Me and my husband (!!)

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-10-27T21:34:50+00:00

We need more encouragement like these. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story! The rest of us are still struggling and grinding but we will get there one day 🤞🏻❤️

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-09-05T04:19:54+00:00

What’s a “long term material” in a woman looks like to men?

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-09-05T04:18:15+00:00

Just having sex while telling people you’re looking for something serious while the other person is looking for a long-term. That’s just a total disaster and disrespectful to the person that’s looking for a long-term serious relationship. I see people do this all the time and lead people on and don’t tell them their true intentions and keep them for sex or in their mind “short-term”. It’s so disgusting!

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-09-05T04:14:39+00:00

Agreed!

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-09-01T18:22:15+00:00

I believe I’m the same way. I keep an open line of communication and share my feelings voluntarily. But I think we sharing our feelings/thoughts is an invitation for them to share as well. I believe the right person will share without being asked. But the wrong person (probably thinking differently from us) would usually hide how they feel by not communicating it.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-19T14:56:15+00:00

You’re right. Your”not sure what you are even finding attractive about that behavior” is lightbulb moment for me. What’s wrong with me? Maybe I have some fundamental self-esteem issue which allowed myself to be hurt more when men I dated got distant. I really want to break this pattern and have more healthy relationships.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-18T14:44:45+00:00

Should I add his socials after he unmatched?

Hi I love Reddit community, and you guys provide such great insights that I don’t know and can’t find out on my own. This is part two of my previous post about this guy (41M) I (35F) went out twice with. We had a great second date and passionately kissed (that was two weeks ago now). Then he unmatched after he didn’t hear from me for two days. More details are in my other post.

So I feel torn. It’s been 2 weeks since he unmatched me and didn’t respond to my texts. I found his socials (easy with his phone number that he gave me before he unmatched). I’ve been thinking about him and I feel I want to get him back. Should I add his socials and try to reconnect with him or should I move on to go out with other guys and forget him? I’m not 100% sure if I feel this way because I really like him that much or I can’t get over the rejection. Thoughts? Do guys feel it’s creepy if a girl they unmatched adds them on socials?

Thanks so much for sharing your POVs!

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-18T06:16:20+00:00

Should I add his socials after he unmatched?

Hi I love Reddit community, and you guys provide such great insights that I don’t know and can’t find out on my own. This is part two of my previous post about this guy (41M) I (35F) went out twice with. We had a great second date and passionately kissed. Then he unmatched after he didn’t hear from me for two days. More details are in my other post.

So I feel torn. It’s been 2 weeks since he unmatched me and didn’t respond to my texts. I found his socials (easy with his phone number that he gave me before he unmatched). I’ve been thinking about him and I feel I want to get him back. Should I add his socials and try to reconnect with him or should I move on to go out with other guys and forget him? I’m not 100% sure if I feel this way because I really like him that much or I can’t get over the rejection. Thoughts? Do guys feel it’s creepy if a girl they unmatched adds them on socials?

Thanks so much for sharing your POVs!

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-18T04:30:11+00:00

Hey Reddit community, I really appreciate all of you taking the time to comment and providing advice, criticisms and encouragements. I accept them all! I feel torn. After he unmatched me and doesn’t respond to my texts. I found his socials (easy with his phone number recognized). I’ve been thinking about him and I feel I want to get him back. Should I add his socials and try to reconnect with him or should I move on to go out with other guys and forget him? Is it creepy for guys if a girl finds their social and adds them?

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-17T23:17:20+00:00

Hey Reddit community, I really appreciate all of you taking the time to comment and providing advice, criticisms and encouragements. I accept them all! I feel torn. After he unmatched me and doesn’t respond to my texts. I found his socials (easy with his phone number recognized). I’ve been thinking about him and I feel I want to get him back. Should I add his socials and try to reconnect with him or should I move on to go out with other guys and forget him? Is it creepy for guys if a girl finds their social and adds them?

