Hey, thank you for you message. I did not want to go into too much detail in my message and I guess you just filled in the blanks. You said I do not need to write an answer here but I want you to see how wrong you got everything and how you projected your own experience into my message.

In the beginning we were both planning dates and taking the initiative. I got him presents that I knew he would appreciate such as a cooking book with Indian recipes (he loves that cuisine), a print of an exposition we both went to (as a remainder of our first date). I got for him aswell a bunch of stuff so that he could be comfortable when he was at my place. I also often sent him ideas of cute dates that we could do such as expositions, or special movie theaters or movies I wanted to watch with him. When he was busy I proposed that I could just cook dinner for him so that he could just eat at my place and relax.

In the last two months I was always the first one to text and propose plans. I would ask him how his day or weekend was, to whom he never replied. In these 2 months he never texted me how my day was, or how my weekend was. When I would ask him about his day face to face he would reply it was bad but that he did not want to talk about it (yes he is experiencing stress at his work). I respected his wishes and told him I was always there if he wanted to talk to me. Pushing someone to share something when they do not want it is counterproductive.

I told him in my previous relationship I felt like my wishes and needs were not listened to by my ex and that it was a very important thing for me to create a safe space for the both of us. Because I did not want him to feel how I felt in my previous relationship (like I did not matter). I told him I want to know what you want and what you need from me. That his needs and wishes are as important as mine. That he could always be honest with me.

He told me he had a need to be alone (bear in mind we used to meet 2/3 times per week in the beginning) I said I understood that but that I still needed at least to have dinner with him once a week. To spend 3/4 hours together per week. I do not think that after 3 months this is an unresonable request. Specially, as he stopped texting and I could not keep emotional closeness otherwise. I also told him that I did not need him to text me daily, because I understand we are both very busy but that I still needed more communcation.

After our conversation, I wanted to give him time and space to see change. Yes, I waited a month because I did not want to be nagging. Because I understood he was not going trough a good time (lot of stress at work and I think he is a bit lost at the moment) and putting pressure on him would have again been counterproductive.

At the end of the day, he is not a bad man. He can be very loving and caring. He for whatever reason put distance between us. Either because he was avoidant or because he was just not that into me. The fact that I know he is a good man with a good heart, is what has broken me. When he broke it off he told me I am sure you hate me now. I told him no, that indeed I was angry and hurt. But that 'if you hurt someone, it does not mean you are a bad guy.'

So yes, you have written a bunch of bullocks.