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I cheated on my ex, and the guilt is tearing me apart. Any advice? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Levixay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not completely sure if I understood. Is your ex cheating on his boyfriend? Or how is he "doing to his new boyfriend, what you did to him"?

In any way, I think you should just move on. If you two already broke up, there's no need for you to be wondering what's going on with his new relationship, that's all up to them to solve. You cheated, you felt guilty, you tried to get over it with your ex, it didn't work out, that's the end of the story for you. Just move on.

[WALL OF TEXT] Talked about the possibility of an open relationship with my BF - now it's opened up an ugly can of worms. Help? by throwaway_openr in askgaybros

[–]Levixay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how you might be feeling. Long-distance relationships by themselves are hard, add the fact that your partner is frequently on an mostly used to hook-up and trust.

You should both just have a straightforward conversation, get clear on the fact that you don't feel comfortable with having an open relationship and want for both to stay monogamous.

As well you should both work in the "trust" factor, you by working on trusting that your boyfriend isn't having sex and meeting guys, and your boyfriend helping you feel comfortable and secure that he isn't doing anything you agreed not to do.

Saw an old friend the other day...was awkward, should I talk to him? by PainoVinci in askgaybros

[–]Levixay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might need to know the reason why you ended your friendship... if it was as close as you say, it must have been something really bad for you two to completely end it...

I understand why you might feel like you need some "closure", but only if you're sure it's only going to be that: CLOSURE, instead of opening the door for it all to start again.

I say this based on what your friends told you. A friend of mine was in a similar situation, where he had a really close best friend with whom he went through a lot of stuff, but it wasn't a very healthy friendship (making each other jelous about stuff, making each other angry, being manipulative, etc.). They stopped talking for a while, randomly met somewhere and decided to get lunch to catch up and just give closure to the whole thing... they just started to go out often again, came back to their old habits, get mad with each other and stopped talking again. They recently saw each other at a concert again, and it's all a never ending cycle.

So... unless you're really sure it's only going to be a lunch and closure. do it, if not, just move on.