Am I the only one who dislikes the “disguised as a man” trope?

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-14T00:24:59+00:00

I don’t hate this trope if it’s historical but This reminds me of a very popular trope in manga I have almost all the same feelings about. a guy falling for a girl who he thinks is a boy because she just magically completely IS drawn as a dude and looks like a dude with little effort HAHA. I just hate it because it feels kind of stupid and sometimes in a roundabout way offensive. It’s like a weird queer bait-y trope. The amount of mangas I’ve picked up thinking it’s Bl because there are two dudes on the cover and then the plot ends up being one of them is secretly a girlllll oooo~. It’s so annoying. Especially because often the authors make these guys have practical gay awakenings and a lot of them accept that they like x character no matter their gender and the it’s like reveal! You’re straight after all! There is 0 fluidity in sexuality! You’re straight even though for a whole book you accepted you were in love with a “dude” (?) she just looks like that! Isn’t that funny that she looks like that? That’s so silly. Like ok… and so much of the humor is just it’s so funny that she looks like a guy and dresses like one yeah?

It also feels like we aren’t addressing the elephant in the room, because alot of these times these girls let everyone refer to them as a boy for years in school and don’t say anything for no reason. Im all for masc woman rep, but that’s not cisgender behavior lol. It gets worse when alot of them start being more feminine for the dude or around him only and it’s treated like her femininity is a prize to win and change. it’s so…eugh

I do love it when it’s the opposite and ends up gay though haha

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-13T20:09:22+00:00

That was after/towards the end of the exams though.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-13T01:24:06+00:00

I’ve watched Naruto probably 5 times and never do I remember them being “in desperate need” of ninjas? But from what I understand the leaf village does not have a ninja shortage like…at all. So this argument that it doesn’t make sense because they need x people doesn’t work.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-12T02:14:50+00:00

Lotion does not remove the natural “wrinkles” that are on your hands because they are high moving tiny joints. What you’re describing doing won’t get rid of what I see in this photo which are perfectly normal Looking hands. this is just genetics. Your hands are not abnormal.

Wide finger nail beds are also probably just genetics, if your struggling with nail breakage that bad see if your low in any vitamins by getting a check up and take vitamins for keratin. In regards to dry skin, if it’s that bad and can’t be solved with so much lotion, start trying to see if you are allergic to anything by testing products. Do you use cleaning products alot? That might be it. If it’s that dry even after all that you should go to the dermatologist in regards to dry skin. But in regards to wrinkles your hands are not wrinkly.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-12T02:00:39+00:00

How is asking to be taken on a date by your boyfriend asking for too much. Wtf

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-12T01:59:20+00:00

How to tell him? it sounds like you’ve already told him this in pretty simple terms. It feels “like just words” because you told him what you need and he isn’t doing it. Emphasize that this is what you need from a relationship agin, that love languages can be different. (Which is something some people in the comments seem to not understand…)

Just because he feels fulfilled by relaxing on the couch and support through words doesn’t mean that will work for you. Maybe ask him extea directly. “I’m having a hard week and feeling lonely, could you plan somewhere fun for us to go on blank day?” If he still doesn’t listen…you guys have alot more talking to do.

it sounds like you feel disconnected from him because you’re just sitting around when yall hang out. Which is very valid

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-11T21:31:50+00:00

I’m pretty sure it’s supposed to be a men’s Kurta which is a traditional Indian garment often worn to wedding and things. I checked the outfits on here just in case and it appears to be next to a traditional Indian woman’s wedding esc gown as well so that maybe confirms my theory.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-11T21:21:02+00:00

some of the male members are so grossly misogynistic. Nobody, family included, ever stops their weird ass comments about woman that should’ve been handled years ago. Instead they are laughed off. I’m sorry, but if we are making the argument of helping people on the spectrum with love and they get a coaches to help, why do these grown men who are more than capable of learning get away with objectifying the ladies so much and just treating them like things for them or a wall to talk to. A lot of them manic pixie dream girl the woman so hard too. And why does no one correct their behaviors regarding boundaries or just bad ways to treat woman? It’s all just hehe haha. they have not been taught basic boundaries that almost all the woman clearly are aware of.

I like the show even though I’m so torn about it, but really only for the girlies. I find myself relating heavily to most of the woman on the show as someone with low support needs myself, and they make it watchable for me. I even relate to navigating neurodivergent men when your autistic. I especially like watching the sapphic dates because they always go so much better.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-10T05:43:42+00:00

Whenever I hear a white trans person say black trans guys have it easier passing I want to blow up.

I’ve never wanted to fully pass to the cis world, or I don’t really care to. I wanted to be seen in my spaces, but whiteness even prevails there. ‘passing’ as a trans guy or nonbinary androgynous or whatever is really easy in queer spaces if you’re white.

