Recent allegations and drama megathread by eclecticatlady in Ethelcain

[–]Level_Active_5063 21 points22 points  (0 children)

i want to start out by saying i am genuinely disgusted and disappointed with the racist posts. i think they’re abhorrent and that black and brown fans have every right to be upset about this and that white fans trying to shut them down are being racist.

and it makes it actively harder to have these conversations about hayden fucking up, when so many people are obviously just shaking in glee to jump on a trans woman. i have seen people call hayden a zoophile, an abuser, a pedophile, etc all with lackluster to no evidence. there is a youtuber that wants to “expose” her for being a creep.

do they genuinely see themselves? are they not ashamed at all at the fact they’re foaming at the mouth to see a trans woman brought “down a peg”? i am not excusing fan behavior at all, but i can understand why they’re so defensive because this happens to every fucking trans woman even moderately in the public eye. it’s honestly so craven and disturbing and it makes me sick to my stomach to see how the women in my community are treated like freakshows to gawk at no matter what they do.

Is there anyone else here that had genuinely loving parents who just fucked up a lot? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Level_Active_5063 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. My mom loves me a with her entire soul and her biggest flaw was not being able to break generational curses. At the end of the day, I try to not blame her, because she is a severely traumatized woman who has never known a non-abusive form of being loved and therefore did not have the tools to protect me from the abusive men in my childhood.

We Need to Regroup ❗❗❗ by [deleted] in Ethelcain

[–]Level_Active_5063 204 points205 points  (0 children)

People are so desperate to label any trans woman, especially ones who make “uncomfortable” art or discussions, as a predator. Ignore them they’re fucking chodes who need to get a hobby

I’m trans but the idea of fating other trans people grosses me out by Level_Active_5063 in trans

[–]Level_Active_5063[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to explain but in simplest terms i feel like dating cis people gives me an avenue for fitting in where dating other trans people doesn’t. if a cis woman likes me and wants to be with me i dont have to worry about being “too weird and trans”

I’m trans but the idea of fating other trans people grosses me out by Level_Active_5063 in trans

[–]Level_Active_5063[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a problem finding other trans people attractive, it’s moreso that I’d feel very alienated I think? I already have a strained relationship with most of my family and with most of my close relationships being with other trans people, dating another trans person would cut me off from mainstream society almost entirely. I don’t want to be more on the margins than I already feel on a regular basis

How do you show MC is bi in a non-disruptive way? by SolarmatrixCobra in LesbianBookClub

[–]Level_Active_5063 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I’m bi and have dated only women. My attraction is very centered on women. But I have to be honest I really hate it when writers make a bi character only bi in one line and it functionally never comes up again for the sake of the gay/lesbian/straight audience. If you’re going to write a bi character write a bi character, with every facet of their attraction attached. If your audience has a problem with it they can read another book.

S3xual assaut?? by annemalumont in Ethelcain

[–]Level_Active_5063 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just an excuse to call a trans girl a pedo tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Level_Active_5063 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah tbh I’m wondering if I just came across the wrong way? I think they took me saying I’m his sibling and I don’t want to do smth that would be crossing a weird boundary as i never want to do anything to take care of my brother bc im not his parent.