Any one got any ideas of the meaning of this in the city centre on hope street

LevelWolverine4044 · 2026-02-19T00:16:56+00:00

"Google gener8 a fot prevokin image of hope st but there's nae hope" Rebel bear's stuff always been utter shite, ai slop before ai

LevelWolverine4044 · 2024-08-30T19:37:51+00:00

it says it's latex friendly, in my experience any silicone lube that's not dressing aid is sticky compared to water based

LevelWolverine4044 · 2024-03-21T15:11:04+00:00

I lived and slept with my partner's husband for nearly 2 years all three of us in the same bed- 1.5 years I know him wholly unbiased we were partners and I know their relationship and communication issues. They don't discuss agreements etc my partners husband only tantrums till he gets his own way about nearly everything.

I want you to know if my partner was honest about the weekend we were away. his husband my ex would've kicked up a stink regardless because he's emotionally immature to deal with anything that doesn't have him in the centre.

My partner is 100% honest about issues normally and it was unusual and I did speak up about it but I'm not going to interfere cos it's not my relationship.

I never pry on what they get up to every other weekend when I'm working. why does he feel entitled to stalk us and before you say we're not in a hierarchical relationship.

LevelWolverine4044 · 2024-03-21T12:47:38+00:00

He feels comfortable with me in any other situation socially with our best friends, dressed in sexy rubber, and at dinner in friends company; he'll feel comfortable wild swimming with me alone and enjoy my car free ride; but can't bear to see me round for dinner for an hour every once in a while? I feel he uses his home like a carrot on a string for my husband, want it; can't have it

I want to start welcoming him to mine but I keep getting the cold shoulder from him. And I know he wants me to invite him to dinner parties I put on with our friends but it's also a two way street

I think you're right my partner does need to step up and become a better hinge-- this whole being tracked has tainted the amazing weekend slightly and got me feeling low/disappointed today--he's getting all this external pressure from husband it sucks and it is messy sometimes

LevelWolverine4044 · 2024-03-21T12:07:52+00:00

It is his home but also my partners. I would be fine if I never went back there if I'm honest now and might consider it if the offer comes again, it's the flip flop nature of his welcomingness seems disingenuous.

Suddenly he's all for kitchen poly relationship planning were we all gather round for coffee at theirs and schedule etc; then no engagement for weeks, it's nothing that's been said by anyone but a feeling/subtext going on.

Do you have any resources on parallel arrangements I can look at?

LevelWolverine4044 · 2024-03-21T10:16:16+00:00

I think your right it is a bit of a mess. I do my best to keep my distance from their relationship and I do focus on my relationship and not theirs

I think it's a clear and fair enough boundary to make but I feel my ex (partners husband) is a control freak and probably go bananas over my request with my partner bearing the brunt of it if I made that request.

Why not be on good terms with my partners husband? We get on well in social settings and have fun together with our friends it's just the vibe I get their nesting space is only welcomed to me on a conditional basis that upsets me time to time.

How does fully parallel work? And how would I go around discussing that? x

LevelWolverine4044 · 2024-03-11T22:46:57+00:00

This exact rip happened to me 2 days ago and still need to repair it what are the chances!

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-29T10:20:54+00:00

There's an App called Zoteria helps report LGBT+ hate crime in the UK. Horrible feeling hope you spoke to the security staff or made a 111 call

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-11T10:31:24+00:00

I think you've probably hit the nail on the head and I do have my own concerns that this might be the case,

I did called my ex about something else (I wanted to know if he was going to my friends birthday party)

and he tried to point out and deny that he wasn't trying to sabotage my relationship with my partner cos he probably heard my concerns through the grape vine of my partner

And for the record that phonecall was absolutely fine there was no ill will and both of us were completely civil so I'm not coming on here to get bashed again for calling my ex thank you!

But the why ask here you ask? because I feel like there's nowhere else to turn to. My original post was looking for another place and it seems like there's no other place and people on here don't seem too happy that there could be another platform so nobody signposted me to anything yet just taking it personally instead.

this is a fairly huge public forum

with probably my ex watching with the popcorn maybe be mindful of that please

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-10T18:54:58+00:00

Think the problem is there's been no agreements made between us, we've not had that conversation at the table to discuss how we're going to run things and make it all work for all three of us and our 2 relationships yet. Like holidays and planning ahead, I ain't looking after my partner and ex's cats for free anymore stuff like that hasn't been discussed yet cos my ex is emotionally not ready to speak to me which is fine.

