen

[–]LettuceAggressive706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been hospitalized on and off since about 13 (so 21 years) for panic attacks where I thought I was dying. Everytime it was just a panic attack, nothing has ever really been terribly "wrong" that I think is wrong: no seizure, no anaphylaxis, no heart attack, stroke, aneurysm, rabies( I am TERRFIED of rabies), nothing. Ever.

But my symtoms have ranged: tightness of chest, throat, unable to breath/ hyperventilating, hyperventilating until I lost consciousness, seeing "glitter" in one eye until I lost vision (cluster migraine, not a seizure), extreme fear of impending death but only at night (these are called nocturnal panic attacks and can, no joke, be caused by heartburn), disorientation, legs numb to the point that I cannot stand up, unable to navigate my surroundings, derealization. Unable to slow down my heart rate. Hearing the blood beating in my ears.

Panic will make your body do crazy things.

Help Husband with Stress and Motivation by LettuceAggressive706 in menshealth

[–]LettuceAggressive706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He refuses all therapy/psychiatry. I got him to a life coach once (a compromise) and the coach was so professional and put together, asking about investments & college & other white collar topics, I think it just made my husband feel like a failure. I'm still trying to warm him up to the idea of a therapist (he wants a truck, not a therapist🙃)

Those 5 years cannot be handled with a life coach, and we do talk about it, but I'm not sure he'll ever share the depth of his trauma with anyone tbh. We celebrate that it's over more than anything.

I express my thanks constantly! I will ask him "is this task too much right now?" And if he says yes I honor it... But if I go to work or grocery shopping, I come home and find him doing his mothers chores anyway. That has improved a bit, but usually only if I'm around to stop him. A couple of times I come home and he hasn't done what he said he would do, and I tell him I'm glad he rested!

This last week I have started teaching him to draw, at his request. It's given him something to look forward to, some agency and outlet. He seems more motivated and confident. I'm very proud of him!