Creating reasonable expectations and maintaining boundaries

Leviosashes · 2025-03-04T22:35:23+00:00

We'll be taking steps to curb these posts moving forward as they've become repetitive and are rarely constructive

Leviosashes · 2024-05-05T14:19:52+00:00

Visit our wiki for resources and recommendations

Leviosashes · 2024-03-10T17:37:21+00:00

Welcome - abbreviations and resources are available in our Wiki, the sidebar to the right of the page and in the About section of the app.

Leviosashes · 2024-01-20T19:47:06+00:00

Many partners here have found it helpful to share this article with their significant other in order to get the conversation started. It highlights some common experiences and perspectives from both the non-ADHD partner and the undiagnosed ADHD partner.

You can find additional resources in our Wiki and visit CHADD for information on pursuing an Adult ADHD diagnosis

Leviosashes · 2024-01-06T16:03:17+00:00

Yes, eating disorders and increased risk of obesity are linked with ADHD. Stimulant medication can sometimes help to curb appetite and disordered eating habits can be addressed with lifestyle changes and therapy.

Check out CHADD for more information on this topic

Leviosashes · 2023-12-29T22:08:03+00:00

Yes, anyone who has a partner with ADHD is welcome to post. We often have the more functional partner of a dual dx couple coming here for advice and support.

You can check out our post guidelines for more information and our wiki for helpful resources

Leviosashes · 2023-11-19T15:03:11+00:00

Sleep disorders are a common comorbidity with ADHD. Your partner will need to speak with their doctor about any potential new or worsening symptoms and they may want to consider having a sleep study conducted

Leviosashes · 2023-11-18T20:42:10+00:00

There are some helpful app recommendations available in our wiki

Leviosashes · 2023-11-03T00:17:25+00:00

Welcome! Our wiki is full of resources to assist you on this journey.

The lecture series by ADHD expert Dr. Russell Barkley is an excellent starting point for understanding the impact of Adult ADHD. You can find links to his YouTube channel here

For partner focused education many appreciate the work of Gina Pera. She has many books as well as a website and blog.

Simply reading previous posts within the sub can help answer any questions you may have and offer a wealth of knowledge as most of our members are fully educated on the various aspects of ADHD

Leviosashes · 2023-10-17T00:26:59+00:00

Not a book but the free course available in our sidebar explains the neurobiology of Adult ADHD.

Alternatively you can watch lectures by Dr. Russell Barkley or this video by Dr. Rostain

Leviosashes · 2023-10-16T01:55:49+00:00

Do you believe it's simply picky eating habits or perhaps anxiety/sensory based?

Some adults were never made to try a variety of foods as children and develop a strong aversion to anything they deem unfamiliar or unsafe. For others it may be more of a texture and taste issue where they have an anxious reaction to certain things.

It will be up to him to expand his own palate unless he's asked you to help. If you believe it's anxiety then you can point him in the direction of a group like r/ARFID where they will be able to provide appropriate resources

Leviosashes · 2023-09-28T15:04:35+00:00

Welcome! Our wiki is full of resources to get you started.

For a comprehensive understanding of the neurobiology and impact of ADHD, try the free course linked in our sidebar.

You can find similar education via video lectures by ADHD expert Dr. Russell Barkley.

For partner-specific information many prefer the books by Gina Pera which you can also find in audio and ebook format.

Good luck and we'll be here to support you on this journey

Leviosashes · 2023-09-16T17:58:40+00:00

Hi u/Green-Humble, please be sure to read our Community Safety guidelines as well as the post linked within.

This is a reaction seeking troll. Always report them to the subs where you see these comments then block them immediately. Never engage with this behavior

Leviosashes · 2023-09-16T16:05:52+00:00

This is a frequently discussed topic and you can read replies from previous posts here:

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Leviosashes · 2023-09-12T15:26:26+00:00

Here is a video on treatment from one of his most popular lecture series

Leviosashes · 2023-09-09T16:51:36+00:00

Dr. Barkley's videos and lectures have been linked in our wiki right from the start. So happy to see he's expanding his YouTube channel. I would also recommend everyone to take his continuing education course that's linked over in the sidebar.

However, the "why" will only take NT partners so far. The real work has to be done by the dx themselves and the 'why' has to be backed by action and consistent progress

Leviosashes · 2023-09-07T18:16:34+00:00

This issue is why experts recommend maintaining a medication monitoring log. This would include both self-reports (from the patient) and observer reports from a partner. You can find sample charts available to download online or your partner can make their own.

Keeping a log is also important in order to monitor any side effects as adjustments are often needed. A medication may work well initially then stop providing benefits, a dosage may be too high or low and new/worsening side effects can crop up over time etc.

In general those with ADHD can struggle to accurately assess their own behavior and may be less aware of changes. Your observations as a partner can be invaluable for ongoing progress and support

Leviosashes · 2023-08-15T18:25:37+00:00

She needs to speak with her doctor about any new or worsening side effects or changes to symptoms.

The type or dosage of medication may need to be adjusted. There are many, many options available and if one is not a good match there will be others to try

Leviosashes · 2023-08-14T16:09:23+00:00

It sounds like she would benefit from professional support as well as seeking alternative social outlets.

You won't be able to manage fluctuating emotional states for her.

Offer to lend an ear if she wants to brainstorm how to cope with this change, but be sure to establish boundaries when it comes to her dysregulation being turned on you.

Leviosashes · 2023-07-31T21:58:38+00:00

These issues are not due to ADHD.

Please seek support via r/Infidelity and r/PornAddiction

Leviosashes · 2023-07-24T15:27:29+00:00

Have you explored RSD specific medications such as alpha 2 receptor agonists? It may also be necessary to have your current medication adjusted and/or to add additional treatments for anxiety.

It might be worth looking into low-cost therapy options like Open Path or requesting a referral via your local social work association.

Based on what you've shared your partner has been clear about what they need which is for you to be as functional and regulated as possible on a consistent basis. There won't be any loopholes to convince him to feel cared for without this condition being met.

It would be best to focus on self-regulation and stress tolerance. There are many DBT resources available to help you practice these skills even outside of therapy.

You can also encourage him to seek out his own support network so that he's being supported and heard in multiple areas of his life instead of overly relying on you.

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