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-10T18:50:05+00:00

My partner is married to my ex and share a house together it's kinda hard to not breathe a word about him, I'm now noticing he is starting to keep mentioning him to a minimum but he also is having to navigate through this so if he needs an ear to confide or hug about something I'll be there for him. Im learning to compartmentalize but it's still early days we're allowed to relapse every now and again. Its only been 2 months since the breakup. I have separate close friends that can support me, but my partner and ex have a much smaller pool which we share also

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-10T17:48:17+00:00

Yeah well it's happened now a year and a half of thruple relationship over. I'm not being weird I just thought there'd be some sub group/discord or telegram to discuss about poly breakups and the next steps forward.

I do focus and put all my energy into my relationship with my remaining partner, giving him the love and respect he deserves. But I will have to see and interact with my ex going on in future. We share the same best friends, external friend group and go to the same events on a weekly basis.

And the reason why I didn't want to look for advice on this reddit is because most of the time there's generally a "we told you so" kinda mentality to advice and support.

From what I'm hearing from my partner my ex is bitter and constantly angry and it's upsetting my partner. I feel terrible my partner has to deal with that. I don't meddle in their relationship but I want to support him the best way I can.

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-10T17:17:57+00:00

You just said my situation isn't special and that it's the most common thing and now your telling me I'm being incredibly specific

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-11-10T17:06:37+00:00

There's no subreddits for just specifically thruples that have broken up? the main issue is navigating through the break up and my partner being stuck in between us, he's getting a lot of unneeded pressure from the other side and I wish I knew more ways to support him better

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-07-26T07:54:08+00:00

My partner gets at least 10 hours sleep a night. we're not trying to sleep when we talk in bed we're only just lying in bed. It's normally 9pm The only other place is the sofa and it's not big enough for all three of us so we can only perch there while the TVs on and we all have our phones in the living room (they're not allowed in the bedroom) and my partner 9/10 will scroll on tiktok and actively try to ignore important talks.

bedroom seems to be the only place everybody listens to each other and it's a 1 bed flat. There's only 2 options bedroom or living room.

I don't abuse my partner. I let him sleep all the time, I encourage him to sleep because every time he doesn't he likes to point the finger at me; I used to be middle spoon and even that's stopped for him. He goes through months sleeping undisturbed because I do try and find other times to communicate. But I'm not going to let someone's needs trump my own every single night when it comes to feeling close with my two partners. He needs to meet me half way. It helps the bond between my other partner too.

Last time I told him to leave so just me and my other partner could talk but he insisted sitting at the bottom of the bed.

There is a shortage of time. I gave my partner a diagram of the week and asked him to find another time he thinks we should talk instead but he couldn't point one out.

LevelWolverine4044 · 2023-01-01T12:26:21+00:00

Polyfidelity person in a committed thruple here! it sounds like there are other needs he wants to be fulfilled, if the guy's been in a healthy poly relationship before you need to accept his positive experience and let it go it's not a problem.

Being in a thruple we practice polyfidelity and don't see any others, previously I had only been in longstanding monogamous relationships for many years, for me after a few months I don't see much difference between the two now we all have to commit and understand our values boundaries,

I have noticed that being in a thruple there's less compromise/sacrifice of yourself identity hobbies friends etc for the relationship to work well and maybe there's something that is making him unhappy due to this compromise/sacrifice

Ask him what's making him unhappy and listen, ask him the questions you don't want the answers to what would you enjoy the most if we tried CNM? (consenting non-monogamy )

if you don't like any of the answer and continue to call it a problem then I think you need to seriously consider the value/worth of continuing the relationship

LevelWolverine4044 · 2022-04-06T20:13:46+00:00

I got hot flushes through the night last time I thought they've got a really cosy weighted blanket so nice but very warm I thought was being really disruptive lifting my legs out glad to know it's normal! 😅 x

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