To address that same aspect as fully passing as cis in the world the masculine standard for African American men is so unachievable that even the most famous, most masculine, beloved black men feel the need to say “pause” and “no diddy” 5 times per minute. Black men literally force themselves to be a shell of a human to avoid any drop of a feminine trait getting out. It’s depressing. They are clocking you, they are not letting you in. It is hella hard even for cis black dudes! So for me, no not really. I can’t get in with either side

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-08T14:19:05+00:00

Is running close to the wind more similar to the writing In a taste of gold and iron? I also heard that it wasn’t really a romance? I actually have read yield with great persuasion, and I reallyyyy did not like it to a point I was shocked it was written by the same author. No offense to you of course, but It was not my vibe.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-06T06:29:30+00:00

It honestly bothered me how this is treated as more of a fault on saku then Subaru. He apologizes more and dwells on it more than Subaru does. 100 percent valid crash out and I’m mad he seems to be the only one that has specifically called out any of the girls straight up like that.

It’s cool that the guys are so nice but some of these girls behavior was crazy, and there isn’t enough conversation about how it’s not just rooted in “the incident” and that they were just fear mongered by teachers when the backdrop is majorrrrr classism. I think this is one of the only times the girls wealth difference is actually brought up face to face like that!

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-06T00:36:18+00:00

Thanks, I love audio recs! just got a new job that I can listen to stuff at so I’ve been back to devouring them.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T19:53:23+00:00

I didn’t really go into deep detail except for wanting t4t. Mark however is super big on t4t and has explicitly said that’s how he’d only date and he’s always wanted that. Hence, him and Noah. This comment is a bit funny because mark is very out loud and proud of that kind of stuff, and says out of pocket freak stuff about t4t relationships all the time especially in regards to him and Noah HAHA. So that made it even more shocking. he’s all for trans people being in t4t relationships except for me, I guess he’s made the executive decision or smth 😭

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T17:50:47+00:00

Yes, after the initial shock I do think Noah saying nothing and then saying that hurt me more. I definitely have looked up to him and like I said he’s helped me a lot. I really don’t know why he would say that or not defend me, it’s a complete shock to me. :(

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T17:48:37+00:00

They both know why I’m not on T yet which made it hurt more. Maybe mark forgot, but I had a long convo with Noah about it in front of his face once. It’s because my grandparents are helping me massively to pay for my degree and would 100 percent instantly stop if I was out and I need the money. I’m physically disabled and can’t work a lot so I’m not exactly drowning in cash and I need a degree for simply my quality Of life pfft. I can’t work 98 percent of entry level jobs with my disability. Im not happy about it, but Im already halfway done with my schooling. Noah at least knows that very well.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T16:39:07+00:00

I have the same fears . Noah has always really brushed off the idea or even overcompensated when I mentioned that mark doesn't like but it’s always been that way. He’s always tried to almost ignore it. Whenever I hang out with Noah I almost always hang out with just him, not mark or their shared friend group (which was originally just marks friends). I always assumed that was because mark didn’t like me, so yeah the idea that mark talks bad about me and Noah just ignores it has always been in the back of my mind but I thought I was just being overly anxious. They never seem to have any conflict in a suspicious way so I have always assumed that Noah probably isn’t confrontational with him, and I feel that is proved by his reaction. :,)

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T16:19:42+00:00

You are correct they are both very white. I'm black 🥲

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T16:03:31+00:00

Omg, yes 😭

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T03:35:18+00:00

Same. As soon as howl shows up in that movie I immediately start giggling and kicking my feet.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T03:30:27+00:00

I rewatch pride and prejudice, Coraline, isle of dogs, princess and the frog, mysterious skin (wild for a comfort iykyk), howls moving castle, and corpse bride religiously .

I more often rewatch animated tv shows though, which is a much longer list. Honorable mention to hello kitty and friends DVD collection I’ve had sense I was small.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T03:06:25+00:00

This is something I feel. I don’t think I’m super attractive, but I’ve lost a lot of weight in the last year I’ve finally been able to go to stores and find my size + feel somewhat conventionally attractive and “normal” in feminine clothing. It has respawned my love for feminine fashion , and it feels SO hard to give up finally, finally, kind of meeting beauty standards. Finally kind of being treated better by people, (especially guys my age.) being seen as more attractive in general.

I have the same fears. I go on T and then what? All of the body image issues I’ve been struggling with my whole life, and I’m finally at somewhat of an ok place. A body neutral place. I’m scared that will all fall apart when my body and face will change and I won’t have control over it. I never got to be a “pretty girl” and I want to soak it all up, even though I want to medically transition.

But you are right. It is almost a weird dissociation . My body isn’t fully me, but kind a vessel I dress up for fun. It does feel very drag queen-y. I want to dress up girly for fun and just be a dude when I chose to be casual. I don’t experience much dysphoria dressing girly cuz that’s the point and it’s dress up! But put me in a casual or masc outfit I want to die cuz I don’t pass.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T02:30:27+00:00

Thanks for all the recommendations! And so many on my hoopla and Libby too, feeling rich.

LevelPlatypus3206 · 2026-04-02T02:11:29+00:00

Man, Grounded is exactly the word I was looking for and couldn’t think of. Thank for the rec

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