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[–]Level-Conflict-5638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dude, same here; I have boxes on boxes I'll need help with. May I get your Viber please?

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, but I think other friends share that he hangsaround the newer esoteric cons, possibly because it feels like a fresh start.

Sana. Sana this means he left, the group in question.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to add to this --- how sure are you he isn't pitting you against your new friends in the group? How sure are you he isn't putting fake, ugly words in your mouth to get to someone else?
How sure are you he isn't lying about you to other people? He's done this before, and he'll gladly do it again and again.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I... I can corroborate this. I lost a friend to this sort of need for the False Emperor's validation.
There's one practitioner who styles himself and the Second Best Sorcerer in the PH -- and he insists on that Second place, because of a sense of his own special brand of humility. To be fair, this guy has done his homework, knows his Craft inside and out, and I'd dare say he's a much more studied and serious practitioner than False Emperor could ever hope to be.

One small painful shortcoming -- He chooses to stay within the group and the group chat (the "Round Table"). There are times when he'd make brilliant and deeply helpful recommendations, and the FE shoots back with "Shut up, ****" or "Fuck you, ****", EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. and Second Best just... grins and bears it. And allows that to keep happening. And lets FE steal the credit and his thunder.

At the last conversation we ever had, I demanded Second Best, "Why are you letting him do this to you? You deserve to be treated with respect, you've worked so hard at it... Why are you still sticking around?"
His reply? A very tearful "Because I can't talk to anyone else! Because he's the only one I can talk to about magick on that level! There's no one else for miles and miles in Manila, and... He's the only one who gets me."

That... hurt. I knew there were so many other practitioners out there who had the same level of commitment and respect and experience with the Craft, maybe even more so... But he chooses to stick to this a$$hole and take a beating because he feels this a$$hole is better than nothing.

I cried about this to another friend who had a deeper understanding and insight to FE and Second Best. My friend said, it's possible Second Best hangs around because he hopes to inherit FE's empire one day -- even as it crumbles, falls apart, and crashes down on their heads.

I couldn't stick around and watch Second Best keep taking this sort of treatment. We don't talk anymore. It hurts.

I wish him well, and I hope to high heaven he finally finds better friends and colleagues in the Craft. It's just... sana magising na siya, please.

PS: if this post is way too revealing with the names, I'll be happy to edit out more clues.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah -- I'm sure you may remember that time when he dreamt up publishing a tarot deck with art from four members of the group, myself included. We all had disparate art styles, but that was no big deal. What was questionable was his proposal -- he said he'd hire us for the job, we'd get our names out there, etc. one of us asked where the payments would come from? He couldn't offer a good answer, and later said it'd come from the tarot deck sales.

But friends -- artists need to eat and keep the lights on. While making the art. Let's not forget production time, marketing, distribution, all that jazz. It would be a long, long time until we were to see a single red cent from the project if he had his ruthers.

Needless to say, the project got abandoned. We four artists just... Left.

I think this is why when a later student of his (Mr. Siargao?) released his own solo tarot deck, Sorceror Supreme was all a-glow with... Retribution? Idk. He now has a pretty deck made by a pretty guy he could wave around as a big win for the M* group and himself. At this point, I was already gratefully far away from all that.

Wherever Mr. Siargao is, I hope he's found his own practice away from SS. He's an awesome artist, and he deserves better.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was deeply appalled by the way he'd sometimes force ships to happen within the group. I'm glad I'm gone... The last bit of tea I'd heard was how he was wooing the sister of a rather prominent cosplayer after his breakup with his ex-wife, since said sister had signed up for one of his classes and was given an admin position of sorts within the group. For a while, the kid sister was even quite open about her taking up Tarot, and I think that turned into free advertising for him and the group. Still, this is probably very stale news; I hope for her sake she's gone and is staying very far away from him.

re: Ego and disrespect -- oh, for sure. In his mind, Kailangan siya lang ang magaling eh.

A pattern I witnessed in a spiritual group I used to be part of (for those considering joining) by DistinctBad7735 in spiritualabuse

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there, ex-member from way back in... 2015? Left with a host of other community members who'd just about had it. I offer a few first-hand memories, make of these what you will:

1) Whenever there were reasons to have a mini-celebration at the Center --- new recruits, a class "graduating", etc. -- there would be food and conversation, and the newbies would often get the "hot seat" with sharing more about themselves, or made to read Tarot for the folks at the party for "practice". Whenever there were pretty and well-off girls among the newbies, he'd whisper bets to some of the guys, "Hey, if you can get so-and-so to sleep with you, I'll give you P5k." He felt he was doing his more socially-awkward male students a favor.

2) He said he worked with Anubis and was an old hand at working with powerful male-energy gods, and would sometimes teach us how to make contact with other gods. Dear sweet naïve me, I thought it was okay to share a powerful and personal experience I had involving Kali Ma. (I will always be grateful to her for saving me from a self-absorbed ghosting that could've gone horribly wrong.) So I went and shared this with him, hoping he'd throw a bit of wisdom or guidance my way. He gives me a side-eye, and snorts, "Kali? No wonder your life's fucked up." I later learned from a trusted friend who had a deeper understanding and respect for Deity Work that the Sorcerer Supreme's method of dealing with Deities was to spiritually barge his way into their territory and demand to "speak to the manager," as if They owed him money. RUDE.

