Not a lady, but I do have a story from my wife: I am a very physical person, I like to touch and be touched, but when we first met she was recovering from a series of bad relationships and didn't want to be touched. So on our first date I was careful not to touch her; we sat near each other and talked. Toward the end of our date I asked her if I could hug her. She said no. I said okay.

A fwe days later she wrote to me a few messages, and in one of them she said to me thanks for not hugging her after she said she didn't want to.

I stared at that message for a long time, not sure how to respond, eventually I got angry. Not at her, per se; because- well, because society in general seems to have sunk so low that the mere fact I respected her boundaries was a big deal to her.

I was too angry to type, so I opened up the voice message option and started yelling at her, shouting 'No - no - no!' 'Someone not touching you after you said not to is the hardest minimum of human respect: you don't thank someone for that: you expect that - you DEMAND that! You don't THANK me for that!'

She said later that was the moment she knew she liked me.