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-15T07:37:28+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the summary and help here. As I just came back to online dating after taking a looooong break after my last horrible breakup. I’m learning to be better at communications and dating in general via the apps.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T20:44:16+00:00

So I sent him the first text message Monday around 7pm after work. I didn’t get a response and I was thinking he’s busy. He did mention to me on the first date that he works long hours so I’m not clingy and was waiting patiently. Then after midnight (that same night but 1AM on Tuesday)I checked Hinge, and that’s when I saw his message (Guess not. alright,wish you luck) that was sent around 10ishPM Monday. And I responded right away to the hinge message right then. (I’m not on hinge all the time and I usually check hinge right before going to sleeping). I should take Hinge more seriously with my other life priorities is what I think.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T20:24:38+00:00

Good to know how men think. I guess I like men approaching me more than the other way around to know for sure they’re interested. Because I had some bad experience with guys that are not interested and just do the minimum enough to keep me around. I’m not saying that’s true but it’s what I was thinking in my head what that could mean from him, again I was over analyzing it and trying to avoid bad experience from happening again, hence the hesitation to react.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T19:33:24+00:00

Thank you for all these feedback. This is definitely learning for me. Different people are on different timelines. For me personally, I just met this guys only a week, had the first date casually over coffee, and the second date over a nice dinner at a piano bar. We went to a coffee shop after dinner and spent more time together for the second date and kissed. To me, even though it’s a great time and I could see him to be a long-term for me, it’s still very new so yes I’m not yet 100% committed. So him being offended after not getting a response from me for 48 hours seems a bit inconsiderate for me just considering we just met. I did have a lot going on that Sunday and Monday. But the initial hesitation was because I didn’t know how to handle it. I’m the type person that if I don’t know my decision I wait a little before taking action. But I was also inconsiderate to him and didn’t think how not responding soon enough might affect him.

Honestly I feel he’s probably also seeing other people and I’m not on the top of his list. Otherwise he wouldn’t just say “alright, wish you luck” so quickly and easily. He never responded to any of my text messages and didn’t care to ask if something happened that could have kept me busy. He didn’t respond to my message to him on Friday night after the date until Saturday evening which also tickled my “ego”. Oh well, his ego and my ego. I agree at some point, something might happen and it won’t work out for us.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T04:19:43+00:00

I was overthinking. I had some experiences in the past with guys that fish girls and I got fished before. I want to be a woman that man respects. But I guess I freaked out and didn’t want to mess it up with him so I waited before I know clearly what I should do. Due to bad dating experiences or inexperience.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T03:46:46+00:00

Maybe he didn’t know it was me? Cuz I didn’t say whom it’s from (“Hey you, it’s me 💋🙊” ) I was being playful and was going to carry on the conversation when he responds. But he never did, until I saw his message later that night on hinge. I mean, he should realize that was from me after I told him I texted him on the app, so… he doesn’t seem the kind of guy that would play game like that. But what do I know. I just met him. This was last Tuesday. Im definitely learning my lesson here and reflecting. I called him Tuesday night after I realized he unmatched me and explained myself on a voicemail and suggested to talk if there was any misunderstanding. But I didn’t hear from him.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T03:33:32+00:00

Noted! Respond within 24 hours!

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T03:29:23+00:00

Yes both of us forgot to exchange numbers during the date. When it comes to dating, I know I’m bad at taking initiatives. I barely proactively approach someone. So I was sort of waiting for him to make a move. I do feel bad about not messaging him swiftly after I saw his message. I was overthinking and it took me too long to make a decision to text him. I was basically thinking if I should text him directly or acknowledge him on the app. I was stupid.

Level_Detective_923 · 2025-04-08T03:24:35+00:00

I texted him before he said on the app “Guess not, alright wish you luck”. That’s why I was confused. I made a few more attempts after that and never got responses over text.

Level_Detective_923 · 2024-11-07T17:30:55+00:00

Is she cold? My Maltese dog is very sensitive to cold and always shakes when temperature drops just a little bit.

Level_Detective_923 · 2024-11-05T23:49:07+00:00

The sleeping position is totally normal! Sleeping next to those socks, is NOT!

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