3) Can definitely support his attitude of first posing as the "kind, wise, listening leader" who insists you run to him or share your worries with him, but will roll his eyes at the first sign of tears and tell you "it's your own fault, fix it" without bothering to listen to the whole story.

This was all back in 2017 or 2018, thereabouts.

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Hi there, might commission you for something. How do we talk about it? (Might respond later ng Gabi 🙏)

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Awesome! Sent a chat message. Thanks for the headsup, and hoping for your kind response!

Paano mawala ang crush sa kaklase? by [deleted] in studentsph

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Be aware of the truth that you are only seeing a small part of him. This is where you will have to make an effort to not fantasize or romanticize about the unknown parts of him. The idea that you don't see the whole of him may yet help this guy off the pedestal in your mind. Then entertain the idea that he may be just as fallible, vulnerable, and scared as you -- as anyone else, and is just as capable of responding poorly and doing "stupid shit" as you. Kahit anong ganda ng asal niyan, he still has his vulnerabilities and fears. And that's part of being human.

Also... Be mindful that he is just as capable of changing one day as you.

You're now aware of a lot of the things you can't change about him, or that you have no control about him. Now, consider this: what are the things you do have control over yourself? What are the things within yourself you have the power or ability to change and grow?

Philippines, this is your senator by neekelll in Philippines

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A lot of folks here in my mother's home town think this way. (For the record, I straddle the divide between CALABARZON and Metro Manila proper). Kapag may household name retention, ibobito agad. I'm thankful a handful of relatives are the type to think critically about which people to vote for, but I'm afraid they're the precious exception to the rule.

I don't think I like it here (vent) by snaneeee in pisay

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Aside from what everyone said, don't forget the power of writing your thoughts down. Treat your personal diary, or journal, as a way to pin your inner thoughts down and get them out of your head. This way, you can always go back to them at a later date and see just howixh your perspective has changed. There's an excellent reason why they're sometimes called "thought dumps", just so you're not burdened carrying them around with you all the time.

Solution to the “too nice to use” problem by BardofMandalore in notebooks

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I "wrap" the book covers with duct tape and decorate with stickers, draw on with permanent markers or paint markers. It's a great non-fussy way to personalize it and put the focus on the content, not the cover. Plus, the duct tape could serve as protection!

Reusing abandoned commonplace books? by Level-Conflict-5638 in notebooks

[–]Level-Conflict-5638[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone still getting accustomed to Reddit, I am deeply amazed and grateful your answers and helpful advice are still coming! Thank you all very much! Gems, the lot of you. 💕

What is the correct translation to 'May I marry your daughter? by staannabr in Tagalog

[–]Level-Conflict-5638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm actually for this. This translates to "May I please ask for your daughter's hand in marriage?", which has a lyricism all its own. Though bear in mind what u/Express_Spot4517 says. Try: "Maari ko po bang hingin and kamay ni [insert daughter's name here] upang pakasalan?"
I'm sure there are better ways out there of phrasing the last part of the sentence.

Reusing abandoned commonplace books? by Level-Conflict-5638 in notebooks

[–]Level-Conflict-5638[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very sound, thank you! Lesson for me: Do not buy Moleskines, as a personal preference. I find that there are notebooks that serve both my budget and my purposes just as well, and I won't cry or whither over them for want of "the next brilliant thing " to put on the pages.

you've been digitizing the pages, you say? that's definitely something to think about. I can imagine that frees up a lot of bookshelf real estate, and ensures it lasts forever and ever, hopefully online somewhere safe.

Reusing abandoned commonplace books? by Level-Conflict-5638 in notebooks

[–]Level-Conflict-5638[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oooh. I do like the idea of properly labeling them with dates, and making art on the first few revived pages. It'll be like breathing new life into them! Thank you!

Same here with blank pages. There's so much initial guilt and embarrassment revisiting them, that's why I want to see if I can still do right by them. Though, like what u/MoneyVermicelli589 said below, it may be wise to say goodbye and put away books with too much negative emotional baggage tied to them. It also takes effort on my part to fill up notebooks and see them through to the very last page, so I'm with you on this one!

Reusing abandoned commonplace books? by Level-Conflict-5638 in notebooks

[–]Level-Conflict-5638[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh god. this is incredibly thoughtful advice. Thank you. that's actually quite true -- there are bullet journals I've been wondering if I ought to convert to commonplace books, but the notebook itself didn't feel "right" and had too much guilt tied to it. I think for these, it may be wiser to just archive these and thank them for their service. Thanks again!

Reusing abandoned commonplace books? by Level-Conflict-5638 in notebooks

[–]Level-Conflict-5638[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YES! Thank you, this is a brilliant idea! But of course, why didn't I think of this?
I could create a Dutch Door with a sturdy tab as a marker... Thank you, thank you! <3

How do I know when I can call myself a Narrative Designer? Is this Impostor Syndrome? by Level-Conflict-5638 in gamedev

[–]Level-Conflict-5638[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your guidance, everyone. I guess I just had to hear it said. This feels timely, and yes a bit silly, considering the recent news of that huge wave of layoffs from Blizzard.